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AIBU to be frustrated by repeated wolf-themed gifts?

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Herecomes · 14/05/2026 15:31

I am an animal lover, I am especially a dog person meaning I like wolves too if we’re talking wildlife. My mum has taken this to mean I’m obsessed with wolves - I’m really not.

Every year at Christmas she buys me something wolf related … it started off as huge framed pictures (often featuring native Americans too 😂) and in the end I had so many massive pictures piled up the spare room that I made a point of telling her I am no longer buying wall pictures as I don’t like a lot of stuff on the walls and I’ve ran out of space. She got the hint and stopped buying me pictures … instead she started buying me huge blankets, fleece bed covers etc, again featuring wolves howling at the moon, native Americans, wolf eyes staring out of dark trees etc 🤦‍♀️

I ended up with a big pile of fleece blankets that were just sat there collecting dust. In the end I asked her if she wanted any blankets as I’m getting rid of loads as I have far too many and don’t use them. She got the hint.

Now … as my birthday this year was approaching she asked me what size clothing I was. I told her. I joked to DH that I’ll probably end up with a wolf fleece jacket for my birthday … I was wrong … I got 3 wolf fleece jackets for my birthday.

I don’t get it!!! I’m in my 30s, she sees me every week … surely she can see that I don’t wear stuff like this?? It was funny at first but now its getting frustrating. She gets upset and offended easily so I’ve tried to treat lightly but come on …

What would you do?? Or do I just carry on accepting this stuff and lying that I like it to keep the peace?

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Herecomes · 14/05/2026 15:43

HeddaGarbled · 14/05/2026 15:39

I’d just say well before the next gift-giving occasion: “I’ve got enough wolf stuff now, thanks”.

Wolf stuff 😂😂 that phrase alone makes me laugh. Don’t get me wrong, I like wolves … in the sense that if I saw them in the wild I’d be pretty excited but not to the point where I sit there thinking about them whilst having a cup of tea.

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 14/05/2026 15:42

So use your words and tell her! Saves her wasting money on something you dislike!

Herecomes · 14/05/2026 15:41

7238SM · 14/05/2026 15:39

There is a whole facebook page dedicated to those hideous wolf coats.

You need to be clear with your mum, not just hint, but be blunt that you really don't like wolf items and to stop buying them. Would she take offence if you made suggestions of things you would like instead?

Im actually on that group 😂😂 the wolf fleece society? 🤣 that’s why I joked to DH that that’s what I’ll end up with, you couldn’t make it up 😂

She takes offence so easily 🤦‍♀️

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HeddaGarbled · 14/05/2026 15:39

I’d just say well before the next gift-giving occasion: “I’ve got enough wolf stuff now, thanks”.

7238SM · 14/05/2026 15:39

There is a whole facebook page dedicated to those hideous wolf coats.

You need to be clear with your mum, not just hint, but be blunt that you really don't like wolf items and to stop buying them. Would she take offence if you made suggestions of things you would like instead?

TheGreatDownandOut · 14/05/2026 15:38

I’m sorry to have a laugh at your expense OP but this did make me giggle!

Cant you get in there, in advance of birthday’s and Xmas and say “ooh my birthday is coming up, if you’d like any ideas I could do with <insert more suitable gift here”

Breadcat24 · 14/05/2026 15:36

@Herecomes I had this with a friend clearing his mother's house- she collected cat figurines. He offered I said no, he pushed, I said no.
Then I said "I like actual cats not things made to look like cats or with pictures of cats on"
It stopped

HoppityBun · 14/05/2026 15:34

Bizarre. But you’ll have to tell her that you’re not keen on wolves. I know the fleeces you mean. I wouldn’t want one, let alone three