Turning up to church wedding just because you can. Would you?

What is so sad about many of these posts objecting to people attending weddings, is that what they are objecting to is community. They seem to not want to be part of a community, even as they wish to use community resources and benefit from the labour of that community.

The Bride has no right to deny anyone from entering a church to attend a public event like a wedding.

My mum is like a dog with a bone when she gets an idea .
She insisted she would sit at the back with 2 primary school aged children who are well behaved.
I would have never heard the end of it if I’d said “ no “
I know the bride well , it wasn’t a child free wedding and she’s a very calm and laid back person .
So in those circumstances I thought that was acceptable

Random people going to watch someone they don’t know getting married is strange .
Neighbours and others who know you but aren’t going to the wedding reception sitting at the back of the church is fine .
I was invited to a friend’s daughter’s wedding ( the whole event ) in my old hometown .
So my parents agreed to look after my children but they came to the church and sat at the back because my youngest wanted to see the bride and my mum knew my friend .
In my mind that is fine

It doesn’t matter what fits. The public must be given unhindered access. That is all.

That’s lovely. I think the principle of having it open to all is great.

I never knew that.

One of the differences between a wedding venue and a church, is the size, they tend to be much smaller so no space for the random parishioners or granny's friends to slip in at the back or on the balcony.

Register offices can be the same very small and no space for random.

How does that fit with the law on public event?
Even the Royal weddings those venues are rammed no space for random people who want to enter.

No because weddings and baptisms are boring ! One of the reasons we kept our wedding short and sweet with very few guests.

A funeral, maybe. But only if I knew the deceased and/or was close to someone in the family. Just to pay respects/show support. I’d sit at the back, give my condolences and leave. I wouldn’t go to the wake unless I was asked to.

A hotel or stately home is no different to a church when it comes to a wedding ceremony.

all licensed venues must permit public to enter during the ceremony as a wedding is a matter of public record and the public must have the opportunity to object. That’s a basic requirement to maintain the integrity of the process.

True. I have been to lots of weddings where I knew very few other people. I didn't even know all the people at my own wedding as some of them were friends and relatives of DH that I'd not met before and the same was true for him.
We got married in a Church next to a convent and quite a few of the nuns came through to the service. They'd done the Church flowers for us and I thought it was lovely that they wanted to be part of the service, and they definitely improved the singing. There might have been other people from the parish who came too, I can't really remember, but if there were it certainly wasn't a problem or in any way disruptive.

And I hardly knew anyone at my parents' funerals besides our immediate family. I'd lived in a different part of the country for a long time so I had no idea who most of their friends were. There were lots of people in the Church on both occasions but whether they were people who had close friendships with my parents or members of the congregation who didn't know them that well I neither knew nor really cared. I just thought it was nice that people cared enough to show up.

I don’t think all the guests would know each other.

Lots of people met for the first time at my wedding. Not a church wedding though.

People are not entitled to treat a church as a private venue.

That is the entitlement.

They are making vows before the Lord and His family.

I had a few people at the back of our wedding mass.

some parents of my friends - we’re the parents were only invited in the night time, members of my church (I go to mass weekly) a couple of my mums friends who again were invited to the night but not the wedding breakfast; it felt nice the church was full.

I wouldn’t however take my kids to wedding service if I had specifically been told no kids

Christ is the head of the church.
We are His friends.
We cannot take His house over and alienate His family from it.
A church is not just a pretty building. It is the Lord's house and He is pretty keen on love and sharing.

Where was the Christening held? If in a church, it’s not private. Quite often christenings are held during normal services.

Yes, I think they might. If disgruntled, they might see it as an opportunity for a quiet sign of reconciliation. If extra children, they might just be moving as an automatic unit. In my experience, families also may not know who has been distanced or might be unwelcome, and people with their own idea or no idea of boundaries will turn up .

You do realise that the idea of a Christening is to welcome the child into the family of the Church?

If you are travelling or on holiday and are practising R.C., you will seek out Mass on feast days and holy days of obligation and once a week, or at least some of the time. I can't count how many random churches I've attended.

If a baptism, first communion, confirmation, wedding, or funeral happens as part of the normal Mass, of course Mass-goers will be there. We are one in the Lord's body and invited to His supper. The Mass liturgy asks us to pray for each other right then and there (Roman Catholic.)

You completely and willfully misunderstood. I am not backing down because you have a self-righteous stick up your butt. Be well, my sister in Christ, but trouble me no further.

You’re joining in the celebration of love and lifetime commitment. As long as you’re not intrusive, if it’s at a church, the people wishing them well act as witnesses and support in the wider community. It’s no more poking their nose in someone’s business than wishing them a Happy Christmas. You don’t go to the party, you’re just wishing them joy.

having seen some of the pps on here - it clearly needs spelling out to the Insta Brigade!!

Could have some great fun, all those dress code ‘black and white clothing only’ weddings - and ‘we’ turn up in red!😂