When divorces or separations are filed, I don’t think it makes sense for everything to be left so open and undefined in the early stages.
In situations where there’s tension, imbalance or potential vulnerability, it feels like there should be a clear, immediate default - for example, the husband moving out and some form of temporary protection being put in place where appropriate. At the moment it can feel like people are left to navigate a very unstable situation without any clear starting point, which can make things worse. I’m not saying every situation is the same but I do think a more structured, safety-first approach would make sense.
AIBU?