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Partner’s son’s wedding no invite

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heidi696 · 14/05/2026 06:16

So my partner of about 6 months - his son is getting married in about a months time but he told me I’m not invited. Im thinking it’s because we are only “new” ? I mean it hasn’t really bothered me but he wants me to go with him to pick out a new suit and I’m hearing about it nearly every day obviously my partner is excited and I was thinking it would be nice to get dressed up and be included- even if they didn’t want me in family photos which I would understand of course. Is this normal - not to be invited.

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ThisHeartyQuoter · 14/05/2026 14:10

Do people always have to have their feelings dismissed in this way.

ThisHeartyQuoter · 14/05/2026 14:09

WhosThatGirI · 14/05/2026 14:05

@heidi696because when you split up they won't have a random woman in their wedding photos

The OP doesn't have to be in the wedding photos

ThisHeartyQuoter · 14/05/2026 14:08

Lunde · 14/05/2026 14:02

You likely were not even together when they started planning this wedding

That doesn't mean that extra guests can't be invited at night

BuildbyNumbere · 14/05/2026 14:07

Likely already booked before you even met!

WhosThatGirI · 14/05/2026 14:05

@heidi696because when you split up they won't have a random woman in their wedding photos

EvieBB · 14/05/2026 14:04

heidi696 · 14/05/2026 06:21

Yeh Im just being silly. I wasn’t surprised or anything it’s only now it’s coming up I’m thinking about it. Actually I just remembered - at my own wedding my sister had a boyfriend at the time and he’s in all the photos 🤣they broke up shortly after. There was no question she would be bringing him though.

You're not being silly. I'd be hurt too. 6 months is a decent amount of time and if it was my wedding, there's no question about it - I'd invite you. It seems incredibly rude not to imo

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 14/05/2026 14:03

Why would they invite you after six months? He’s not even your partner at that point - he is your boyfriend. I think it’s odd that you would be bothered tbh

Lunde · 14/05/2026 14:02

You likely were not even together when they started planning this wedding

ThisHeartyQuoter · 14/05/2026 14:01

HoppityBun · 14/05/2026 13:57

The partner’s son is getting married

The partner has asked the OP to look at suits with him, which sounds rather charming to me. He values her opinion and wants her company when he decides.

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I don't think it sounds charming. She's not invited and she's to help him pick a suit. I think it sounds thoughtless

ThisHeartyQuoter · 14/05/2026 14:00

ZoeCM · 14/05/2026 13:47

I thought you were going to say you've been together for five years! Six months is too early. He's still your boyfriend at this point, not your partner.

Is there a specific day that someone changes from a boyfriend to a partner?

A friend of mine (ironically the same one who asked my exes new gf to her wedding) split from her husband. Started seeing someone new almost immediately. Was pregnant within a few months and married the following year.

Was he only her boyfriend even though she was pregnant?

Op does your partner know how you feel?

HoppityBun · 14/05/2026 13:57

Italiangreyhound · 14/05/2026 13:28

I think you are totally normal to want to be invited and I think it is quite unusual for your partner's son to want you to look at suits and not invite you to the wedding.

The partner’s son is getting married

The partner has asked the OP to look at suits with him, which sounds rather charming to me. He values her opinion and wants her company when he decides.

ThisHeartyQuoter · 14/05/2026 13:53

I don't think it's weird at all to wonder why you haven't been invited at least to the reception. When my friend got married my ex who was a mate of her husband started seeing someone a few weeks earlier and she got an evening invite

Lots of people get an invite to bring a guest. I know I did at a few weddings when I was single. I didn't always bring one but the offer was there

ZoeCM · 14/05/2026 13:47

I thought you were going to say you've been together for five years! Six months is too early. He's still your boyfriend at this point, not your partner.

Remindmeofthebabee · 14/05/2026 13:39

We recently got married and if my dad had a new girlfriend of 6 months I wouldn’t have invited her, nor would I refer to her as his partner.

RockingBeebo · 14/05/2026 13:36

I had been with my partner maybe two months when his son got engaged and ten months when he got married. I wasn't invited. I was fine with it. His ex wife was going and I didn't particularly want the stress of the encounter anyway. I think a lot also depends on the size of the wedding, small weddings often don't have plus ones for people who are not very well known to family circle

Italiangreyhound · 14/05/2026 13:34

The groom is perfectly entitled not to invite you but hen why ask you to look at suits with him?

Italiangreyhound · 14/05/2026 13:33

@heidi696
"...his mum is not going - they are estranged and she lives abroad. But yeh it makes sense . I feel awkward to go anyway."

I can see how this might make the situation more difficult but I also think it is sad he is not inviting you.

Do you think your relationship with your partner will last? Does your partner?

six months may not be long to some but some folks get married after 6 months.

Italiangreyhound · 14/05/2026 13:28

I think you are totally normal to want to be invited and I think it is quite unusual for your partner's son to want you to look at suits and not invite you to the wedding.

Applecup · 14/05/2026 13:16

heidi696 · 14/05/2026 06:27

Yeh it makes sense now I think about it. His mother is not going - long story but they are estranged

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Normal not to be invited but at the same time it isn't your job to make sure it all goes smoothly for your partner. Step back and let him get on with the organising.

Isthisthisreallife · 14/05/2026 13:10

It depends what your relationship with his son is like. Have you only met a handful of times or do you see him and wife to be regularly? If the latter, I would have said at the very most, an evening invitation but absolutely not the day. I wouldn’t be spending £60+ on someone that may not be around in the next six months.

GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · 14/05/2026 13:07

My dad has been with my step mum now for ages, but before her there was a string of girlfriends (some who were great, some who were clinically insane). Even the ones who I really liked I wouldn’t have invited to my wedding because it’s awkward. Where are they sitting? They’re gonna be in the photos? So much to consider.

Boohoolol · 14/05/2026 13:04

Partner??? At 6 months you’re just dating

PollyBell · 14/05/2026 12:57

Goldengirl123 · 14/05/2026 12:26

Why hasn’t he asked his son if you can go??

Why on earth would he

Butterme · 14/05/2026 12:50

Goldengirl123 · 14/05/2026 12:26

Why hasn’t he asked his son if you can go??

Why would he do that?

It’s his son’s wedding and he should have no say in who goes and who doesn’t.
If the son wanted to invite OP he would have.

Chances are this wedding was planned before OP was even on the scene and it’s not so simple to just add another guest in, especially one that’s with the grooms father.

There are also likely other members of his family going who are related to his mum and perhaps he doesn’t want to cause any issues.

MegMortimer · 14/05/2026 12:49

As an aside, I once had a serious longstanding relationship with a man from another culture. His sister got married and the wedding was enormous, just about everyone was invited...except, yep, ...except for me. He went without me and I never got over the upset.