Would you go on holiday with your adult daughter?

I wish posters would read all of the updates instead of causing more emotional distress to the op.
Please read all the updates - her mum said no!

Since I was about 16 I went out of my way to not go on holiday with my parents (particularly my mother). I'd even do things like volunteer in care homes so that I had an excuse not to go.

Thankfully I have a much better relationship with my 20yo DS, and I've just been away with him for 10 days - and it was genuinely the best holiday I've ever had - I love traveling with him as an adult, he was incredibly helpful, could share the driving etc and we had a blast!

Definitely go away with your daughter 🙂

Sounds fabulous. I hope my daughters want to hang out with me when they are adults.

I'm 55 and I'm going away with my 23 year old daughter in September for a few days. We did the same thing last year and had an amazing time!

Why would it be odd? Literally everyone I know does this

but u also know people who go alone. Go, enjoy the break

Soooo normal! Enjoy!

Edited because I hadn't read the whole post so my original response was singularly unhelpful.

@wanderlustdiaries if you are feeling really upset and feel a bit overwhelmed by this thread, please get some support in real life if you can. The Samaritans are great for a chat. There’s honestly nothing to feel embarrassed about but yes, it feels very much like rejection right now. Or do go onto relationships board for support, you can link this thread. It will be ok x

I would definitely go away with my Mum and I really hope my daughters would go away with me when they are older.

Ah I'm sorry OP, another one who didn't read the full thread x

I've gone away with my daughter a couple of times. The first time just the two of us, last time dsil came along, and we have 5 days sitting by a beach somewhere hot and sunny planned for September with both my dsis and my dsil.

Dh went away for a walking/ camping holiday with our two ds this year, and they are hoping to do it again as they had a great time.

Absolutely do this.

My Mum Aunt and a similarly aged friend of theirs plus me all used to go on holiday once a year for a week in Nice . We had a brilliant time . I've also gone with just my Mum and always enjoyed it . All of those people are gone now but I've such lovely memories of spending time with them.

@wanderlustdiaries
As someone who has travelled lots on their own, cry tonight then pull up your big girl pants and get out there and enjoy yourself.
Your mum has completely missed a trick. It's her loss.
Where were you thinking of going?
A beach flop or active?
If you're not so keen on travelling alone, look at Explore or similar and join a group trip.

Oh I’m so sorry for my post! I hadn’t read the full thread. My apologies @wanderlustdiaries

im not saying this to make you feel guilty or anything just to add perspective, I was super close with my mum, she passed 13 years ago and wish I would have done more things with her while I could. It doesn’t matter what others may or may not think. If you like spending time with her go and enjoy time with your mum.

Some of these replies are going to be making OP feel worse.

She’s already spent the evening crying.

Please RTFT

OP what these replies do show you though is how lovely you are and how mad your mum is for not wanting to go.

Oh I’m so sorry she has said she doesn’t want to go. You HAVE to still go…you can suit yourself and have a brilliant time doing exactly what you want. It’s not tragic at all! Travelling alone makes you look cool and confident. I’ve been away for European trips alone and I love it. Take a book to read when you have dinner if you don’t like dining alone. Do a walking tour in a group. Maybe stay in a hostel with a social space? You’ll meet other people travelling alone that way if you want company.

I would also love to have had the kind of relationship with my mum where we could have gone away for a weekend or even for a lunch out together. But she is so codependent with my father that it is impossible to do anything with just one of them. Sounds like yours is similar. It’s their loss.

I love going on holiday with my mum and dad! A couple of years ago did a week in Amsterdam with my mum and then my dad flew out for the second week once my mum had gone home. Nice arts and culture week with my mum (who’s pretty classy) and then a fun week of partying and silliness with my dad.

If you get on with your parents then spend time with them while you can.

That sounds amazing and it’s memories of your mom you will have forever. Something to cherish ❤️

That's not really helping when she has just said her Mum doesn't want to go.

@wanderlustdiaries you might want to report the thread and ask @MNHQ to add a caveat to the title that MNers should read all of your updates.

i think you're projecting your own feelings here tbh. I also wouldn't have wanted to go on holiday with my own Mum at that age but I now have my own DD 22 & I'd still love to go on holiday with her if she wants. I don't think it's weird at all.

Of course!! I’m in my 50s, daughter is 18 and we’ve already said we will during her gap year!

Do it, the memories will last forever!

Go on holiday with my mum and Dsis regularly for shorter breaks.
I also go away for long weekends with DD 18 and/or DS 20.
I like spending time with them and exploring new places.

im so sorry your mum didn’t want to go. Does she go anywhere without your dad and does she have commitments with grandchildren?