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To have a weekday wedding?

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TheLadyOfWinterfell · 13/05/2026 10:06

We haven’t decided anything yet, so just looking for opinions really. Budget is a big concern, I don’t want to spend a lot as it’s not a huge priority for me, so it’s really whether we have a simpler celebration at a ‘nicer’ venue, or a more traditional wedding at a not so nice venue. The full on ‘wedding’ would still cost more, but maybe it would be worth it!

Things that are relevant:

  • It would be during the school holidays as DP is a teacher, so children wouldn’t need the day off school.
  • Lots of our friends are teachers, so they would be off work too and wouldn’t need to take annual leave.
  • Quite a few of our immediate family members or close friends (including my dad and DP’s mum) work weekends, so would most likely still need to take annual leave if we had it on a Saturday. So it’s not a case of all guests who aren’t teachers would find it easier on a Saturday.
  • If we did something on a weekday then we probably wouldn’t have an evening do. It would be a ceremony, followed by something like a champagne afternoon tea.

Any thoughts, given the circumstances? I also don’t know which day of the week would be best for people, really, as we also have guests we’d invite who work part time anyway.

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ImFineItsAllFine · 13/05/2026 10:27

Go for it! Sounds like it will work fine for the majority of your circle of friends/family. Only think I can think of is that if people need hotels etc to stay overnight, will that work out much more expensive because it's school holidays?

TheLadyOfWinterfell · 13/05/2026 10:26

Brightonkebab · 13/05/2026 10:14

How far would people need to travel? How much is the expected spend per person on outfit, gifts etc? It all factors in. If I'm already out by hundreds, I would not take an extra day off work. Sorry.

Well it would be localish to us, so nearby friends wouldn’t have to travel far and those who live further away would. Some of the people who work weekends live several hours away though, so would potentially need two days of AL if we had a Saturday wedding. Fortunately the guests on my side who have to travel furthest are retired, so hopefully it won’t matter to them too much.

There’s no expected spend on outfits! There won’t be any sort of dress code, so it’s entirely up to people whether they wear something they already own, spend hundreds or choose an option in the middle. I’m not sure what we’ll do about gifts, but I won’t be expecting people to spend much or anything if they don’t want to.

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Goldengirl123 · 13/05/2026 10:19

Sounds perfect to me

needapokerface · 13/05/2026 10:17

I've had two weekday weddings and honestly never factored in anyone else's situation re annual leave. My one day off a week was a tuesday, so thats when I got married, afternoon ceremony, booked a hotel and had a meal and drinks then home as back to work the next day. 2nd time only us and our witness's.

If you invite them and they want to attend they will book the time off. It's your day decide how you want it and book it, once you start taking other peoples situations into your decisions it quickly escalates to everyone else's day and not yours.

Have a great day and congratulations

DappledThings · 13/05/2026 10:16

Don't overthink it. Book what works for you, invite who you want to invite and accept some people might not make it. Same as any wedding.

TommorrowsToday · 13/05/2026 10:16

Not unreasonable at all.

But expect some people not to be able to attend.

SparklyBlueDress · 13/05/2026 10:15

Perfectly fine but be gracious and understanding if people decline to come. Unless it’s local I think people will only come on a Friday otherwise it’s 2 days off work

LeavingNoNotice · 13/05/2026 10:14

Mid week weddings are fine
Thursday being the optimal "mid week" day
Friday obv better but probably classed as weekend prices by venues
Just expect people saying no due yo annual leave if not a teacher
And if you are inviting kids it makes it alot easier for parents!

Brightonkebab · 13/05/2026 10:14

How far would people need to travel? How much is the expected spend per person on outfit, gifts etc? It all factors in. If I'm already out by hundreds, I would not take an extra day off work. Sorry.