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How to offer to pay for Disney

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coulditbeme2323 · 13/05/2026 09:22

Long story short we went to Disney couple of years ago - kids wanted to go back so will be going for two weeks in October half term.

Sister's kids are desperate to go, but as a family it's out of their budget. We have a great relationship with sister and BIL, but don't want to offend them (well him I know sister would be delighted)

How do we go about offering, I was thinking probably speak with her first?

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cranberryhaddock · 13/05/2026 09:39

Herewegoagainandagainandagain · 13/05/2026 09:34

Stealth boast?

Why not just say “We are planning to go to Disney next year, would x and y like to come with us? My two would love to have them there for company, It would be our treat.”

You have got into your head you are a kind samaritan dishing out charity and they’d be offended, you are not.

Bloody hell, who pissed on your chips this morning? Can’t people even do nice things for each other these days without being accused of boasting? 🙄

Wayk · 13/05/2026 09:39

Could you say you got an amazing deal and combine it as joint birthday and xmas gifts.

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coulditbeme2323 · 13/05/2026 09:36

Herewegoagainandagainandagain · 13/05/2026 09:34

Stealth boast?

Why not just say “We are planning to go to Disney next year, would x and y like to come with us? My two would love to have them there for company, It would be our treat.”

You have got into your head you are a kind samaritan dishing out charity and they’d be offended, you are not.

It's this year if you read the post properly, two weeks at half term - and I don't consider myself a Samaritan.

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coulditbeme2323 · 13/05/2026 09:35

SkinnyOatFlatWhiteForMePlease · 13/05/2026 09:34

Speak to her but think realistically first - can they afford to ‘keep up’ when there with your usual spending pattern?

We took Dsis, BIL and DC to Centre Parc’s and because the booking was in our name it made it easier as we could only book the activities and we did a full food and drink shop so spending was occasional ice creams, coffee etc over the week but usually we would eat out a few times and ate in instead plus got a take away one evening to avoid financial pressure.

I think most of it would be on us - and so much of it is pre paid anyway now so that wouldn't be an issue.

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Herewegoagainandagainandagain · 13/05/2026 09:34

Stealth boast?

Why not just say “We are planning to go to Disney next year, would x and y like to come with us? My two would love to have them there for company, It would be our treat.”

You have got into your head you are a kind samaritan dishing out charity and they’d be offended, you are not.

SkinnyOatFlatWhiteForMePlease · 13/05/2026 09:34

Speak to her but think realistically first - can they afford to ‘keep up’ when there with your usual spending pattern?

We took Dsis, BIL and DC to Centre Parc’s and because the booking was in our name it made it easier as we could only book the activities and we did a full food and drink shop so spending was occasional ice creams, coffee etc over the week but usually we would eat out a few times and ate in instead plus got a take away one evening to avoid financial pressure.

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coulditbeme2323 · 13/05/2026 09:31

I am probably worrying about nothing, I just know men can be well men.

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MyCottageGarden · 13/05/2026 09:31

They won’t be offended, they’ll be thrilled! Frame it as ‘our treat’ or maybe even say you found a fantastic deal and it would enable you to take them too if they fancy it? Or something to that effect.
OMG honestly, I’m 41 but I’d be too busy screaming with excitement to find any offence!

Lomonald · 13/05/2026 09:29

Well set a meals or spending money budget for them but you are happy to take them,

Bloodorangekangaroo · 13/05/2026 09:28

Could you offer it as early Christmas gift or birthday gift? If the children are gifted the trip then offer to pay for the parents to join. I pad for a weekend away at Alton towers for my kids cousin and his mum as a birthday gift for Christmas. She didn’t have much and accepted it as a gift for her son.

RainyTuesdayBlues · 13/05/2026 09:28

I'd frame it as your DC would really love their cousins to be there, is there any way you can help it to happen?

I guess you talk to your sister and she knows how best to communicate to dh.

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coulditbeme2323 · 13/05/2026 09:27

Lomonald · 13/05/2026 09:26

What would they be able to afford ? You could offer to pay for X then they could pay for Y. Speak to your sister.

Edited

To be honest - probably not much at the level we do it.

I mean meals etc, but not much if anything of upfront costs.

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Lomonald · 13/05/2026 09:26

What would they be able to afford ? You could offer to pay for X then they could pay for Y. Speak to your sister.

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coulditbeme2323 · 13/05/2026 09:25

incognito1991 · 13/05/2026 09:25

What a lovely thing to do, yes just speak with her and see what she says about her husband. I wouldn’t be offended, I’d be grateful.

Thank you

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incognito1991 · 13/05/2026 09:25

What a lovely thing to do, yes just speak with her and see what she says about her husband. I wouldn’t be offended, I’d be grateful.