How to offer to pay for Disney

Oh how lovely! Have a brilliant time! If you want to take a 66 year-old pensioner with you... 👋🏻👱🏻‍♀️😄

Can you say you’ve had some good luck, lottery win or whatever, and say you want to share it to rack up some good karma.If that fits with your relationship it’s a way of paying without being condescending or them feeling it’s charity.

could you give it as birthday gift or christmas gift etc?

You can get a boat from the Boardwalk which is a really lovely way to get to those parks!

You sound lovely and i’m so glad it worked out! Hope you all have the best time

Yes. Pride. Men can sometimes be stubborn if their role as provider feels undermined.

I'd hope your sister and you can discuss what/where/when could be the approach. Timing and tone are important to preserve his dignity.

How thoughtful and kind of you to think of this. I'd suggest you have a very private chat with her. Just you two. Away from your home and her home. Take her out to a park, or for a coffee in a quiet café. Explain that you would like to give this to her, no strings attached, and that you'd be honoured and over the moon if she wants to accept. Ask how she feels. If she seems hesitant, draw her feelings out and discuss. Hopefully you'll be able to reach a positive and warm resolution. Make sure she knows you love and respect her.

Me too, and yet I'd love to take my child to Disney. But money has a weird way of causing discomfort even if its meant without strings.

OP though, its a lovely thought and you should at least discuss with DSis.

This is lovely im sure they would both be over the moon to do it together as one big family see it as a gift.
Could they do the spends maybe im sure the kids would be delighted x

Well, one he's not paying for. Not sure it's completely free in a broader sense.

Disney/Florida not everyone's cup off tea.

But you are right, there are much worse things to worry about - that's why I said 'a bit'

So glad they agreed op have a great time

Poor guy getting a free trip to Florida. Get a grip fgs

I feel a bit for the sisters husband here. Didn't really have an option

I think they’re going to Florida. The food is even more in the U.S.

So pleased it’s all worked out for you OP. We’re here now staying at the Boardwalk and having a great time. Out of curiosity, which resorts are you staying at? I’m thinking of a split stay next time.

We had no issues with immigration. In fact it was the quickest we’ve been through, We use the MPC app which lets you use a smaller line.

🙄 @TeaPot496 This is a judgy dig at both the OP for wanting to do it and her sister for accepting. Why?? . How do you know what "a lot of sisters" would permit? It's a lovely family treat funded by a family member who can afford to do so. Their business. OP was only looking for advice in case her brother in law felt he couldn't accept. There's no shame in accepting gifts.. and money isn't everything. OP's sister is probably mutually supportive in other ways.

do you want to come to Disney. We will pay.

it isn’t hard FFS

I would do this too. Say your DC love spending time with them and it would be amazing for them to do this together. It’s a lovely thing to do.

Can you just take the kids?
my parents could not afford anything but I got taken on holidays by friends as I was friends with their daughter. My parents would give me some cash which I would use for some small treats, but actually mainly bring back as I knew how much they needed it. I was 10-15 yo and I never ever felt it was a charity act, the kids really loved to stay with us. Actually I am just realising it now thinking about it how generous they were. I was just excited to board on a plane (first time!) and to go somewhere nice and warm with a pool. I had the best summers. My mum would have over their kid a lot after schools, doing homework, food etc so it really felt like an equal relationship. Only now as an adult I realise how poor my parents were (got electricity disconnected more then once) and how my friend was well off, mum came from a wealthy family with loads of properties, the dad was a very famous surgeon.

You sound very bitter and it’s making you rude. Very unnecessary. You just come across as jealous, but does venting like this make you feel better? Would you say this to her face? Genuinely curious. I think she’s doing a lovely thing for her family and I really hope they all get to go.

@coulditbeme2323 Aww that’s lovely of you. So glad you’re going, Disney is an amazing experience in a big group.
Can I ask which hotel you’re going to, as it’s nice? I’m looking for recommendations

You know, not everyone on Mumsnet makes a stealth post.
What a shitty accusation to make.
There are actually kind, decent people in the world and it appears @coulditbeme2323 is one of them.
You, however, appear to have gotten up on the wrong side of the bed this morning.
It costs nothing to be kind - spend freely. ❤️