To have expected a bit more acknowledgment of the help I gave?

I bet either they wanted to you rewrite it, or just to confirm you thought it was really excellent and guaranteed a first. Not to suggest anything which would entail more work. Very rude.

Things like these really infuriates me, I wouldn't do anything but file it in my little book of people not to bother with in the future. If you do happen to see the wife, I would ask how the daughter got on with the dissertation, hope it worked out well.

Out of the blue the mum texts and asks if I would read and comment on her diss before submission.
They should have at least given you something for your time and trouble. CFs.

My mother was asked by a CF friend to do her daughter's A-level project. Mother declined.

But we know the difference between imagination and reality don't we 🤣

Im good at writting CV's and did one for my friend as she asked, she then asked me to write a job reference which i did,.i saw her 2 days later for coffee and she didnt even offer to buy me a coffee, people are selfish

Very rude.

Yes do this.

So rude and they’re not your friends.

They're users. I'd be so annoyed, it's very rude.

I was asked by a friend if her daughter could do a bit of work experience where I work ( a job which she was hoping to qualify in after uni). So I put myself out, asked a manager as a favour, she said yes and I passed on daughter's details to her etc.

Didn't hear anything back and then found out weeks later she'd been and done it with my colleagues who worked on the floor below me. She could've popped up to say thanks, but then I never heard anything about it again! Not even a poxy text. Really pissed me off, because it really valuable experience not open to everyone.

And yes, not getting any acknowledgement for gifts etc. how long does it take to send a text??

Lecturer here too. I would bet they were hoping for direct edits on the draft rather than general feedback!!!
Which would be cheeky AF obviously... but the entitlement of many of our current UGs (and some of their parents, when we have the misfortune of hearing from them directly) never ceases to amaze me.

I have honestly stopped doing most things to help people out as people are so entitled.

I had very similar with the daughter of a friend. I spent two hours and gave the same type of feedback as you did. I didn’t even get a “thanks”. No reply at all.

I was so peeved I sent a nudge about two weeks later to check she’d seen my message and ask if she had questions or needed more help. Again no reply for weeks… then two days before the deadline (when I am rushed off my feet), she emailed again attaching the new essay. She had included my suggested modifications (but not done any of the further research I had provided links to - too much effort, apparently). She asked if I could give her my final comments. I ignored her. I can no longer look at this girl…

I never raised it with the mum, though I probably should have, as she thinks the sun shines out of her daughter’s proverbial.

Don’t know what I’d do if I got a similar request again. I probably would help, as I can’t really punish the next person for the behaviour of the last one!

It's very rude but at least you know you'd never do anything like this again. Tbh though am finding more and more people allergic to the word thanks, seems to be the way.

people can be very weird with thinking that if you do something professionally you somehow just turn it on and off like a tap. I write book reviews, and someone I vaguely know once asked in a really peremptory fashion if i would write a professional-style review of a book he'd written, because he hadn't had any. I pointed out that it's my paid job, not a thing I just do for people all the time with no effort...! He was really offended - "I seem to have upset you."
It's a shame, people being so blasé about others' time and effort, because it can make us all less willing to do favours where they are deserved/appreciated.

Follow it up in a fake polite manner. I would. Something like "Hi was everything ok as I haven't heard anything from you?"

Good grief! I hope you are joking.

YANBU to be annoyed OP. I would find myself ‘very busy’ if they ever asked again. You did a lovely thing.

I would send them a text..

“dear mother and child. I do hope that the information that I gave you and the marking was helpful and I’d be very interested to know the result, because, as you know, I have degree level expertise in this subject and in marking dissertations . I spent nearly 2 hours on this so I hope it was of some used to you. Would you like me to send an invoice or were you thinking of sending mesome flowers and a bottle of wine?. Either is fine with me!“

You’d be making the point and as there are no connection with you, I really don’t see the harm.

A fellow student of a dd did exactly the same degree as her dad, and basically submitted his dissertation as her own! This was in the 90s, so the dad probably wrote his in the 60s.

Yes. We continue to send gifts in order to keep a sort of relationship but it's hard going. I don't expect a card, but a text or Facebook message with a photo would only take them a minute.

I PAID someone to help my son with his GCSE English. When he passed he gave her a bunch of flowers to thank her. If you had done the same for my DD (though she would be mortified if I asked someone to do this) for sure you’d be getting a bottle of good wine or flowers!

I would put to your DH, that if you were a plumber and went to their house and fixed a leak for free, you’d expect more than ‘thanks’. It was 1.5hrs of your expert time that will impact on this girl’s career. The value of that is incredible. Clearly he doesn’t value your expertise. And then I would just move on and reject future approaches from people he knows unless they are paying.

Send them a bill @ £100 an hour.

Gosh I'm really surprised it was a month ago as I assumed a voucher or similar was coming your way.

I've helped people prepare for interviews or rewritten their CVs and often been treated to a meal out or whatever after they've gotten the job. On reflection, I don't know if I've received anything if they haven't gotten the job. However there has been the odd CF who has contacted me out of the blue "hi, I met you through X, I'd like to apply for this job, can you rewrite my CV thanks" as if I'm some free public service. I

Has she received a grade yet? If not, that might be the catalyst.

Is there any possibility that the daughter was bullied/nagged into this by her mother? I mean you don't know what conversation they were having that you weren't party to?

I would expect something like a John Lewis voucher or a plant as a thank you. From your friend possibly.

Try and think of a favour your friend could do you? Drive you somewhere like the airport?

Sweet revenge.

I was just going to say the same

We hated having to ring nan,auntie such and such and a random friend of my mothers on christmas day,when wed rather have been playing with our toys

But I made my lot do the same when they where old enough (when they where tiny,id pass on a message via my mother)

I remember years ago I bought presents for an ex's children

I left them with him and im still waiting (over 13 years later) for a thank you

I saw him a few times afterwards and he never mentioned it

Bloody rude-i would have made mine ring or at least send a text (not ideal,I do admit) but its better than nothing

My own dgd is too young to thank anyone for anything but ds will message me to say thank you

It's basic manners