To have expected a bit more acknowledgment of the help I gave?

@ruethewhirl , given the circumstances, the student could add further thanks and ask for more information about the comments where needed.

The cursory 'Thanks' is the barest minimum. We don't know if the student wanted the comments as it was the mother who asked.

Verbal thanks that actually convey appreciation, rather than the sort of automatic 'thanks' you'd say in a shop as someone's handing you your change, which is roughly equivalent to what little thanks OP got for her trouble. Nothing to do with gifts or cards.

And maybe people in your life 'don’t tend to do that sort of thing', but plenty of us out here still value manners and apppreciation - you've only to look at the voting results on this thread to see that.

It's not unreasonable to expect it but you're setting yourself up for disappointment if you expect it every time.

I’m not being snarky. Beyond verbal thanks what else are you expecting if not some form of gift or card?

Again I’m not saying that’s wrong. It would be a good gesture of gratitude but people don’t tend to do that sort of thing these days.

You do you, but it's not unreasonable to expect gratitude. And I did think the 'nice gifts and thank you letters' thing sounded snarky.

She's not being snarky.

If I give something, be it my time or a gift, I don't expect gratitude.
I would thank somebody for their gift or time but I'm polite.

Why so snarky? We don't have to accept that anything is 'how it is now'. Society creates the 'now', and as far as I'm concerned we absolutely should call out rudeness and ingratitude. And not saying a proper thank you for someone's time and effort is both rude and ungrateful. I wouldn't be surprised if the recipient of OP's time and efforts is also one of these people who doesn't bother thanking people for gifts because 'a gift should be freely given with no expectation of anything in return' etc etc. 🙄Depressing.

And it’s not even a letter… it’s not like she had to find writing paper and a stamp. It’s so quick to write a more fulsome message on one’s phone
There was no recognition of the effort OP had made.

Not saying that’s right but that’s how it is now.
I agree.

It doesn't matter what favour is asked of you, your time is unlikely to be valued by the person asking the favour.

@italianlondongirl , OP didn’t choose; she was put in an awkward position that she had to accept the request.
She could have said no.
She spent 1.5 hours on it, which depending on several factors, could be a big deal - personally I'd not expect other than 'Thanks'.

Well she did say “thanks” I guess. I think the days of nice gifts and thank you letters are indeed long gone so if you can’t cope without them just say, no.

Not saying that’s right but that’s how it is now.

@MiaKulper OP didn’t choose; she was put in an awkward position that she had to accept the request.

It’s very difficult in these situations to say No, although I do appreciate this is a MN complete sentence

And this is why you shouldn't offer to help anyone. Because they are entitled, expect it, don't appreciate the time or effort put in and will then say 'OMG I said THANKS, YOU chose to help..' when you're pissed off that they don't appreciate what you did.

Because they're the main character and you're there to serve them and should be grateful they even acknowledged it.

Ands then you'll see all the threads on social media with people saying 'why is everyone so antisocial and not wanting to help out/join in?'

That's why. Because of entitled assholes.

OP chose to spend that time on it.
I know from having done work for friends that you get no thanks or recognition, and even if they have agreed to pay, they'll be reluctant to do so.

But not sufficient for an hour and a half of OP’s time and effort.

"yes it was" would probably be the rude reply which would infuriate most of us even more.

The woman sounds like a total CF and like every word costs her.

What has OP got to gain by leaving it? Who does that help?

Calling out rudeness can only be a good thing surely? At the VERY LEAST for the OP to feel as if she isn't a total mug for being kind and helpful.

I would 100% have to send a message - but not a pass agg one. One that states why you are offended, so there is no ambiguity.

It changed when students had to pay and no longer got grants.

"hi, following up on the advice I sent your daughter as I didn't hear any feedback. Did she find it useful?"

I wouldn't say 'hope it was helpful' because that's quite pointed. I'd maybe say 'do let me know how this went and if you were pleased with your mark though', which isn't pass-agg because it's a genuinely reasonable thing you might ask even if you had been fulsomely thanked at the time.

Pair of cheeky cows

That’s not what it says in the OP. The ‘thanks’ was immediate.

You are right. The poster who corrected you hasn’t read the OP properly. The ‘thanks’ was immediate.

Have you followed up yet?

your understanding is correct.