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Does someone not looking at you mean they are lying?

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nonamenancynoo · 12/05/2026 16:40

I have just had a teams call and the person wouldn't look at me and was looking away.

The call was telling me I wasn't successful for a job. I don't know if the stuff they said between it - eg you interviewed well etc, it was just a couple of points between you etc

Could it mean they were lying or it was a difficult conversation for them? Or a bit of both?

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Verv · 12/05/2026 16:42

People can not make eye contact for loads of reasons, and liars can look you dead in the eye.
There's no cast iron way of telling, and definitely not via Teams.

Probably just an awkward conversation to have is all.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 12/05/2026 16:42

My mother used to accuse me of lying because I wouldn't look her in the eye and I kept smiling.

I am ND. I was not lying. But I got punished anyway. Perhaps the person just has trouble making and keeping eye contact.

Chaotica · 12/05/2026 16:42

They weren't looking at the camera. That is not the same as not looking at you.

Placestogo · 12/05/2026 16:42

Maybe it meant it was a difficult conversation for them. I would not stretch to ‘they were lying’

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nonamenancynoo · 12/05/2026 16:42

Clearly people don't say "you didn't get the job bye" they usually say you interviewed well etc

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VegQueen · 12/05/2026 16:42

They probably felt awkward. But if it’s a teams call then it’s hard to tell where they’re looking as you don’t know whether they have multiple screens etc. Why would they lie about you being unsuccessful?

TheSmallAssassin · 12/05/2026 16:42

I'm not sure what you think they might be lying about?

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nonamenancynoo · 12/05/2026 16:42

Getmeacoffeenow · 12/05/2026 16:41

You think you did get the job really and they were lying that you didn’t?

No. Why on earth would you think that?

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Getmeacoffeenow · 12/05/2026 16:41

You think you did get the job really and they were lying that you didn’t?

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