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Husband threatening divorce over a holiday.

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KiggiCalli · 12/05/2026 14:53

I would like to take my daughter to Africa on holiday. For context, I am Black British and my husband is white. He does not like long-haul flights and is refusing to agree to the trip. His view is that because I visited South Africa four years ago, there is no need for us to travel to Africa again, and that we should choose a closer destination such as Europe instead.
My daughter, who is of mixed African heritage, has never been to Africa and is devastated that she is not being allowed to go.

My husband is threatening to divorce me, should I go ahead and book the holiday?

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KiggiCalli · 12/05/2026 15:01

Sorry forgot to add it is our daughter together.

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FulsomSparrow · 12/05/2026 15:01

It depends.

Were you planning to do sonething silly, like take out a loan that he would be jointly responsible for to pay for the trip?

That is the only thing I can think of that would make divorce reasonable!

Edited to add I've just seen your post that you are paying for it. His behaviour is very strange then!

KiggiCalli · 12/05/2026 15:01

My daughter is 13, the holiday is very reasonable. He believes a family should holiday together not separately. I am willing to pay for the holiday for us all. Or just for my daughter and I.

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ToKittyornottoKitty · 12/05/2026 15:00

Divorce over a holiday is a bit much. Who’s paying for it? How old is your daughter? I’m assuming the relationship must be on the rocks regardless of the holiday?

JustWhatever · 12/05/2026 14:59

Divorce over a holiday seems extreme?

faithfultoGeorgeMichael · 12/05/2026 14:59

Is he saying you and your child (who is not his I assume) cannot go or he will not come?
Do you have the funds to pay for it yourself?

Myfridgeiscool · 12/05/2026 14:57

How old is your daughter?

19lottie82 · 12/05/2026 14:55

I think divorce is a bit strong and he sounds manipulative BUT it sounds like a very expensive holiday, can you also afford an additional holiday for you all? If not then I can see his point (but as I stated before threatening a divorce is not on, very controlling)

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