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Does anybody work but not need to?

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coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 14:07

Does anybody work that doesn't need to?

I haven't worked in 8 years, but had a very tentative conversation with an old colleague about there being a part time role.

Now the money I would earn would make no difference to our lives as it's a poorly paid role.

However, I did enjoy it.

Really torn.

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coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 14:23

BrownBookshelf · 12/05/2026 14:23

So the starting point, if you're interested in the role, is could the childcare be covered. Be that through your DP, paid childcare or family help. If there's no wraparound and partner works on an oil rig or similarly unavailable, might other roles exist that would be more practical? This would be broadly my thinking process.

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Childcare shouldn't be an issue.

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BrownBookshelf · 12/05/2026 14:23

coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 14:17

The days in court could comfortably be 7 - 6 door to door.

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So the starting point, if you're interested in the role, is could the childcare be covered. Be that through your DP, paid childcare or family help. If there's no wraparound and partner works on an oil rig or similarly unavailable, might other roles exist that would be more practical? This would be broadly my thinking process.

Floppyearedlab · 12/05/2026 14:22

Trinketmarch · 12/05/2026 14:19

You're implying that a person who doesn't undertake paid employment is immoral and lacks self-respect. Is paid employment a person's only marker of worth?

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Volunteer work is also highly commendable.

TheKittenswithMittens · 12/05/2026 14:20

King Charles

Trinketmarch · 12/05/2026 14:19

Floppyearedlab · 12/05/2026 14:09

Define ‘need’
I may not need to work from a financial perspective but from a self respect and morals one I definitely do

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You're implying that a person who doesn't undertake paid employment is immoral and lacks self-respect. Is paid employment a person's only marker of worth?

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coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 14:17

BrownBookshelf · 12/05/2026 14:16

Depends what you mean by need. We could manage without my wage, but feel more secure spreading the eggs around the baskets. I think even when we define need as solely financial, there's a spectrum.

How long are the days and are there viable wraparound options?

The days in court could comfortably be 7 - 6 door to door.

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BrownBookshelf · 12/05/2026 14:16

Depends what you mean by need. We could manage without my wage, but feel more secure spreading the eggs around the baskets. I think even when we define need as solely financial, there's a spectrum.

How long are the days and are there viable wraparound options?

iamfedupwiththis · 12/05/2026 14:12

I do work full time - I don't have to, we could manage on one salary, we are both 50+, mortgage free, but - my salary allows us to have the extras we enjoy - it pays for 4 foreign holidays a year for us both and an extra weekend away with friends, it also covers weekends in this country etc.

It allows us to live and have an excellent standard of living rather than just existing

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coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 14:10

Floppyearedlab · 12/05/2026 14:09

Define ‘need’
I may not need to work from a financial perspective but from a self respect and morals one I definitely do

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Financially is what I meant.

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coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 14:10

girljulian · 12/05/2026 14:09

If you'd enjoy it, that's a reason to do it. What are your reasons not to do it?

It would only be two days per week - but they are long days and I have 3 children.

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Floppyearedlab · 12/05/2026 14:09

Define ‘need’
I may not need to work from a financial perspective but from a self respect and morals one I definitely do

girljulian · 12/05/2026 14:09

If you'd enjoy it, that's a reason to do it. What are your reasons not to do it?

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coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 14:09

BeKhakiReader · 12/05/2026 14:08

Don’t understand the vote option but I work and don’t need to. I only work part time, but do it because I enjoy it and it’s worthwhile.

How many days per week?

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BeKhakiReader · 12/05/2026 14:08

Don’t understand the vote option but I work and don’t need to. I only work part time, but do it because I enjoy it and it’s worthwhile.

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