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ThatMintMember · 12/05/2026 14:19

I'd just ask if there'll be veggie options as you're a bit funny with meat.

I do get it, I'm easily grossed out by meat so I'd struggle too. I've been served undercooked meat and very cheap turkey burgers at bbqs before. I didn't used to be as fussy but I'd probably just not go or go veggie if I was asked now 😅

TallagallaPenguin · 12/05/2026 14:18

You’re completely reasonable to only want to eat higher welfare better quality meat, but you’re completely unreasonable to declare as a blanket fact that the latter is unavailable in all supermarkets.

Fine to take your own, but don’t take three lamb shoulders - that’d take far too long to cook on the bbq, it’d take up all the room. And if you take enough for everyone, it looks like you’re trying to supplant the hosts entire food plan.
Take a couple of packs / small wrapped artisan paper and string bundles of one thing - a few lamb steaks, a few kofta, whatever. Something that will cook quickly, not take up all the space on their bbq, and easily identifiable by you as the thing you want to eat.

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coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 14:16

Manxexile · 12/05/2026 14:16

Why don't you just offer to supply all the meat then?

You can use it as an opportunity to show everybody else there how superior your taste is farm bought meat is.

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I think it's weird to offer

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Manxexile · 12/05/2026 14:16

coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 13:23

Of course I am aware it's a bit rude, hence why I am asking here.

And yes I would be happy to take lots of meat.

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Why don't you just offer to supply all the meat then?

You can use it as an opportunity to show everybody else there how superior your taste is farm bought meat is.

Owlsintheforest · 12/05/2026 14:15

CookieDoughJoe · 12/05/2026 14:13

Some producers/wholesalers sell meat to both butchers and supermarkets so you may be eating the same meat regardless of where you purchase it.

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Nope - not at the butchers I use. They are open about the farms where their meat comes from and encourage questions about the meat.

CookieDoughJoe · 12/05/2026 14:13

Owlsintheforest · 12/05/2026 14:10

I voted YANBU - I only buy meat from the butchers. I'd feel sick at the thought of eating supermarket meat..

For those who claim the butchers are more expensive - nope, not in my area, it's far more cost effective to buy from the butchers.

Some producers/wholesalers sell meat to both butchers and supermarkets so you may be eating the same meat regardless of where you purchase it.

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coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 14:11

Owlsintheforest · 12/05/2026 14:10

I voted YANBU - I only buy meat from the butchers. I'd feel sick at the thought of eating supermarket meat..

For those who claim the butchers are more expensive - nope, not in my area, it's far more cost effective to buy from the butchers.

I agree the difference isn't always what people think it might be!

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Owlsintheforest · 12/05/2026 14:10

I voted YANBU - I only buy meat from the butchers. I'd feel sick at the thought of eating supermarket meat..

For those who claim the butchers are more expensive - nope, not in my area, it's far more cost effective to buy from the butchers.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 12/05/2026 14:09

Go veggie. Or say you had a bad reaction at the last bbq you went to. Is food poisoning too extreme?

5128gap · 12/05/2026 14:07

I don't think there's any way of doing this without seeming weird and/or offensive.
Eat the bread and salad and leave the meat. Have something to eat before you go or when you're back. I'm vegan and do this to avoid drawing attention to myself with new people or making them feel they need to make a fuss for me. If you don't make a song and dance about it, no one pays much mind to what you're not eating.

DaisyChain505 · 12/05/2026 14:04

I would just not say anything and have a veggie option once there. If anyone noticed and asked why I would say I was trying to lower my meat intake.

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coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 14:03

user1464187087 · 12/05/2026 14:02

How do you know they are buying supermarket meat?

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I don't!

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user1464187087 · 12/05/2026 14:02

coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 12:43

Friends inviting us around for BBQ.

I don't eat supermarket meat, do I just bring our own stuff?

How do you know they are buying supermarket meat?

ginasevern · 12/05/2026 14:00

@coulditbeme2323 You can't take your own bit of meat. That is unbelievably rude and you will look like a right knob, I promise you. You either eat the veggie offering or offer to supply farm shop meat for the whole party. Do not take the lamb shoulders. They might not get eaten and I don't think the host will thank you for bringing something else to faff around with. If these are hobby group people and not really close friends, then you don't want to "other" yourself. So you either eat the veggie option or supply meat for everyone. Or don't go.

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coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 14:00

BringBackCatsEyes · 12/05/2026 13:59

How do you navigate this most of the time - restaurants, invited to dinner, family, work trips? Easier just to be vegetarian for the evening I imagine.

Family all know.

I don't work.

Restaurants not so easy.

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coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 13:59

Goldengirl123 · 12/05/2026 13:57

Why don’t you eat supermarket meat? Most big supermarkets have in store butchers. It would be very rude of you to take your own. If you were my guest I would be very offended

I just don't like it, but yes I agree the more I think about it - it will come across rude.

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BringBackCatsEyes · 12/05/2026 13:59

How do you navigate this most of the time - restaurants, invited to dinner, family, work trips? Easier just to be vegetarian for the evening I imagine.

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coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 13:58

pambeesleyhalpert · 12/05/2026 13:55

Like what?

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Lamb shoulder, Lamb and Chorizo merguez, black garlic fillet steak skewers, all at my local shop and unlikely to be there.

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Goldengirl123 · 12/05/2026 13:57

Why don’t you eat supermarket meat? Most big supermarkets have in store butchers. It would be very rude of you to take your own. If you were my guest I would be very offended

PennyThought · 12/05/2026 13:56

You take the risk of being served something you don't like anytime you are a guest at someone's home.

Why don't you just eat whatever sides they have or say you're not well and drink water.

Are you the only guest or can you hide your actions behind whatever everyone else is doing so you're not drawing attention to yourself?

pambeesleyhalpert · 12/05/2026 13:55

coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 12:51

I could buy things that are unlikely to be there.

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coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 13:55

StarDolphins · 12/05/2026 13:54

Not a meaningful contribution but this reminded me of my friends BBQ. She told us to just bring our own food/whatever we’re eating. I took some lovely butchers burgers/steak and she took it off me, put it in her fridge and gave me an Iceland minted lamb burger🤮

Stop!

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coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 13:54

catmothertes1 · 12/05/2026 13:54

I buy meat from Lidl and Aldi and it's not like that!

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I am sure you are right, but I am not going to change now.

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StarDolphins · 12/05/2026 13:54

Not a meaningful contribution but this reminded me of my friends BBQ. She told us to just bring our own food/whatever we’re eating. I took some lovely butchers burgers/steak and she took it off me, put it in her fridge and gave me an Iceland minted lamb burger🤮

catmothertes1 · 12/05/2026 13:54

TheyGrewUp · 12/05/2026 13:28

Then how do you know about the smell, texture and water content.

I buy meat from Waitrose, Tesco, Saibsburys and it isn't like that.

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I buy meat from Lidl and Aldi and it's not like that!