Mum (83, mild cognitive impairment diagnosis - we believe it’s dementia as she was last test 2 years ago, on waiting list) is in hospital with pneumonia
she’s very weak, eg they’re washing her daily, she can’t shower. If she holds on she can get to the loo
dads on 2 sticks and a wheelchair. He can get upstairs but takes him approx 15 mins, down even longer. History of falls resulting in significant injury. Mum falls too
Mum wets herself then tries to climb the stairs with wet pants and trousers around her ankles and falls - Dad can’t get her up
both are bad at taking prescription drugs
dad isn’t properly on top of her nutrition (Fortisip) -neither were the hospital till today when I insisted she’d die unless they sorted this out - her bmi is below 18 and they left her without any nutrician for 72 hours - I only found out yesterday - I was taking the Fortisip in - turns out they were serving her real food - which she wasn’t eating - no one was checking. Normally you have to leave for meal times but the weekend nurse didn’t throw me out yesterday and the catering lady said oh she never eats her food. I then found all the unused Fortisip
Anyway they’re sending her home tomorrow - she was still on oxygen this morning.
I’ve explained it’s unsafe but they are insisting she’s fit to go home. She sounds plausible but she’s telling absolute lies - she’s believes she’s telling the truth so it’s not lies as such but it’s not the truth
im terrified as it’s unsafe and they are saying it’s not. I’ve said we need carers before she can come home, they’ve said she can cope. I can’t get them to rethink
im not even free to bring her home till 7pm tomorrow - will they just chuck her out? She has no idea where she is or how to get home
Any ideas? I’m beyond desperate