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What traits did your neurodivergent daughter show as a toddler?

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user2466 · 11/05/2026 20:14

Posting on AIBU for traffic.

Hi,
Just wanted peoples experiences are of neurodivergence during the toddler stages.
For context, my DD is 2.5 years old, her dad is being assessed for ADHD and autism, and my sister and nephew both have autism and ADHD too.
Nursery did some screening for speech and language today and DD scored low for her age and low for the age below. We got talking and I mentioned the family history and nursery said although they can’t make a diagnosis (she’s too young for one anyway) she does see some early neurodivergence traits but can’t say for sure if it is that.

I know many people believe you shouldn’t ‘label’ toddlers but I think sometimes you can just tell (without using it as a label).

What traits did your DD show during the toddler stage that made you think ND?

OP posts:
OneTimeThingToday · 11/05/2026 20:31

Speech delay and selective mutism, but very good with numbers (but couldnt name numbers... its hard to explain).
She understood a lot.
Good at puzzles.
Extremely good at climbing.

VividDeer · 11/05/2026 20:28

Btw I didn't realise she was ND as a toddler!
When she progressed through primary school it became more obvious. Especially age 6ish

VividDeer · 11/05/2026 20:25

Didn't play with many toys
Her speech was very advanced!
Rule follower and an absolute dream to parent tbh. Like a mini adult

GloomyWednesday · 11/05/2026 20:20

DD was talking in sentences at 18 months, had night terrors and sensory issues, had a self-soothing type stim of twirling her hair when tired to the point of it getting tangled and pulled out.
She was also totally freaked out by people dressing up where their face couldn’t be seen (characters at play areas, theme park character costumes) and had the language to explain her discomfort.

These are just a few examples that might be ‘normal’ behaviours but I noticed more in hindsight after her diagnosis of ASD.