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AIBU to ask if we can legally request copies of childhood photos?

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hiddenchildnastyex · 11/05/2026 13:31

Dh has DSS (23) who he was not aware of till he was 20.

His (very short term) ex (DSS mother) hid everything and moved away. She keeps saying that she has childhood photos and videos etc etc that she wants to share but inviting dh round - can we legally request copies ? DSS has given us as much as he can get his hands on but confirms ex has lots more. She won’t release anything unless Dh spends time with her. He requested for it to be with DSS too she refused and he won’t allow her to manipulate us.

Is there any legal route or do we have to accept we can’t do this and go without things Dh would love to see. He’s already hurt enough by what happened .

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Gustavo1 · 11/05/2026 13:36

How weird. I’m sorry :(

inmyhair · 11/05/2026 13:36

hiddenchildnastyex · 11/05/2026 13:34

I suspected so it’s such a shame

Your dh has got a son that he didn't know about come into his life and no doubt will enhance his life - I'd focus on that. Pick your battles.

Gustavo1 · 11/05/2026 13:36

How about in a public place like a coffee shop?

hiddenchildnastyex · 11/05/2026 13:35

She will not meet in a public place we suggested this and it was a no

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hiddenchildnastyex · 11/05/2026 13:35

Gustavo1 · 11/05/2026 13:34

I get that she’s manipulating but is there another reason DH can’t meet for coffee and look through and get some photos?

She wants him to go alone - he will not put himself in that situation

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Gustavo1 · 11/05/2026 13:34

I get that she’s manipulating but is there another reason DH can’t meet for coffee and look through and get some photos?

hiddenchildnastyex · 11/05/2026 13:34

inmyhair · 11/05/2026 13:33

No there's no legal precident for that.

Focus on the here and now and maintaining a good relationship going forward. Forget the past, it's another country.

I suspected so it’s such a shame

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inmyhair · 11/05/2026 13:33

No there's no legal precident for that.

Focus on the here and now and maintaining a good relationship going forward. Forget the past, it's another country.

hiddenchildnastyex · 11/05/2026 13:32

If dh can’t legally pursue this can dss for images of himself?

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