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Pretty Woman Moment

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JuliaRobHurts · 11/05/2026 10:48

DH and I were at a homebuilding and renovation show yesterday as we're in the middle of an extension project. Specifically we 're on the hunt for a new front door and while looking around one of the vendors we had a "pretty women" moment.

We had a look at the various products on show before trying to get the attention of one of the representatives who appeared to be avoiding our gaze. Eventually she approached and I said 'hi, we're interested in bespoke front doors and quite like this one on show'.

Without asking our budget or any of our requirements she went into a spiel about how the doors were very expensive, how they were imported from Lithuania and the import charge was also expensive, all the while wincing as she was saying it. She then said we might be better off with a more mass manufactured door. I was absolutely stunned at her condescending tone. She hadn't asked a single question about what we were looking for.

I was so close to confronting her about her approach, but held back. DH calmly told her her sales pitch needs some work and we walked away, but I was fuming. We were both dressed smart/casually so the only thing I can think is she guaged our age (late thirties) and made an assumption we couldn't afford it (even though we can).

WWYD in that situation? I'm half inclined to email the company and provide feedback on our experience but I also don't know if it's worth the energy.

Would love to hear if anyone that's had a similar experience but DID confront the rude person as I'm still annoyed I didn't give her a piece of my mind.

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SummerHouse · 18/05/2026 13:26

I used to work in a cinema. One up selling technique we were supposed to use is if the asked for small we give them the second size up without question. The smallest size (still massive) was officially a kids size. I would always do away with sizes and ask do you want this £2.20 one or this one for £2.70. I used to feel it was such a waste of money and I wanted people to make an informed choice. I did have a customer respond very rudely to this once asking which I supposed a small was.

So maybe the sales person thought the doors were a total rip off. Or maybe people are stunned and disgusted at the price. I wouldn't assume it was a judgement on what you could afford.

Deboragh · 18/05/2026 13:16

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 11/05/2026 12:38

Yes I would actually.

Why was my comment about not seeing it so amusing?

😂

Deboragh · 18/05/2026 12:26

shuggles · 11/05/2026 11:21

As someone who dresses like a homeless person and, accordingly, has a rubbish income, I think her approach would have been suitable for me.

I know 2 millionaires and a few nearlys, the majority of them are scruffy gits.

Bleachedjeans · 17/05/2026 11:58

LeaderBee · 15/05/2026 09:39

Sorry,

Plenty of posters have filled me in on what it means but as a 40 year old bloke I think i've only seen pretty woman once, so didn't really make the connection.

lol. I’m sorry, too. You were inundated with unnecessary replies, including mine 😊

Andylion · 16/05/2026 15:23

Gwenhwyfar · 16/05/2026 10:49

There was a scene in the Cosby Show where the doctor father dresses up as a poor person to try to get a better price on a car.

Moira and John does something similar in Schitt’s Creek.

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SorryWeAreClosed · 16/05/2026 15:06

I've been in this situation when trying to buy a kitchen when in my late 20s. We indicated our interest in one kitchen and were immediately taken over to a cheaper one that looked nothing like it. Maybe the sales guy had a remit to try to get rid of the cheaper kitchens 🤷🏼‍♀️ I decided I didn't want him in the house to measure up and we went elsewhere.

Also when buying a car. I knew what I wanted, a make and model that I'd always planned to buy once I could afford it. The sales person at the first garage was very dismissive so we ended up buying from somewhere different on the same day.

That sort of profiling mattered to me then but it doesn't now at all. Ironically we had much more disposable income in our mid/late 20s than we do now that we take paying into pensions more seriously and have kids to get through university.

AMillionPeopleCheering · 16/05/2026 14:56

Thinking about, I have so many examples of being treated like this, maybe I should start dressing smarter.

AMillionPeopleCheering · 16/05/2026 14:45

We're a scruffy jeans and trainers family. But my brother loves his gadgets and spends a lot on them. We were in Selfridges looking at phones and there was one so expensive it was on a pedestal under a glass dome. The shop assistant came over to move us on from the phone, usual spiel about how expensive it was and there were things more in our price range over theree. My brother casually pulled out exactly that model from his pocket and started to dial someone. Very funny.

rolloverbeethoven · 16/05/2026 13:56

I wondered 😂

pinkyredrose · 16/05/2026 13:49

pinkyredrose · 16/05/2026 13:49

Who pissed on your chips?

Quoted the wrong person, sorry!!

pinkyredrose · 16/05/2026 13:49

rolloverbeethoven · 16/05/2026 10:58

Bad morning @FaceIt ?

Who pissed on your chips?

DancingOctopus · 16/05/2026 11:49

I had a pair of earrings that were a stud with a longer bit coming from it. The longer bit came off the stud. I took it back to the shop it had came from but they didn't do repairs.
I went to various jewellers who couldn't help. Including one who said " If we did it, it would be solid gold and YOU wouldn't be able to afford it". I had not mentioned any price.
I said " What do I do then? Do I throw them away? Is that the modern way?" He then suggested another jeweller. I took earring there and he fixed it for me. For nothing.
If I ever need to buy anything from a jewellery shop guess which one I choose?

mrsjoyfulprizeforraffiawork · 16/05/2026 11:43

Tryonemoretime · 11/05/2026 12:01

New Testament principles are worth having, but I completely realise that anyone can be an atheist or anything else and still have principles. It's just that, for me, I try to follow NT ways.

I agree with you on this. It is likely some others on MN do too but don't want to put their heads over the MN parapet.

rolloverbeethoven · 16/05/2026 10:58

Bad morning @FaceIt ?

FaceIt · 16/05/2026 10:55

Get over yourself and stop being so petty. Pretty woman moment indeed.

There are far worse things in life to get upset about.

Gwenhwyfar · 16/05/2026 10:49

shuggles · 11/05/2026 11:21

As someone who dresses like a homeless person and, accordingly, has a rubbish income, I think her approach would have been suitable for me.

There was a scene in the Cosby Show where the doctor father dresses up as a poor person to try to get a better price on a car.

KiddyMcKiddly · 16/05/2026 10:43

NameChangeMay2026 · 15/05/2026 20:18

Oh yes, that's totally true. I see it now. I was being affected by the fact that Julia Roberts is an incredibly rich and famous movie star!

I disagree. There is a twist in the tale where he offers her the life of a "kept woman" and she turns him down. When he realises his need for her in his life , and comes back to her with the appropriate respect for her as a person, she "rescues" him from his shallow life of greed and selfishness. They each have something to give that the other needs.
Also, the soundtrack bangs.

NameChangeMay2026 · 15/05/2026 20:18

CoffeeCantata · 15/05/2026 18:33

It's the power he has, as opposed to her. She is very dependent on him for her status.

Oh yes, that's totally true. I see it now. I was being affected by the fact that Julia Roberts is an incredibly rich and famous movie star!

CoffeeCantata · 15/05/2026 18:33

NameChangeMay2026 · 15/05/2026 16:40

Why, though? A sex worker and her client fall in love and become a real couple at the end, with the implication that they are going to marry. What's wrong with that?

It's the power he has, as opposed to her. She is very dependent on him for her status.

justasking111 · 15/05/2026 17:39

deeahgwitch · 15/05/2026 17:12

Years back I went in to an estate agents to get a brochure on a house. The EA who I vaguely knew was at the reception desk and commented to the receptionist that I couldn’t afford said house. I was soo embarrassed.
Recently I was involved in the sale of a multi million euro property - advising re what estate agent to use.
We invited Mr.Smart Ass out to see the house, give a valuation (he was over a million off - he undervalued it) and pitch for the business.
We (there were a few of us involved) were never going to employ him because I wouldn’t allow it.
Revenge is a dish served cold. 😉

Brother and wife came straight from their yacht to an estate agent because they saw a new listing so thought they'd call on their way home. The estate agent said outright that they wouldn't be able to afford it. They were taken aback so went to another office. They did get it and were cash buyers.

deeahgwitch · 15/05/2026 17:12

Years back I went in to an estate agents to get a brochure on a house. The EA who I vaguely knew was at the reception desk and commented to the receptionist that I couldn’t afford said house. I was soo embarrassed.
Recently I was involved in the sale of a multi million euro property - advising re what estate agent to use.
We invited Mr.Smart Ass out to see the house, give a valuation (he was over a million off - he undervalued it) and pitch for the business.
We (there were a few of us involved) were never going to employ him because I wouldn’t allow it.
Revenge is a dish served cold. 😉

NameChangeMay2026 · 15/05/2026 16:40

CoffeeCantata · 15/05/2026 10:27

I've never seen the whole film...but when I first heard about it I was baffled as to why people seemed to think the premise was OK.

It hasn't aged well!

Why, though? A sex worker and her client fall in love and become a real couple at the end, with the implication that they are going to marry. What's wrong with that?

NameChangeMay2026 · 15/05/2026 16:38

LemomLime · 15/05/2026 06:39

Buying clothes from supermarkets isn’t looking like a hobo!!!

It’s not a disguise, it’s wearing comfortable clothes they’re happy in. Wasting money on needless shit and expensive items for show is why some can retire at 50 hugely wealthy having never had a or needed a mortgage and others are scraping together the money before bills whilst frittering money on clothes and beauty they don’t need.

I know which I’d prefer.

I never said that buying clothes from supermarkets is to look like a hobo. I had some fab things from George at Asda back in the day. I was referring to posters talking about how their wealthy acquaintances would shop smelling of shit and carrying taped-together plastic bags and looking (and smelling) like they might well be homeless.

rolloverbeethoven · 15/05/2026 14:33

@Bleachedjeans that's so nice to read, and of course if you DO have a windfall and treat yourself I'm sure you'll go straight back to that nice assistant!

ThatBlackCat · 15/05/2026 11:18

Bleachedjeans · 15/05/2026 08:58

I know . And I did read the thread. And I don’t care. And why should you? 🤣

So you read the thread but still decided to write exactly what others said, around 20 pages later. Sure.... 🙄🤣