I hate being a widow

So sorry for your loss.

I’m sorry for your loss, and of others on the thread. I know it’s exhausting and feels ultimately unrewarding. What’s the point in successfully surviving, in managing all the stuff you manage, picking up all the things he used to do… it’s an achievement, but not one we’d take joy in.

Having seen my mum cope with losing my lovely dad, I am trying to be more anware and appreciative of all the small things DH does without me noticing. Many things ‘don’t work’ in mums house, because she still thinks Dad didn’t do any housework. In reality he was quietly unblocking sinks, cleaning stains, tightening knobs and handles for decades.

My sympathy to OP and all the pp on the thread who have gone through or are going through this awful rite of passage of losing their life partner in this tragic way.

My DH died suddenly 20 years ago. And my life changed irrevocably that day in a way that only those who have gone through it understand. Things do get better eventually but I still haven't taken on board fully that I'll never see my DH again, even after all these years.

I am so sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel. It's been 5 years for me. If I could, I'd give you a big hug. Take care of yourself and know it's ok to feel like that.

That sounds really tough. Big virtual hugs ❤️

I'm so sorry for your awful loss, he sounds like he was a lovely man. 💐

So sorry for your loss OP (and others).

If it helps, tell us about him and what made him the amazing man he was.
If not, just know that we hear you.

I’m so sorry to hear this OP.

My husband is currently dying and has been given just a few months to live.

It’s all been such a shock as just a few months ago he was still working and felt fine.

Life can take some very cruel twists and turns 🌹

Oh i am sorry op 💐❤️

I’m so sorry for your loss and pain. I can empathise as my DH died just before Christmas 2024. 🌺

I hear you. That does sound crap. For me these kinds of thoughts tend to be worst around this time of night. Remember that tomorrow is a fresh day. Try to get some sleep if you can. 😘

I’m sorry, that really sucks. No advice because…well there isn’t is there?