My husband doesn’t want to buy me an eternity ring. AIBU to want one?

No that's what I was always told!

I got my eternity ring first because we had our daughter before we got married. It has band of my horses hair inlaid below the ring of diamonds and it's the most precious ring I own, more precious than my engagement and wedding ring because it was made for me and it's my horses and daughters ring and they mean the world to me. My horse is no longer with us which makes it even more precious.

It's not silly to want something so sentimental as an eternity ring in my opinion, I treasure mine.

I think eternity rings are very special. But perhaps focus on something for the two of you and leave the eternity ring for later

Well my exH refused to buy me an eternity ring when id mentioned id quite like one z- he "joked" because marriage is "until death us do part" and he hadnt signed up to eternity!!

Tbh i did actually think that was quite funny! And it's not why we split. But yeah, these things often mean more to us than them I think!

He asked, you told him, he doesn't think you should want one..... that would piss me off as well.

I think YANBU.

He asked what you wanted, you told him and he poo-pooed it.

I think it would have been a nice gesture to get you the ring. I don’t see the negativity around it.

I am not married btw so no agenda here!

I couldn't be arsed with having to wear another ring. I totally get where your dh is coming from. You already have the ring! Maybe he could have been more sensitive but its the kind of thing I'd do if I just didn't understand.

And to the pp, no, you dont get an eternity ring for having a baby- you get a baby.

YANBU ! eternity rings are beautiful i think. I got one after having my third baby, friends of mine got theirs after babies or for special anniversaries.

Not remotely silly
Very odd for him to ask and then say you shouldnt want one
Ive got one and a lovely ring for my last large birthday.
Shove his golf clubs up his arse!

No - don’t. My DM had one, and both my SILs have one. MIL had a new engagement ring at 20 years, much bigger stone.

I didn’t get one as I wear my DM’s rings as well as mine, but I asked for some very special jewellery for our 30th.

Eternity rings were very traditional - your DH is talking nonsense.

Why should you feel silly? Its an item you fancied and he asked you!

Im old so maybe its not a thing now but on our first anniversary my husband bought me one. It matches my other rings and still looks pretty.

If he feels it's taking away from your other rings thats his feelings, but you aren't silly for answering his question

If you dont go ahead because it will hurt his feelings fair enough but don't feel bad or silly for asking

We recently celebrated our golden wedding anniversary. I’d been thinking for a while that I’d like an eternity ring. That idea when out of the window when my ever-the -romantic husband said “I assume we’re not doing presents?”

It used to be traditional to give an eternity ring after the birth of the first child. I don't see anything wrong with it. My DH just wouldn't buy any jewelry for me at all. I asked for earrings every year for birthday or Christmas. Nope, never got any. I actually feel quite sad as my dad bought my mum and later my stepmother eternity rings. I just think it's nice to mark a specific anniversary or something.
Edited to add its not a new thing to give an eternity ring.

I got one at 10 years. It was more to pimp up my rather paltry but sentimentally significant engagement ring. It has become sentimental over time too. The eternity ring itself isn’t very ostentatious, but looks nice in combination with the others.

I don’t think yabu, maybe he does feel like you somehow don’t value the others if he’s never heard of them being ‘a thing’. I got a right hand ring in my birthstone (antique/vintage/secondhand however you see it) and dh only knew to do that because I have repeatedly said how much I love jewellery over the years.
maybe get a feel for budget and explain its a bit of a celebration rather than an upgrade?

Op already said he'll get something he wants like golf clubs.

I thought eternity rings were for the birth of your first child. Have I got that completely wrong?

I want an eternity ring. I shows that after what feels like an eternity your husband will still buy you a beautiful piece of jewellery. I do not have an eternity ring despite 20 years of marriage. I let that go because I get tea in bed.

I love mine - it’s a token to say I still mean those vows and love you. I also have 3 DDs so they can have a ring each when I die 🤣 that was my thought process. I got one at 10 years. I’ve said to dh I’d love an engagement style ring for our 25th. It’s not an engagement ring replacement. Many of my friends are divorced and remarried so got a second ring… I’d like the second ring without the divorce part. I like shiny diamonds. I don’t buy myself jewellery so all of mine is special with meaning.

I got one at 10 years. Seems the done thing in my DH family. So imo YANBU

I'd like an eternity ring too OP.
My reasons are, when we got married (funnily enough, 20 years ago) we didn't have much money so my wedding and engagement rings are quite plain and were very cheap - all we could afford at the time, which was fine. But now 20 years later we have both worked hard and could afford something a bit more bling....and quite frankly, I'd now like some bling.... what's wrong with that? I have absolutely no jewellery of any value. I'm 48 with a professional career, successful marriage and 2 happy children...I'd like something to celebrate how far we've come in 20 years.
If DH wanted something too I'd be more than happy. He has no interest in getting me a ring though so I'm probably just going to buy it myself 😆.

I bet it was jewellers who started the idea of eternity rings. Do you just really like jewelry OP? Or is it the receiving of the ring from him that appeals?
Also, does he get an eternity ring? If not, why not?

Of course you’re not silly. But ask yourself why you want one. Is it because you know friends who have them? I always think it would ruin the look of my wedding and engagement ring that’ll together. I would rather have another ring on the other hand where it would be better seen and not in a jumble of rings.

My dad got my mum an eternity ring for their first wedding anniversary, i thought that was the done thing, i guess not!

I would really like an eternity ring too! I get how you feel