AIBU? Hotel room alone?

I love being away at a hotel. I never fear for my safety. But often there’s a way to double lock the door? I’m reluctant to suggest a physical barrier in case there was an emergency and management has to get the door open which occurs much more frequently.

I love nights in a hotel room. Love them. Peace and quiet and a good bed.

Was it a dodgy hotel? Why don’t you stay at a different one see if it feels better?

YANBU. I travel a lot for work and I’ve stayed in some places where I was completely at ease and others that put me on edge. Mostly due to being made feel uncomfortable by other guests, or by the hotel design/layout.

Always double lock your door, and always have a look at the fire exit route.

Think about things that might make you feel safer - eg. request a room with a spy hole, close to the lift, bring your own pocket torch, a mini speaker if you like to put on your own music, etc. Reception/concierge will look after you if you ask for assistance and say you’re on your own (eg recommending a restaurant, getting you a taxi.)

I hope in time it can become more enjoyable for you.

I stay away with work a lot and often have a dreadful night's sleep the first night in the hotel. You have my sympathy. I do always double lock the door and put the chain or other restrictor device on. I always find the rooms are too hot so I take the duvet cover off the duvet and use it as kind of a top sheet. Then I can put the duvet on top if I'm cold in the night. You can tell Reception ahead of your arrival if you are a lone female traveller and they have things they do to make you feel safer like not announcing your room number when they check you in, and giving you the option of having a room near an exit if you want.
I do also stay in Liverpool often and it is a very friendly city with some cracking restaurants which I often dine in alone, although it did take a bit of getting used to.
Sending you chill out vibes for a couple of nice nights in.

Of course you will!

Sounds like heaven in my opinion. I love a hotel room to myself!

Sorry, can't get on board with this. I am away for two nights with work next week and I can't wait! I love my DH dearly, but time in a hotel by myself is an actual dream!

Have you lived on your own before? It's pretty restrictive not to be able to sleep in a place by yourself.

I've spent countless nights alone in hotels for work and leisure and have just spent many weeks in hospital self catering accommodation on my own to receive specialist care away from my home area. Sometimes you just need to get on with things. I'm currently planning a solo camping trip.

Lets swap places! I'd love 2 nights of peace, long baths, room service, no one to make snacks for or remind to brush their teeth x 100000.

take ear plugs

Not a good idea. You won't hear the fire alarm.

Putting things by the door is such awful advice

If it helps I know women are not put on the ground floor, just make sure you locked the door and take ear plugs.
TV to yourself, bed to yourself, you don't have to make it? Heaven. For me anyway.
Due to that thing at the travel lodge women are put on 1st floor. I've a friend who works at premier she told me.

Nasty, unhelpful comment.

You felt all that just because you had to stay in a hotel? Do you never go anywhere then? Must be a very boring life.

I understand not getting the best night sleep in a new bed but for me the second night is much better

I have spent the best part of 40 years staying in hotels for work, sometimes all week. I draw the line at anything in the Britannia chain as they really are dumps but otherwise I make the most of it.

Why do you think someone is more likely to break into your hotel than your home?

Put a chair with things on it in front of the door, that way if someone tried to get in you’ll hear them.

Put your phone by your bed so you can dial 999 in an emergency.

If you have a shop close by, buy a door wedge or google a make shift one.

The worst thing that will happen is someone does break in (literally so rare) but you’ll hear them and can grab your phone within seconds.

Aren't the door wedges a bit dangerous in case of a fire? Stop you getting out quickly if you're panicking and stop anyone breaking in easily to rescue you. I'm not but, if I was to worry about anything, it'd be fire rather than someone getting into my room when I'm in there.

You’re safer in the worst hotel in the ‘Pool than anywhere in that London.

Dd has to travel for college every couple of months. Her first time was when she was 16. Alone, three hours away from us, didn't know a soul.
I asked dh to remind reception she was a16yr old female on her own and to show her how the door locked.
She slept like a baby. I didn't.

Get a door wedge for peace of mind- but you'll be fine. Enjoy the alone time!

Honestly OP, talk yourself down as much as possible, and get used to staying in hotels.

You know your fears are irrational, try and see it in a different light.

Take calming pillow spray, little cosy home comforts.

You are a professional woman important enough to be despatched to an event in Liverpool - stand tall, be proud of yourself and take on the world.

And have fin with your colleagues or networking acquaintances - Liverpool is fab!

Me too!

I always try to get a room with a fabulous shower or a nice bath, I take a face mask and nice toiletries and I scope out somewhere brilliant for food nearby. Then I take full advantage of work paying for my meal and have a little pamper evening usually accompanied by some kind of delicious dessert eaten in bed with a movie on.

Totally depends on the hotel..

I just had 9 nights away with work in 4 different hotels. It was amazing. Slept badly one night but put that down to delayed jetlag. Otherwise absolutely loved it.