AIBU? Hotel room alone?

Yes but for anything bad to happen as a result of that would be rare. There would usually be absolute embarrassment on both sides and if someone walked in on you undressed that would be uncomfortable of course. Caveat by me that, as I said in an earlier post I had someone break into my room to sexually assault me so someone accidentally coming in whilst it would spike my adrenaline like mad well it’s all relative!

I've got a night in a hotel tonight, just me from my company there. So I will be with you in solidarity. I do rather enjoy a night away though.

Just been googling the options for my tea. I live in quite a rural area so eating out and takeaway options are poor. I love to get something tasty and different from the norm whilst I am away

That's fine, people can cope with one poor night's sleep. You'll be tireder and sleep better tonight.

I love staying in hotels but I don't always sleep well on the first night.

You've made it! And you've slept more than nothing. It's definitely one of those things that you get better at the more you do it.

3 hours is not bad.

Hopefully you sleep more tonight. 💐💐

I find a podcast helps me drift off.

Did you manage to sleep?

I never fully sleep my first night in a hotel room but try to doze. I do this by having the room very dark and use earplugs. I tend to close my eyes and maybe rewrite mentally a part of a book I have read or a film I have watched. I find I tend fall into a light sleep doing this.

This 💯

This is the same OP also stressing about hantavirus isolation 11 miles away from her hotel. She needs help to manage her anxiety, not indulgence and validation

I don’t think anyone’s fears should be judged as unreasonable (think of all the completely safe things that terrify some - spiders, buttons!)

but OP you’re clearly rattled and know it is not entirely logical. Firstly you know that getting past this worry will help you in future so it’s definitely worth doing all you can.

Security worries are not crazy. Like worrying about fires it is not groundless however unlikely. Ask questions of the hotel about security - eg many have a security check ‘loop’ on the door - that acts like a chain preventing access - and some don’t. They add safety without making things unsafe. That could put your mind at rest a little.

Next concern is the discomfort & all the suggestions already made about familiar items & relaxing/luxe feel are good.

Lastly whether you have to socialise for work or not I would suggest soft drinks only. Keep a clear head. These two nights are just the next step toward building your confidence. Hope it goes really well.

Double - or triple in your case-trouble.

Last time I stayed away and got *zero" sleep was before an in-law's funeral which meant staying overnight.
And, no, I could not get out of it.
(Contrary to some mn views, there are some events you cannot get out of going to without a damned good reason.)

The stress of the funeral coupled with being away was double trouble.

Honestly I'm at the point where if I manage to get a few hours of unconsciousness when I'm away from home, I'm grateful.

Next time I have to stay overnight, I'm going to try those cooling pads to the back of the neck.
Something about the vagus nerve being stimulated to rest mode.

YABU! Solo hotel stays are brilliant!
All these people saying they do it for work trips - I just randomly book myself into a hotel in a "new to me" city on a weekend sometimes for a bit of me time and mini holiday. The joys of the kids being young grown ups now.😁

Try some kind of herbal sleeping tablets.

Or CBD oil.or CBD gummies will really help.you relax and sleep.well.

Holland and Barrett do a good range.

Pleasant dreams.😴

I’ve stayed there.
It’s horrific.

I don’t think the Adelphi is a 4 star. That was a great reality programme though back in the day

dont deadlock yourself in op, put something noisy like a suitcase or a chair behind the door and try to relax

I’ve never had an incident but I travel a lot for work and do all of this. I worked in a hostel once and that was a bit dicey.

I also check cupboards and under the bed each time I enter the room as my friend who is cabin crew told me a tale that stuck with me 😳

I hate when the hotel door doesn’t have a double lock. Or a chain. It makes me really unsettled and have a really bad night. I have thought about buying a wedge but do worry about fire safety.

Bet men never get these worries, sigh.

I love hotel stays always sleep well

If it’s the Adelphi feign sickness and leave now

Plus recording of snoring to make it seem like home

Take a hayfever tablet to knock yourself out ? A piriton works wonders for me

@mumstheword1x I stay in hotels alone as my family live 200 miles away. After seeing the news about the 2 incidents at Travelodge last time I stayed at Premier Inn I put the desk chair under the door handle at night. I felt silly doing it but I felt a lot safer going to sleep. I normally make a treat of it though. Snacks and pamper things and a movie downloaded. I'll get a nice bath and then on goes the facemask and foot mask and whatever and it's great.

Hotels have very high volumes of throughput, and I worked in three different chains over about 15 years, so on a % basis it’s low, but it does happen numerically way more than it should.

We are all different but this post was, to me, bizarre.

If it’s not a hotel in Gaza, Ukraine or a US slum city you have, almost, no concerns.

without being unkind, I wonder if you are from a very small town or village with little exposure to the real world and normal life.

I would encourage you to enjoy the break from day-to-day and get out from the bubble I’d predict you live in.