To ask if you've mastered the art of not feeling bad about an ageing face

I disagree. I think most of those who don’t like the sagging face due to ageing want rid of the sagging they don’t like looking at. Once rid and now happier without the sag, if that then makes them look slightly younger, happy days!

It’s not to be desirable to men but to be comfortable in your own skin.

I think it's a copy and paste from the nail one on Style and Beauty .

Nope. I couldn’t give a shiny shite what men or women think and I’m obviously never going to look 24 again, nor would I want to. It’s for me. And as an educated, articulate, financially independent woman, I know why I make the choices I do, better than you.

I think not looking in the mirror too much helps tbh. I am mourning the loss of my 'young' (ie non droopy, or lined) face as I head towards 51. I am at the stage where I get a bit of a shock seeing myself in photos etc. Im still quite confident in my looks and keep my skin and hair healthy, but still, I do feel sadness to observe my face aging. Looks-wise, my aim is now to be an attractive older woman, not to look young. Practising gratitude helps greatly. There are people on this planet who would give anything to have something as shallow as an aging face as one of their few worries.

Yes, many years someone gave me a positive affirmation for looking in the mirror: smile and say to yourself "I'm going to like what I see".

It really works unless it's in the loo on the first floor at work - that mirror is fucking brutal!.

Tbh I am enjoying aging. God gives and takes away right, so I can admit that a) I had a terribly abusive childhood (7 ACE's) but b) when I was a teen and beyond, was nice looking and sexy, as long as I remained slim. I had a tiny waist, pretty face and lush thick hair. It brought it's own issues, good and bad.

Now I am 51, through menopause, starting to go grey and tbh.....i like it. My face isnt bad yet and I've slowed down the heavy exercise. I dont drink much now, I go to bed really early, I'm getting old etc. I like it. I wish I would fade more into the background, but I dress too well for that lol!

I've never had any facial surgery and never will, I think it looks dreadful and obvious. I will not have highlights in my hair again either because it ruins it and I'm all about the natural now. My hair is long and super soft and I'm not ruining it with dye.

The biggest age related angst I went through had to do with VA (peri side effect) and I was not ready for that, so I resolved it. I wasnt ready to lose my sex life and have not.

It's a tough one, if looks define a person, because they do change. But I'm mentally ready for that now. Live each life stage fully and then you'll be ready for the next one.

Everything changes right, and we have never lived this bit so we are still learning.

I'm 40 and refusing to do much beyond sticking to a Neutrogena regime 3 times a day. I made up my mind channel Tyne Daly as my inspiration in the coming years. Predominantly because I have daughters to teach there's more to a woman than her skin, but I also have too much on my plate and precious little in my "giving a " storage to mess with anything else.

Looking 'good' is being defined here as looking younger - less sagging, basically.

If women want to look 24 'for themselves', they've got some pretty strange values. They must feel they don't like their own appearance unless it approximates the type (young, fresh) most often desired by men. So, yes, they are judging themselves by a standard set by male sexuality.

Ok. Try a FOREO Bear and Gua Sha. Both do work on the eyelids if you use them daily (takes 5 minutes).

I'm 47. Never been remotely bothered by my aging face, greying hair or rosacea. I caught sight of my hand resting on the steering wheel at a long red light the other day and thought it suddenly looked far older than it did until fairly recently. Found it fascinating rather than upsetting.

You are right. Life is short. So if it makes people feel great, getting their nails done, taking mounjarro, getting Botox and having aesthetic treatments, then I would say go for it. Do what makes you happy and take no notice of what anyone else thinks.

I get you, OP. I’m 57

I’m still happy with the way I look. I’ve been on weight loss injections for 18 months so I’m even more happy - and I’ve stopped whilst I’ve still got some squidge, which I think helps too.

I have Botox, hair cut and coloured regularly, eyelash lifts, gel nails etc.

like you, I have a demanding job I’m happy with so I enjoy having a ‘look’.

i would say I look late 40s/very early 50s. I think lots of women look a bit younger these days.

my eyelids were getting heavy, which I did notice, but my Botox has sorted that so perhaps ask your technician?

I think it’s perfectly possible and acceptable to appreciate life and aging as a gift alongside wanting to look your best and most refreshed ? It’s not vain to try and make the most of yourself and have anti aging procedures and doesn’t mean you take life for granted if that’s what you want to do.

I’m 68, have had silver grey hair now for 7 years and my face tells the story of a life well lived with many ups and downs along the way. I love it. It’s real. It’s me.

I've truly never cared about ageing, I see it for what it is, a natural & normal process. I've also had friends die young (20's & 30's) so I would never consider wasting my time & energy on worrying about old how I look. They only think I have 'done' is lazer hair removal on my face as I'd look like a monkey!

I don't have to look at my face - everyone else has to, seriously put a bit of makeup on and forget about it.

Its a privilege to grow old, embrace your face with kindness, like an old friend you've been with all your life

I’m 45 planning to ruin the last of my looks and figure on another pregnancy/baby then booking in after for facelift and anything else that needs doing!

Have you tried Profhilo op? It hurts for the 5 minutes it takes to get it, but it has made a real difference, to me anyway. I’ve no desire to try fillers so this seems like a middle ground for me.

Absolutely transformational. My only regret is not doing this bit earlier.
Botox doesn’t “look awful”. BAD Botox looks awful. If it’s not badly done, you won’t even know it’s there.
My husband, mother and best friends don’t notice mine. DH is my “test” for if I ever start looking done or weird. He thoroughly disapproves of injectables and if he ever suspected I had them, he would start a row immediately. It’s been 7 years. No row.

You’ve either misunderstood me or are you saying women want to look good for men?

I believe that everyone wants to look good for themselves.