Aibu to feel jealous of my neighbour

You don’t get £1000 on dla or pip even on the highest rates, stop lying.

Well I wouldn’t be jealous of that lifestyle. She lives a terrible life, whether she realises it or not.

The benefit gravy train will inevitably derail at some point, this is what council estates up and down the country look like, and have for quite some years. Though, the people on here would have you believe people are living in slums and eating gruel for their only meal per week.

I welcome the financial crash that’s hurtling towards us at great speed. There simply won’t be the money to give to people for minor ailments or mild mental disorders that have come from living too comfortable a life.

Why are you only getting £200 UC when you are earning £900 a month. That doesn’t seem right at all. My husband is on 30k, we do have more kids, but get a lot more than that. Plus CB and Scottish child payment.

you don’t need a diagnosis to get disability payment for your child. What do you think having the diagnosis will change WRT how you don’t think you should apply?

it’s money for your child that could help them, special clothing, toys or sensory items, a special bike, certain food that they like, taxi or fuel for your car to take them to appointments or places that benefit them, etc

Pip is an adult benefit so she wouldn't get this for a child? To get even the lowest rate you have to provide various evidence from professionals especially if he is undiagnosed so her exaggerating his difficulties would not lead to this she is probably exagerrating to you.
Btw if your child has greater than average daily care needs you can apply now for dla. There is no point getting angry about someone else's situation the only thing you can affect is your own

Op sadly people who don’t work won’t care how they spend their free money and people only get offended because they’re on benefits or they know someone who is. The benefit system stinks it’s not fair at all and you probably resent the fact she wastes her money that’s free to her for doing fuck all. Simple as that. Your working your arse off and you have nothing spare of course this will piss you off. She is also rubbing your face in it. These people who don’t work at all are laughing at us mugs working to pay for there cushy life. If people work some hours and get uc that’s acceptable but lazy arses doing nothing pisses me off too.

I am fine thanks for asking. How about you?

are you ok emuloc? Has this triggered you in some way?

I doubt she actually has everything she wants in life OP, the situation hardly sounds amazing. Sounds pretty grim to be honest and I feel sorry for her children.

I take your point that it can feel unfair when you perceive that someone gets a lot of financial help when you don't but as it sounds like you are planning to apply for PIP and claim UC, what difference will there be in the long term? Your financial situation sounds as though it will improve through a process of claiming for entitled benefits and improving yourself professionally and achieving a higher salary, at which point you can also use any money you have spare for whatever you prefer.

I'd rather be on the bones of my arse, working and educating myself than coughing my guts up at home all day smoking weed, good lord. That's no life.

If the issue is that you think she's fraudulently claimed benefits and think that's wrong then report her for it.

OP, you have a future. She doesn’t. Well done to you.

I think you have used the wrong word - jealousy implies you want to be like her and that is not a great aspiration. I don't think it is unusual for people that are working to be annoyed about people they see living on benefits having a higher standard of living.

Concentrate on the future you are working towards and the example you are setting your children about working hard.

I don’t think you are jealous of her because from what you’ve written - you don’t admire her. I think that while you’re striving and working hard for a better life it is possible to envy someone who seems to have it easy. Your life will improve and change and you’ll feel achievement and pride. Her life is unlikely to change at all.

She receives over £1,000 a month for he 12yo because he is mildly autistic but undiagnosed atm and told me she actually exaggerated his symptoms to get more money, plus the other benefits she gets.

That is utterly total bollocks just so you know. Undiagnosed mild autism does not get you a grand a month.

What's your hourly wage as 900 seems extremely low for 4 days a week up to 8pm?

Really, well maybe encourage her not to take whatever is said at face value, considering that she seems to believe that the neighbour receives PIP for her child, which is just not possible.

Quite possible because DLA alone could get her £844 a month for her kid. I don't think you get PIP for kids its DLA and the higher rate care component is £114.60 and if they get the higher rate mobility then the higher rate is £80 so £194.6 x 52 and divided by 12 gives a monthly payment of £844.

What was your intention in posting this thread? Were you seeking confirmation that your jealousy means you should pick up sticks and move away from this neighbour? Or were you wanting to be affirmed in your virtue signalling that your life was so much more noble than your neighbour's? If all that you've taken from the responses to your post are that you're "not being unreasonable", I think you're not being honest with yourself.
Good luck in your future. I hope you can put aside your "jealousy" in order to achieve your goals and give your DC a super example of what resilience and success really look like.

If I had a penny for every random neighbour on MN who tells everyone intricate details of their benefit fraud I would have enough to come off benefits myself.

Even the highest rate dla isn’t over £1000 a month so that’s not accurate for a start

Yeah. I was trying to give her a bit of encouragement and offer a bit of ya’know… kindness? ….

What a lot of tripe.

I wouldn't feel jealous of her. Her life sounds fucking awful and not one I would want to lead. You have intellectual stimulation and a good work ethic, far more interesting than smoking weed all day.

Where is father of child/children in all this? Do you/will you get maintenance?

In ten years time she will still be living on benefits, her skin will be ruined by smoking, her tattoos will be fading, the plants will be dead.

You on the other hand will have a good job, a professional qualification and will have moved to a better area with neighbours who share your values.

In twenty years time she will be wearing fluffy slipper, pyjamas and a dressing gown to shuffle to the corner shop to top up her electricity and buy scratch cards. You will see her as you drive past with your partner, just smile and nod

How will you cope with your course plus a job when you have the baby?

Why do you believe her? People often lie and exaggerate regarding these things, some people see receiving a high amount of benefits/ PIP etc as something to brag about and make up ridiculous numbers. Most people don’t go about sharing their exact financial situation with neighbours so you have to think why she’s telling you and whether any of it is truth. It sounds like she’s trying to make her financial situation sound better than it probably is, I wouldn’t be surprised if the reality is she’s up to her eye balls in credit card and gambling debt. It doesn’t sound like she has a life to be jealous of or like she is somebody whose word you can trust to be the truth.

How are you doing 6 hrs a day x 4, plus overtime, and only getting £900 a month?!

At minimum wage that's only 4 hours a day.

If that's the case you're being wildly underpaid, and that's what you should be upset about, not what your neighbour is doing.