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To think that there are no well paid family friendly careers?

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Careerhelppp · 10/05/2026 11:39

I’m currently a SAHM to young children. Whilst my children are still young, I’d like to start preparing to return to the workplace in a few years time.

I previously worked in PR in London and have now moved over 300 miles away! The majority of PR is in London so it’s not really feasible for me to return to this. The area I was in was also the opposite of family friendly so it just wouldn’t have worked anyway.

DH is a high earner and there is no need for me to return to work. However I’ve started feeling like I’m just letting all of my potential and independence fade away and that I need to have a plan about getting a career back. The difficult part is that DH’s career completely dominates everything. He works away a lot and at short notice so I’d have to work around this. This is non-negotiable - DH couldn’t not do this and if he moved to a different role, we’d be taking a huge pay cut (probably over double what I’d ever realistically earn).

I’ve thought about law (love the academic side but I don’t think the hours would be flexible enough), teaching (not well paid enough to make it worthwhile for us), accounting, being a financial advisor, even being a therapist.

Ideally I’d like a job that is fairly flexible (eg. Allows me to finish earlier and pick back up in the evening), includes some WFH and is has a salary of over £50,000 if full time. Perhaps something where you could become self employed?

Any ideas?! Totally prepared to do another degree if needed and the cost of retraining isn’t an issue.

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folkjournals · 10/05/2026 11:56

Careerhelppp · 10/05/2026 11:54

Because we’d be making lots of sacrifices for me to work, and it just doesn’t feel worth it for a salary of say £30,000.

Right, but like everyone else, you need to play the long game.

IPM · 10/05/2026 11:55

There are lots of family friendly careers.

The problem is you're married to someone whose job takes priority.

Understandable, but it doesn't mean there aren't any well paid family careers for women who aren't.

folkjournals · 10/05/2026 11:55

Well, nobody is going to walk into a £50k flexible job without prior experience, are they!

Why did you rule out accounting?

Outside of the Big 4/mid tier (top 10) firms you could have that salary once qualified and certainly the flexibility to work hybrid, agree flexible working, and manage your own diary within reason. There will be busier and more stressful periods but that's the same anywhere.

It's a 3-year training contract to get there, but I've known trainees take maternity leaves during their TC and come back on 0.8 contracts afterwards. It obviously takes longer to qualify if not full time but it's possible.

Careerhelppp · 10/05/2026 11:54

PinkyFlamingo · 10/05/2026 11:53

If your DH is a very high earner I'm not sure why you said teaching is not financially suitable?

Because we’d be making lots of sacrifices for me to work, and it just doesn’t feel worth it for a salary of say £30,000.

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PinkyFlamingo · 10/05/2026 11:53

If your DH is a very high earner I'm not sure why you said teaching is not financially suitable?

Careerhelppp · 10/05/2026 11:53

owenscake · 10/05/2026 11:51

I’m a civil servant. I earn £85,000, I WFH, I own my own diary never missed a sports day etc. Used to do all the morning school drop offs (DH did pick up, we did use after school club for primary as I don’t believe in not having childcare when working). But now they’re in high school im in when they get home from school, so no latch key kids here.

Could I ask what department you work for? And could somebody do this with no specific qualification? Thanks for the response 😊.

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Careerhelppp · 10/05/2026 11:52

Bliiink · 10/05/2026 11:49

I'm pleased you've discounted teaching because of the pay because you'd also discover it's very inflexible, especially in comparison to careers where you can now often work from home. Aside from the holidays, it's not very family friendly.

Exactly. I love the idea of it but the practicality of it just wouldn’t work for me.

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owenscake · 10/05/2026 11:51

I’m a civil servant. I earn £85,000, I WFH, I own my own diary never missed a sports day etc. Used to do all the morning school drop offs (DH did pick up, we did use after school club for primary as I don’t believe in not having childcare when working). But now they’re in high school im in when they get home from school, so no latch key kids here.

Foxyloxy89 · 10/05/2026 11:50

Careerhelppp · 10/05/2026 11:39

I’m currently a SAHM to young children. Whilst my children are still young, I’d like to start preparing to return to the workplace in a few years time.

I previously worked in PR in London and have now moved over 300 miles away! The majority of PR is in London so it’s not really feasible for me to return to this. The area I was in was also the opposite of family friendly so it just wouldn’t have worked anyway.

DH is a high earner and there is no need for me to return to work. However I’ve started feeling like I’m just letting all of my potential and independence fade away and that I need to have a plan about getting a career back. The difficult part is that DH’s career completely dominates everything. He works away a lot and at short notice so I’d have to work around this. This is non-negotiable - DH couldn’t not do this and if he moved to a different role, we’d be taking a huge pay cut (probably over double what I’d ever realistically earn).

I’ve thought about law (love the academic side but I don’t think the hours would be flexible enough), teaching (not well paid enough to make it worthwhile for us), accounting, being a financial advisor, even being a therapist.

Ideally I’d like a job that is fairly flexible (eg. Allows me to finish earlier and pick back up in the evening), includes some WFH and is has a salary of over £50,000 if full time. Perhaps something where you could become self employed?

Any ideas?! Totally prepared to do another degree if needed and the cost of retraining isn’t an issue.

I'm a teacher and earn over 50k. I agree it doesn't allow you to do school drop offs and pick ups but the holidays obviously work well when you have school age children.

Meadowfinch · 10/05/2026 11:49

I managed but I was already established in an IT marketing career and I only had one child who went to ASC, so I collected him at 5.45. I was/am a single mum so it had to work. There wasn't a choice.

Look at maths or science tutoring or teaching swimming if you prefer something self-employed.

Bliiink · 10/05/2026 11:49

I'm pleased you've discounted teaching because of the pay because you'd also discover it's very inflexible, especially in comparison to careers where you can now often work from home. Aside from the holidays, it's not very family friendly.

Careerhelppp · 10/05/2026 11:47

MidnightPatrol · 10/05/2026 11:46

This is subjective based on your definition of ‘family friendly’.

Flexibility is about employer rather than industry imo.

If you have experience in PR, why not work freelance doing that?

Because I did it in a sector that doesn’t have any kind of self employed industry. And I find the sort of PR out of London or perhaps Manchester to be incredibly dull.

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Careerhelppp · 10/05/2026 11:46

LifeBeginsToday · 10/05/2026 11:45

Are you qualified to work in law or teaching (2 very different jobs with different entry requirements)? Or to jump straight into a high paid flexible role?

I earn £30k for part time work at the local council, mostly from home, but that is with 12 years there, career progression and self funded role specific studying on the side.

No I’m not qualified.
I’m prepared to embark upon a degree or training course to become qualified in something though - the question is just what?

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MidnightPatrol · 10/05/2026 11:46

This is subjective based on your definition of ‘family friendly’.

Flexibility is about employer rather than industry imo.

If you have experience in PR, why not work freelance doing that?

Careerhelppp · 10/05/2026 11:45

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 10/05/2026 11:44

There are certainly plenty of well paid jobs which offer substantial flexibility around family life, but in my experience, it's much easier to get flexibility when you are already relatively senior in a company and they don't want to lose you. It's all about leverage.

If you're planning on starting again and getting into a completely new field, I'm not so sure about options. Hopefully someone will have some suggestions.

Yes I agree. I think most well paid careers can become more family friendly if you’re already fairly high up - eg, law. But there’s no chance at having any flexibility when early in your career which is when I’d need it the most!

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LifeBeginsToday · 10/05/2026 11:45

Are you qualified to work in law or teaching (2 very different jobs with different entry requirements)? Or to jump straight into a high paid flexible role?

I earn £30k for part time work at the local council, mostly from home, but that is with 12 years there, career progression and self funded role specific studying on the side.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 10/05/2026 11:44

There are certainly plenty of well paid jobs which offer substantial flexibility around family life, but in my experience, it's much easier to get flexibility when you are already relatively senior in a company and they don't want to lose you. It's all about leverage.

If you're planning on starting again and getting into a completely new field, I'm not so sure about options. Hopefully someone will have some suggestions.

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