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Someone IS living next door to me

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Searchingforananswer2023 · 10/05/2026 11:13

House next door converted to a HMO and I posted before as I was worried.

I've been hearing footsteps going up and down the stairs for a while and thought it was my imagination. No windows are open, no lights are ever on there is no sound of a toilet flushing and the bins are never put out.

Just after midnight a car was running outside my house across the drive. I turned on my camera and the door next door opened to accept a takeaway.

I have been off work for a week and have not seen anyone enter or exit.

Unbelievablely strange

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Nonnim · 10/05/2026 13:27

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Nonnim · 10/05/2026 13:26

How terrible that some non owner occupiers were going to live next door to you, bound to be noisy and troublesome, and now somebody has moved in and actually they’re really quiet. Worrying all right…

BeanMeUp · 10/05/2026 13:22

Its a ghost. Its the only logical explanation.

Roads · 10/05/2026 13:16

I don't see what's odd about your neighbours. So you've not seen them or noticed windows open, that doesn't mean they are doing anything wrong. Nor were they in your garden they answered their own door for a delivery.

You sound very nosy.

catipuss · 10/05/2026 13:16

The electric and water may be turned off, do you know who was doing the conversion? You could ask them if anyone has moved in if you are worried. You could ask the council who the house belongs to if you don't know, or look it up on land registry and ask the owners. If it's an HMO there should be several people living there if it is genuinely occupied.

Somersetbaker · 10/05/2026 13:12

It's probably a cannabis farm, all the windows will have blackouts, so people outside don't see the growlights. One person living there to water the plants who fancied a pizza.

clamshell24 · 10/05/2026 13:07

Do you live next to my student ds?

WonsWoo · 10/05/2026 12:46

My neighbour would have fit this criteria for the last 5 years when he became disabled. He had low lamp lighting in his lounge and one of his sons used to take his rubbish at the weekend so he didn’t have to put the bins out. I knew he was there because I knew him before his accident and popped in/checked on
him when his son was unable to.

I have another neighbour that I’ve never seen more than the back of her head. I once noticed she put her bin out just before the bin men came so I assume she took it back in as soon as they’d gone.

I don’t think anything you’ve describe is totally bizarre, just people living differently than you.

bippyboppy · 10/05/2026 12:46

Get on with your own life, stop being a busy body.

Sometimes i go for walks early hours in the mornings
I also have food delivered gone midnight sometimes.

Poetnojo · 10/05/2026 12:44

I assumed she ment someone from her household is in her garden every night, so would notice any goings on next door

LaurieFairyCake · 10/05/2026 12:41

wait, what ?!? Someone IS IN YOUR GARDEN AT NIGHT !!!

lead with that, that’s really ODD - who and why ?

Happyjoe · 10/05/2026 12:39

Searchingforananswer2023 · 10/05/2026 12:04

Definitely not squatters, but how can you be up until midnight with no lights on? If you are getting a takeaway why not put out rubbish? The weather is great for drying, why not hang out your clothes and open a window to air the house?

I'm not nosey just aware of my surroundings as both properties either side of me have been empty for two years and someone is habitually in my garden at night.

Someone is in your garden at night? That's worrying. Have you a camera out back?

TootsMaHoots · 10/05/2026 12:39

How can you tell if your next door neighbour’s lights are on or off at midnight?

Comedycook · 10/05/2026 12:07

Get a life .. turning your camera on because there's a car outside is totally batshit. What a busy body you are. Do you have a very boring life.

tiramisugelato · 10/05/2026 12:07

Searchingforananswer2023 · 10/05/2026 12:04

Definitely not squatters, but how can you be up until midnight with no lights on? If you are getting a takeaway why not put out rubbish? The weather is great for drying, why not hang out your clothes and open a window to air the house?

I'm not nosey just aware of my surroundings as both properties either side of me have been empty for two years and someone is habitually in my garden at night.

You can easily be up until midnight with no lights - especially main lights - lots of people prefer soft lighting and will use lamps or fairy lights instead of harsh, visible overhead lights.

I wouldn't put out rubbish from a takeaway until I was emptying the indoor bin, which could be several days after ordering depending on what else we'd been doing.

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Searchingforananswer2023 · 10/05/2026 12:05

TroysMammy · 10/05/2026 11:25

Or a cannabis farm.

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No drugs, the dealers only come to the HMO across the road

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HelpMeGetThrough · 10/05/2026 12:04

Silvertulips · 10/05/2026 11:22

I don’t think it’s normal!

No one coming or going, no bins out, no lights or windows - sounds like squatters to me.

Feels normal to me.

Up to a week ago, I hadn’t seen or heard my neighbour outside (detached) for a month. Don’t know if the car moved or not in that time either, as I never bother looking.

Found out he was at least semi alive, as I heard him coughing his lungs up in the back garden.

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Searchingforananswer2023 · 10/05/2026 12:04

Definitely not squatters, but how can you be up until midnight with no lights on? If you are getting a takeaway why not put out rubbish? The weather is great for drying, why not hang out your clothes and open a window to air the house?

I'm not nosey just aware of my surroundings as both properties either side of me have been empty for two years and someone is habitually in my garden at night.

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TwoBagsOfCompost · 10/05/2026 12:03

Silvertulips · 10/05/2026 11:22

I don’t think it’s normal!

No one coming or going, no bins out, no lights or windows - sounds like squatters to me.

Or they just moved in?!

Safarisagoody · 10/05/2026 12:01

Maybe there is something missing from your story op. How is it strange someone is living in a house op.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 10/05/2026 12:01

I dont mind a nosy woman, op, crack on

Speaking of crack, i'm going drug farm 👀👀

Threeslothsontheshirt · 10/05/2026 12:00

Spooky

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 10/05/2026 11:58

Silvertulips · 10/05/2026 11:22

I don’t think it’s normal!

No one coming or going, no bins out, no lights or windows - sounds like squatters to me.

Eh? Squatters are very likely to come and go, open and close windows etc. What makes you think they wouldn't?
They're normal people.

notatinydancer · 10/05/2026 11:40

You can’t know what they’re doing unless you are watching the house 24/7. How strange.

Overitallandout · 10/05/2026 11:28

Maybe a safe house

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