AIBU to expect husband to do bulk of weekday childcare when he’s unemployed?

Me too! What a waste of space. Sorry Op but sounds like you’re married to a selfish wanker.

He can do all of that around looking after the 18mth old or he can contribute to childcare out of his inheritance.
although it doesn’t sound like there is any available.

millions of people, me included, have set up their own business working around their children (in my case an u der 1 year old). It’s a total luxury to say “I need uninterrupted days to job hunt / set up a business”. You do it when they’re asleep or in the evening.

its just not viable for most people and certainly a total pisstake to say that the other parent with an actual full time job takes on the childcare responsibility during their working day.

OP as someone else mentioned, he’s just looking for creative ways to waste money. What could that do to improve your family financially? But even if you see it as his money not family money. It doesn’t mean he gets to shove all the actual earning and home life responsibilities on to you.

It’s situations like this that expose the truth about women and childcare. You weren’t doing the bulk of it because it was more convenient, easier or cheaper with you doing the bulk or all of it, it’s because you are a woman and it’s your job, it’s why women never babysit their own kids.

Has he at least paid off the mortgage?

He's not being very helpful at all but I do partially agree with this. I'm in the same position as your H. Large redundancy payout and taking time out at the moment as I don't want to stay in IT any more. It's time consuming looking for a job, preparing for interviews or even if you are starting your own business that takes time to build. I'm also looking for a part time retail job so have interviews lined up for that. I have teenagers which lightens my load a lot but I think if they were smaller I would struggle to be a available.

I wonder if there is some miscommunication where its been assumed that he will have the children? For example you referred to him as unemployed and he sees himself as starting a business and doing work for that? Are you skeptical of his new business or not seeing it as a proper job?

FFS!!

And I'm a man

Either

Childcare and housework, or
Start seriously job hunting, or
What exactly is this business, how realistic is it and start running it

What was the plan for childcare had he not been made redundant?

Priortise your work, its cheating your employer if you try to work and do childcare.

Your husband is a selfish prick

Childcare comes before his desire to find creative ways to throw his money away.

Yes he can explore his business outside of your working hours, ensuring yoh both get some rest time also..

Tell him your employer doesn't allow you to do childcare whilst working, as the only one working now you can't afford to lose your job. He's hoping for a nice long holiday living on redundancy but that leaves you doing everything, not fair Op

This in spades. So he’s fannying around not doing much simply because he has the money to do so? Nah he can do childcare too.

Are you working off your phone's signal until you get broadband? That's what I did when talktalk suddenly decided to disconnect me and didn't tell me for about a week.
He should be stepping up to childcare if not actively searching for jobs.

Yep go to the office.

These fucking men!! Where do they get this vastly inflated sense of their own importance from?

I agree with PPs, go to the office or go anywhere else to work and leave him to it. He isn't more important than you

Wow I can't imagine ever needing such a conversation with my dh, when he isn't at work he just dives in doesn't expect me to do it all day everyday

Go into the office nice and early every day. Or to a We Work space or cafe. You need WiFi.

I would not be supporting this “hobby job” bullshit either.

Go to the office or take laptop and go out. Does he understand you can’t look after child while working? You could end up sacked!

If I had an employee wfh but childcaring then that I would have strong words with them. You cannot afford to be messing up your job whilst DH doesn't have one. So you are at work and that is that. Tell him straight

No doubt you’ll be sorting out all the laundry, meals, grocery shopping and all of your children’s other needs too

fucking waste of space.

what even is his business idea?

Oh God please tell him to piss off. Another man with grandiose ideas of setting up a business when its likely to be a miserable failure unless its an ice cream van.
He either gets a full time job or looks after the kids...end of.

Can't he wait til September to start his business when the youngest will be in childcare? That's what I'd be suggesting to him. You cannot care for a toddler while WFH

You cannot care for a child while WFH.

He does however need time to explore looking for a new job / whatever business idea he has. Assuming you’re working 9-5 5 days a week, he does need some time within working hours to do this.

You therefore (both) need to find some sort of childcare for your 18 month old. Have you got any family that can help? Might a childminder be able to do a few hours a week?

Until the alternative short-term childcare is resolved, he should be doing all care for the baby during working hours.

If there's no broadband at home you'll have to go out somewhere to work anyway won't you? I'd keep doing that, and be in no hurry to arrange home broadband either.

Didn't even read your post, not working equals childcare. Plenty do it with a full time job!