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AIBU to feel hurt about my daughter’s wedding plans changing

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Mimimummygranny · 10/05/2026 08:05

My daughter had arranged her wedding for later this year, then cancelled, telling me by text. Now it’s a small wedding with only two witnesses and at 11 days notice I’m invited to a late lunch hosted by her partner’s mother.
I’m hurt and can’t believe she expects me to drop my work and other commitments (missing a medical appointment) at such short notice.
I don’t want to be unreasonable …..

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SonyaLoosemore · 10/05/2026 08:24

Just go OP. Things are shaky between you and this is s chance to do something nice together, celebrating her wedding.

Nighttimenoise · 10/05/2026 08:21

I'm close to my daughter and if she did this, I'd call her and ask her what was going on as it would be very unusual for her not to discuss it with me in person.
Are you close to your daughter?

HellonHeels · 10/05/2026 08:18

Perhaps they had a lot of interference from family about what their wedding would be like? Overbearing demands for relatives to be invited, criticism of their plans etc?

That would be a good reason to rethink the format of the wedding.

Katflapkit · 10/05/2026 08:18

Are his parent going to be the two witnesses?

TheToteBagLady · 10/05/2026 08:18

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Tryagain26 · 10/05/2026 08:16

I'm confused it's the late lunch for the wedding ? Is the wedding in 11 days?
I think deciding to have a quiet wedding is fine but she should have mentioned it to you first t make sure you are free. If the lunch is just a lunch with mother in law to discuss the wedding can you ask her to rearrange it because of your medical appointment? If the wedding is in 11 days I would ask for leave fro work and try and arrange the medical appointment? Does your daughter know about the appointment? And how long have you been waiting for it?

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 10/05/2026 08:15

I think YABU. It's her and her partner's day. Short of a major operation, I wouldn't be bothered about rescheduling work/ appointment.

Lomonald · 10/05/2026 08:13

Why is the partners mum hosting a lunch whats going on that the wedding is cancelled and re planned? Yes I would go but I would be wondering if everyone was alright ?

TeenLifeMum · 10/05/2026 08:12

It’s a bit selfish (weddings often are tbh) but I’d assume there’s a reason and would just be glad they included me in the day.

PygmyOwl · 10/05/2026 08:12

Are you hurt because her partner's parents are hosting rather than you? Yes, I would be sad about that, but I'd still drop everything to attend the wedding.

Peonies12 · 10/05/2026 08:11

Have you spoken to her about why? Is she pregnant do you think?

TootsMaHoots · 10/05/2026 08:11

Well, she will be saving a fortune.

What sort of medical appointment? I would be reluctant to reschedule an operation but if it’s the dentist or something like then it’s an inconvenience but not something that would stop me going to my child’s wedding.

PoppinjayPolly · 10/05/2026 08:08

My first thought would be “is everything/one ok?”

MyballsareSandy2015 · 10/05/2026 08:07

How close are you? How often do you see her and her partner?

I personally would drop everything for my DDs wedding but the communication does seem odd.

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