AIBU to think a real friend would not make hurtful jokes?

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ThatLilacHedgehog · 09/05/2026 19:23

I have a friend I’ve known for around 2 years, we are good friends, but I’m exhausted by the way she treats me, she makes negative comments about my appearance all the time, saying things that aren’t very nice, but always brushing it off with laughter and calling it her love language…

she always wants to hang out and do stuff but I don’t know

AIBU in thinking a real friend wouldn’t be like this?

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RampantIvy · 09/05/2026 19:29

we are good friends, but I’m exhausted by the way she treats me, she makes negative comments about my appearance all the time, saying things that aren’t very nice, but always brushing it off with laughter and calling it her love language…

She isn't a friend. She is a bully. You aren't good friends.
I would cool this "friendship" and pull away. She is belittling you to feel better about herself and than passing it off as a "joke". It is only a joke if you find it funny.

I would cool this "friendship" and pull away.

Somesweetday · 09/05/2026 19:29

She is not your friend OP.
Friends don't say horribe things to each.

It sounds as though she is trying to diminish you either because she is jealous of you or because she thinks making you look small makes her look bigger and better.

Please don't put up with this nasty behaviour OP. Spend your time with other friends or try and make new ones.

Roofofthecaravan · 09/05/2026 19:27

Real Friends don’t make you feel crap

let this ‘friendship’ go and hang out with people who love you and make you feel good about yourself not put you down.

life’s too short to tolerate mean people

Hatty65 · 09/05/2026 19:26

You barely know this woman, and she's barely a friend. She's someone who likes to have you around to make snipey little digs and put you down to make herself feel better.

Get rid of her.

Henhipster · 09/05/2026 19:25

Drop her, you don’t need this, it sounds awful.

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