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AIBU to wonder which button people would press to survive?

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Boxingshibes · 09/05/2026 19:11

Everyone on earth takes a private vote by pressing a red or blue button.

If more than 50% of people press the blue button, everyone survives.

If less than 50% of people press the blue button, only people who pressed the red button survive. Which button would you press?

Red or blue
Red- aibu
Blue-ainbu

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LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 12/05/2026 15:46

RobinEllacotStrike · 12/05/2026 15:28

shall I take personal responsibility and push red and survive?

Or shall I put my life into the hands of unknown masses of people, at a time when being stupid is celebrated like never before, at a time when society feels more divided than ever before, at a time when some people insist men are women and only bigots disagree, at a time when racism is celebrated, at a time when lying is common and also celebrated etc etc etc?

no way. I'll take the personal responsibility route, and so should everyone else.

Well said!

RobinEllacotStrike · 12/05/2026 15:28

shall I take personal responsibility and push red and survive?

Or shall I put my life into the hands of unknown masses of people, at a time when being stupid is celebrated like never before, at a time when society feels more divided than ever before, at a time when some people insist men are women and only bigots disagree, at a time when racism is celebrated, at a time when lying is common and also celebrated etc etc etc?

no way. I'll take the personal responsibility route, and so should everyone else.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 12/05/2026 15:11

Haffway · 12/05/2026 15:09

It’s fascinating how consistent the outcome of this experiment has been across SM - I feel like Mr Spock watching this strange species acting illogically.

I pushed red, and now I’m pondering whether it would be better to push blue in the knowledge that so many other people would be daft enough to vote blue. I didn’t want daft people to die, tbf, I just assumed that when everyone is handed a life jacket they’d put the bloody thing on. Nowt queer as folk.

The naivety would be enough to make me press red even if I had faith in human nature!

Haffway · 12/05/2026 15:09

WaryCrow · 11/05/2026 05:31

I’m waiting for the reveal that this question was run before in the 90s / 2000s before the economic and demographic changes bit hard,.

And most voted blue.

How cultures change and destroy themselves…

It’s fascinating how consistent the outcome of this experiment has been across SM - I feel like Mr Spock watching this strange species acting illogically.

I pushed red, and now I’m pondering whether it would be better to push blue in the knowledge that so many other people would be daft enough to vote blue. I didn’t want daft people to die, tbf, I just assumed that when everyone is handed a life jacket they’d put the bloody thing on. Nowt queer as folk.

NorthXNorthWest · 12/05/2026 13:39

NorthXNorthWest · 12/05/2026 13:25

The irony of all these people trying to guilt or shame others into placing blind trust in the altruism of strangers. Blind faith has been exploited throughout history to justify some truly terrible behaviour. There is nothing altruistic about using shame-based pressure to coerce conformity. In fact, knowing / seeing that some people automatically default to that behaviour is enough to ensure that I would press the red, all day long!

The irony of the blue button people...

NorthXNorthWest · 12/05/2026 13:25

The irony of all these people trying to guilt or shame others into placing blind trust in the altruism of strangers. Blind faith has been exploited throughout history to justify some truly terrible behaviour. There is nothing altruistic about using shame-based pressure to coerce conformity. In fact, knowing / seeing that some people automatically default to that behaviour is enough to ensure that I would press the red, all day long!

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 12/05/2026 09:24

NeverDropYourMooncup · 12/05/2026 08:04

Wouldn't be great for them if people fell for the framing and opted for blue instead of the everybody wins choice of red, either.

But they won’t. People may like to think they would risk themselves to save the lives of unknown people but it’s clearly not true in general.

I would still press red and if that makes me a bad person then so be it

NeverDropYourMooncup · 12/05/2026 08:04

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 11/05/2026 20:23

If you exclude babies and change from the outcome then that isn’t going to be great if all the parents are dead because of the number of people pressing red.

Wouldn't be great for them if people fell for the framing and opted for blue instead of the everybody wins choice of red, either.

JumpingPumpkin · 12/05/2026 06:41

SnappyQuoter · 09/05/2026 21:57

Who some idiot on twitter has written because they misunderstood game theory and missed out on the actual interesting debate that comes with it.

This is a simple “everyone lives or everyone dies” choice. So everyone would choose red so that everyone can live, with no personal risk to yourself.

Prisoner’s dilemma, game theory, comes with risk no matter what. And it’s about weighing up that risk - choosing for yourself, even though there could be a slightly bad outcome but it’s better than nothing, or choose for the group even though it could mean you get nothing. That’s an interesting discussion. This is just stupid people vs anyone with a brain, because there is an option that has no personal or group risk of everyone goes for it. So everyone would.

It's really quite fascinating that you can't understand that this isn't "game theory".
It's like you're seeing an abstract painting for the first time and keep explaining that the artist failed to make the objects look realistic.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 11/05/2026 20:28

OtterlyAstounding · 10/05/2026 22:09

Well then, if all babies and toddlers are going to die because they can't push buttons, and most very young children would die because they can't properly comprehend the question, the experiment would become the boring 'nearly everyone pushes blue'.

And even with incompetent people not being brought into the matter, it seems that many people would still vote blue, and think it's the only moral option. So I don't think that holds true.

Why would you assume it would be ‘nearly everyone votes blue’ in that circumstance?

Because if enough people press red, and if you exclude babies from the consequences, then you get a lot of parentless children and the ones pressing red aren’t going to step up. So the babies and toddlers will die ultimately

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 11/05/2026 20:23

OtterlyAstounding · 10/05/2026 21:51

I would have to assume that, were this hypothetical actually real, it would probably be treated in much the same way as a real life vote. So:

  • Provisions for accessibility, so assistance for the blind, etc.
  • Information would be provided to explain it clearly in simple language.
  • Only people of the age of majority, who are competent, would be expected to push the button. Everyone else I imagine would either be excluded from the effects of the outcome and only those who pushed a button would be impacted OR they would be expected to have a guardian or caregiver push the button for them.

If you exclude babies and change from the outcome then that isn’t going to be great if all the parents are dead because of the number of people pressing red.

AirborneElephant · 11/05/2026 20:08

Red, obviously. Then you have a 100% chance of surviving. If people want to self select themselves out by pushing blue that’s on them. You need a better example if you’re trying to set up a moral choice

Rosebyanothername19 · 11/05/2026 19:58

user1471453601 · 09/05/2026 20:02

And a third reason I'd press blue is I'm sure I would not want to live in a world populated by people who has pressed red. People who had the potential to kill others. Not a world of be prepared to live in.

If everyone on the earth pressed red though then everyone would survive! They all have the same choice as you.

If it was the case that only 50% of people were making the decision for everyone then I would be absolutely in agreement with you.

I looked at it another way: say a plane was going to crash, everyone has a parachute and can jump and will survive, or 50% of people can jump and the plane might be light enough to make it down safely so the rest survive too. Surely the whole plane would jump to ensure they lived rather than taking the risk? Why would you not??

NorthXNorthWest · 11/05/2026 19:45

JanBlues2026 · 09/05/2026 21:56

You are totally missing the point here, yes ‘stupid’ people will press the blue button The moral part is whether you want to try and save those people or let them die. This could include young children, people who are mentally impaired (conditions like dementia), low IQ or other reasons for not being able to comprehend.

Framing this as purely a morality test is an oversimplification. A pragmatic decision is an equally valid decision. (Most) Humans are wired with survival instincts, and many people will prioritise staying alive, protecting loved ones, and ensuring they stay alive to help others rather than placing their lives and their families lives, entirely in the hands of strangers.

The red button/blue button is an example where blind faith could be detrimental to your health and the health of all those you care about.

moderate · 11/05/2026 13:32

GeneralPeter · 11/05/2026 06:24

So much of the intuition depends on how the question is framed.

Everyone is led into a room, blindfolded and given an empty pistol.

Those who wish to are permitted to get a bullet and put it into their gun.

All must then put the gun to their heads.

If more than 50% have chosen a bullet then the experiment is stopped. Otherwise all are required to pull the trigger.

Should you put a bullet into your gun?

Excellent observation. Now it’s a trolley problem — acts of omission vs commission.

ColdAsAWitches · 11/05/2026 08:27

McSpoot · 11/05/2026 01:23

You must have misremembered it as it doesn’t make sense as written (it isn’t any sort of conundrum).

She hasn't misremembered. This question is all over the Internet for the last couple of weeks.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 11/05/2026 08:26

Wordsmithery · 11/05/2026 08:07

I'd like to think I'd be philanthropic and press blue. But obviously if I'm hellbent on my own survival at any cost, then red.
But pressing red feels a bit like voting for the party that serves you best personally rather than the one that's best for the country. You're pissing on all the people who don't understand the question, or who are voting blue in the hope that they can save everyone.
Really interesting question, thanks OP.

You do know that that is exactly what most people do in elections, don’t you? Do you honestly believe people vote against their own interests for the sake of the country? Some may of course but I would bet it’s rare, despite what people claim.

And you aren’t pissing over anyone by voting red. They have the right to do the same and if they don’t understand the question surely they are just as likely to vote red too.

I think voting blue because you have some level of faith in human nature is well meaning but incredibly naive

GeneralPeter · 11/05/2026 08:08

Wordsmithery · 11/05/2026 08:07

I'd like to think I'd be philanthropic and press blue. But obviously if I'm hellbent on my own survival at any cost, then red.
But pressing red feels a bit like voting for the party that serves you best personally rather than the one that's best for the country. You're pissing on all the people who don't understand the question, or who are voting blue in the hope that they can save everyone.
Really interesting question, thanks OP.

But if you choose blue and your loved ones choose red, you are leaving them without you. So even thinking about others it’s not one-sided.

Wordsmithery · 11/05/2026 08:07

I'd like to think I'd be philanthropic and press blue. But obviously if I'm hellbent on my own survival at any cost, then red.
But pressing red feels a bit like voting for the party that serves you best personally rather than the one that's best for the country. You're pissing on all the people who don't understand the question, or who are voting blue in the hope that they can save everyone.
Really interesting question, thanks OP.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 11/05/2026 07:36

GeneralPeter · 11/05/2026 06:24

So much of the intuition depends on how the question is framed.

Everyone is led into a room, blindfolded and given an empty pistol.

Those who wish to are permitted to get a bullet and put it into their gun.

All must then put the gun to their heads.

If more than 50% have chosen a bullet then the experiment is stopped. Otherwise all are required to pull the trigger.

Should you put a bullet into your gun?

Still wouldn’t do that though.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 11/05/2026 07:34

WaryCrow · 11/05/2026 05:31

I’m waiting for the reveal that this question was run before in the 90s / 2000s before the economic and demographic changes bit hard,.

And most voted blue.

How cultures change and destroy themselves…

Even before then it probably would be the same. You cant change human instinct that quickly

GeneralPeter · 11/05/2026 06:24

So much of the intuition depends on how the question is framed.

Everyone is led into a room, blindfolded and given an empty pistol.

Those who wish to are permitted to get a bullet and put it into their gun.

All must then put the gun to their heads.

If more than 50% have chosen a bullet then the experiment is stopped. Otherwise all are required to pull the trigger.

Should you put a bullet into your gun?

WaryCrow · 11/05/2026 05:31

I’m waiting for the reveal that this question was run before in the 90s / 2000s before the economic and demographic changes bit hard,.

And most voted blue.

How cultures change and destroy themselves…

Ponderingwindow · 11/05/2026 04:52

@SnappyQuoter

the point of game theory is not that betrayal is necessary to win. You are focusing on one particular thought exercise. Game theory supposes that people will act in their own self interest. This has proven true when tested in experimental and applied conditions.

Game theory has been used as the basis for forming systems and rules that provide optimized outcomes for the greater community. It has strong applications in resource management.

You don’t have to design a “game” where someone wins and someone loses. It’s possible as the person in charge of a regulatory environment, project, or auction, to write the rules to maximize the value to stakeholders. Will everyone be happy with the outcome? Probably not. But if your goal is to best serve a population, you can use game theory to design a system to reach that goal just as easily as you can to show that people are assholes.

moderate · 11/05/2026 02:26

SnappyQuoter · 09/05/2026 21:04

The prisoner’s dilemma is. But the OP’s question is not an example of that. It’s just nonsense.

The golden balls thing also isn’t the prisoner’s dilemma either, because they have option 3 as “both steal then you both get nothing.” Prisoners dilemma would be that both steal and then both win a smaller sum than they could have won if they cooperated.

The point of game theory is that betraying someone is the only way to guarantee you win something/won’t suffer the worst fate, but you’re still worse off than if you both cooperated. But the risk of cooperating is that you need to trust the other person, because if they betray you, then you’re the only one who suffers and you suffer badly. That’s the talking point and where the discussion comes in.

The OP’s question isn’t game theory. She needs another outcome.

Edited

The point of game theory is that betraying someone is the only way to guarantee you win something/won’t suffer the worst fate, but you’re still worse off than if you both cooperated.

Well then I guess it depends whether you think millions of your fellow human beings dying makes you worse off.