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AIBU to stop confiding in MIL after she shares personal details?

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RainbowStars27 · 09/05/2026 15:02

I don’t know if I’m overreacting but …
I genuinely get on very well with my MIL and we are close. She comes over and we chat or go for coffee etc.

However recently I have noticed that she has been sharing lots of thing I tell her (even personal things like our finances, health, my friendship issues etc) with other members in her (DP’s) family. This is even after I have said ‘oh please keep that to yourself!’

Nothing I have said is top secret and I don’t particularly mind, but it just annoys me that the whole family now knows me and DPs business when I have explicitly asked she doesn’t share.

DP has just said she has form for being a gossip. It just makes me not want to tell her anything personal now!! I know she hasn’t shared anything awful but it still upsets me.

Am I overreacting?

OP posts:
Okiedokie123 · 09/05/2026 15:18

I wouldnt fall out with her over it but I would restrict further conversations to the weather!

Whiteheadhouse · 09/05/2026 15:18

Why would you share your business with her? Thats on you. I'd be pissed off if my partner couldn't keep our business private. Information diet from now on.

Sand0 · 09/05/2026 15:16

No point falling out with her over this,
just stop telling her stuff 🤷‍♀️

Yodeldodeldo · 09/05/2026 15:05

I'm just very selective what I tell mine. Strategic almost.

Don"t fall out with her, just recognise some people can't help themselves.

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