Vile remark at meeting - what to do?

Terrible comment by her. Me personally I would have pulled her up in the meeting but that's who I am I can't stand people like that bullying behaviour. At this point I think as your partner has said she's made herself look poor but I would pull her aside and say something calm and firm. I would also make it clear if it happens again you will take it further. I mean can you complaint or have other members discuss her mannerism with her.

It reflects badly on her and everyone will have thought the same.

However you storming out or making a big deal of it will just show you as a pompous snowflake.

Face like a blunt chisel has made me laugh in the past.

Is this a parish council meeting ?
Does Jackie Weaver have authority ?

I've been on committees before and I've heard far worse comments than this.
Let it go.

MH issues, the more I think about it. No one in their right mind would say anything like this.

If similar were to crop up again, you could:

1. turn and stare at the speaker
2. say ‘ a bit harsh, surely?’
3. say ‘let’s keep this professional’
4. say ‘errr excuse me <Susie>’

Or a combination of the above

Have we established whether the subjects face is like an armpit? I feel this is pertinent information

Hardly vile. That’s very mild!

I wouldn't say its a vile remark that's a bit strong a word I can think of far more extremely vile names to be called.
I'd say its unkind she is trying to be funny but obviously she is disliked already.
Be brave and bring it up to her face ... just say " is there any need for your insults don't be so unkind especially when asking for a favour .. say are you this unkind about everyone behind their backs...

I think I'd rather someone called me a cunt than said I have a face like an armpit.

She showed herself up and embarrassed herself. That was a vile thing to say but I'm confused to why you would even think of resigning over something like that. I would have just asked why she thinks that person's face looks like an armpit. I've never heard that saying before. Seems a odd nasty thing to say.

Goodness, imagine the so called people who have this facade of columns of society....filled with hatred towards the ordinary folk they are helping to

She showed herself up. Nobody else found her funny. It’s not on you. Be prepared next time to pull her up.

I'm trying to picture a face that's sort of caved in or dented like an armpit but struggling to create the mental image.

Would you use these descriptors to someone’s face?

That is so funny. Do you faint if someone says fuck or cunt?

But why on earth should she use any description?
The woman presumably has a name! Why not use it? I take it it’s something like a PTA or a WI type of committee, as I’m sure in a business or corporate environment, she most certainly wouldn’t use a phrase like that, or any other, to describe a person that they’re actually wanting help from, without being pulled up about it. What a horrible woman.

I agree it's an awful offensive comment made to get a cheap laugh at someone else's expense and she needs to be pulled up on it. If it's not too late you could say you found it really offensive and how it showed complete disregard for someone else's feelings. At the very least it might make her think about it. If she brushes it off as you are making a fuss over nothing then I would resign. At least you have standards. I don't know why so many people on here think it's funny. How would they like it if the comment were made about their son or daughter.

I’m not laughing at all……

Not worth making a major issue.
Consider the poor woman the insult was aimed at and her embarrassment at knowing what was said about her 😩.

@Anewuser, Please don't make ageist remarks either.
I'm in my late 60's, and I know not to make remarks like that - not that I ever would even think of doing so - my parents were born in the 1920's and would also have never thought of using such an - obviously meant to be nasty - term. In fact none of my Grandparents who were born in the 19th century would have been shocked to hear such a horrible term.

@bagpuss90 the person who used that silly phrase as an insult about one of your club members, is just showing their ignorance, and nasty character. But as someone else previously said - on page 1 I think - the best thing to do if there is ever another similar occasion when people are disrespectful of others, is to ask that they keep their language and words respectful.

Speak to her and say you suggest personal insults are kept out of the Committee meetings. Even if said in jest, it’s rude. Imagine how the person would feel if they knew they’d been spoken about that way in a meeting.

If she says anything like it at future meetings, call it out at the time.

Pick your battles.

Get over yourself

I agree with your husband, she’s shown her true colours without any help from anyone else. Digging a hole all by herself.