Very sensitive toddler

OP, it might be a good thing if you asked your GP or another professional about your daughter and explain your fears, and that way, if they tell you (as I think is very very likely) that she doesn't have ASD/ADHD/anything else you might be worried about, it could help to assuage your anxiety a lot more than posting on Mumsnet will. If you could get counselling for yourself that would be really good too.

have you got the link?

I think the OP has another thread running where a few details have been changed.
I'm really worried about this child.

Is this the poster who relentlessly posts about the possibility of ND in their toddler, without actually consulting healthcare professionals?

For what it's worth you've described a perfectly normal child. Some are more sensitive than others and that's perfectly usual. She's also probably picking up on your nerves and would thrive in playschool.

I would suggest however you may be projecting on to her, and could potentially benefit from ND assessment yourself.

TBH, the more OP seeks ‘help’ for her daughter, the more likely it is to flag up as an anxiety: safeguarding issue.

Will you be happy when she is an unwell as you?

You!

You are catastrophising and labelling normal behaviour!

You!

For goodness sake this is normal behaviour why are you dramatising it?

@ForLovingTealSheep Instead of walking away from threads, only to start another one sometime afterwards, why not engage further with the posters here who have given you good, sound advice? Give some indication that you've taken on board what everyone is telling you? Why do you start threads if you don't want to listen to any of the advice given to you?

I think everyone here agrees that the best thing you could do is put your 3yo in preschool, are you willing to do that?

Everyone also recognises that you need help, not just the posters on this thread but the posters on your previous threads. Don't you find it exhausting to constantly worry and analyse everything about your daughter? You and your little girl would enjoy life so much more if you could just live in the present and enjoy life, appreciate and accept your daughter as she is. Are you willing to get help for your anxiety - for your daughter's sake if not for your own?

OP, you just ignore everyone telling you to seek help for your projected health anxiety. You really need to do this. It’s not normal or healthy to obsess over possible ‘problems’ so much, especially since everyone is telling you your daughter sounds perfectly normal for her age. I had a mother like this, always being dragged to the doctor’s for some perceived issue, right into my teens. It’s made me avoid doctors in an unhealthy way and as for my relationship with my mum now, well…

She sounds like a lovely and perfectly ordinary little girl. Would you be able to access any therapy for your anxiety? It might really benefit you and her.

Oh it’s you again.

What you are describing sounds absolutely normal and was my experience. What exactly do you expect from a 3 year old?! I think you are making a huge mistake not sending her to preschool where she can develop confidence and independence. It would also give her time away from you which, given your issues with her behaviour, would be a good thing. Because much as you try not to, you will project your worries onto her and that’s not good

She's just a bit shy and quiet. I find people completely expect adults to have a full range of "massive extrovert/super outgoing" to "introvert, shy, prefers small groups and 121 friendships" but then when it comes to children it's seen that the norm is that they should all love playing as a massive group all the time, otherwise there's something wrong.
Maybe she will always find large groups a bit much, nothing wrong with that (me too love!) Or maybe she will grow out of it. Maybe she will always be a bit shy and need some warm up time, or maybe she will grow out of it. Either way, it's not a problem or wrong, it's just her vibe.
Roll with what makes her feel happy and confident, keep trying new things, expose her to differen scenarios, expect that she might need a bit more warm up time or find it tricky at the start, and with a bit of time, she'll become exactly who she is meant to be.

I'd definitely try a bit of pre school, but find a nice one that suits her personality and is maybe a bit smaller and quieter, and let her gradually build her time up.

She needs even a couple of days at nursery or school is going to overwhelm her. She needs exposure slowly and school doesn't do that

Kindly put youvare overthinking this and seriously depriving your daughter from other experiences by not sending her to preschool/ kindergarten. One important thing is the leaving her and collecting her rather than always being with her.

She sounds totally normal to me. Get her into pre school for a few sessions a week asap.

Preschool is ideal for getting kids used to others in small groups. Definitely send her now, the shock at starting school if not exposed to preschool will be harder for her otherwise.
Even better if there's a preschool connected to the primary she'll start at.

She sounds completely normal but she does need to start preschool or nursery ASAP. She needs to have more experience being away from you - it’s only going to get harder the longer you leave it. You need to get yourself some mental heath support; having seen your precious posts.

Child sounds normal.
what’s not normal though is your obsessive listing
please ask your HV & GP for support for YOU.
you’ve posted about this a lot, and I’m feeling like this is Münchausen syndrome by proxy. You need help and support yourself.

you Sound extremely anxious and trying to project this on your Lo. I have a toddler the same age and what you’ve described her is so bog standard normal. Are you trying to diagnose her for some reason.? This isn’t normal how you have analysed her to this extent. Becareful op, she might develop some serious issues if you carry on like this

I’ve just caught up on previous posts. OP, you need to get yourself some help because your extreme anxiety and obsession with this will harm your daughter. She currently sounds like a normal 3yo, they all have different temperaments, personalities, quirks, dislikes. But if you keep on going the way you are, you will ruin her childhood and set her up for a lifetime of anxiety and struggle as an adult. You are the problem here, not her, please seek help.

I suspect this is shouting into the void, but you are pathologising normal 3yo behaviour and feeding your own mental health problems. If you can’t find it in you to seek help for yourself then please do it for the sake of your child. Don’t let her childhood become all about you and your issues. These threads I suspect are just feeding your obsession so please stop making them.

@ForLovingTealSheep Your daughter seems to be a very lovely, very normal little girl. She would benefit from attending preschool, even if on a part time basis to start with, to help build up her confidence and have fun with other children. It's perfectly normal and ok if she seems shy or more cautious than others, we all have different personalities.

You, on the other hand, do not come across as a well adjusted, mentally healthy individual. I have read many of your threads, I wish you would take people's advice and get help - for yourself. You are at great risk of messing up your little girl and damaging your chances of having a close relationship with her if you don't accept that your need to analyse every thing she does and says and look for problems is not at all normal.

Here we fucking go again...