To tell son it’s too much and affecting his dad’s self esteem.

He sounds like an insufferable bore. Get your own back by asking him why, if he's got such a great body, he's still single at 25. Probably because he's so dull and superficial.

Put a chain on, and tell him not to come before 11 as you both like a lie in. You both need to get firmer, he’s out of order.

Change the locks. But being 55 is absolutely not a barrier to change.

I think it is not ANY adults job, right, or duty for one adult to give another adult unsought advice especially when its presented critically or they are invading your house to do it. If politely pointing this out doesn't or hasn't worked then the next step is to confiscate their door key. If they continue to do it on invited visits then you tell them to leave and say there will be no more invited visits until he apologises and treats his parents like adults.

This is what I was thinking. Tell him if he wants his dad to exercise more he needs to stop interrupting

Well for a start I’d be leaving the snib on, or a key in the door so your son can’t let himself in….

I find it so surprising all these posters saying he's only doing it in a cruel to be kind of situation.

I actually suspect it has fuck all to do with worrying about his dad's health and future well being and everything to do with him jumping on a healthy bandwagon and expecting everyone to now listen to him as if he's the font of all knowledge.

If he actually cared about his dad's health then this is not how he would approach the situation and it doesn't account for the digs about being in bed all morning and the driving comments.

He isn't concerned about his dad at all and I'm staggered so many think he is.

It's his life

He can be stubborn if he wants

He doesn't need an excuse

It's his life and he can live it how he wants

Change your locks then!

You and your husband are allowing him to do as he likes.

I think you need to say to him that you and hubby are older than him and have different lifestyle choices and you all need to be respectful of that.
Tell him its upsetting you so would be stop making comments please.
My husband did similar with his cousin and it was beginning to annoy his. His cousins wife told me and I had a word with my hubby. He had no intention of upsetting his cousin and didn't realise he was doing so. He felt really bad. But it did the trick and everyone is happy again

Why is his self esteem affected? Either he embraces his lifestyle choice and find peace with it, or he knows he should do something about it and acknowledges it.

Yes, it sounds like your son is expressing his frustration too vehemently but your DH stubborn attitude is not much better.

And when has criticism and constant nagging ever worked in changing someone? The opposite tends to happen.

His dad is an adult, fully aware of health and fitness.

Sounds like he'd prefer his dad not to die in the next ten years.

My kids have keys

They never let themselves in if we're home

What if you were dtd when he came in!? He's being very rude. Tell him he has to ring the bell, it's not his home anymore

And if he can't just come round to just see you and have a chat then maybe he shouldn't come?

You need to tell him he is interrupting your weekend morning shag and you thought when he moved out he would no longer be a cockblock.

Leave your key in the lock so he can’t use his

Any son of mine who did that to me would NOT find his name in my Will when the time comes.

Spot on 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Your sons comments are extremly rude, insensitive and obnoxious, especially as the subject is a personal matter against his dad.

You and your DH need to have some firm words with him, he has chosen his lifestyle, he needs to let you both choose yours.

People need to change their lifestyles or eating habits in their own perfect time and when pressured, it could make the matter worse and backfire. Your DH could gain weight due to the extra burdon your DS is putting on him and it becomes a vicious cycle.

I appreciate he thinks he's doing this for his Dads' health but he is causing more harm than good due to the psycological link between food and stress.

If he has a key to your house, demand he gives it back. He must be told to stop barging in earlier in the morning.

Lock your doors at night or any time so long as the doors are locked before you go to sleep, he is less likely to 'inspect' your fridge like he has been doing.

He needs to apologise to his dad for the intimidation.

Set firm boundaries and hopefully things will improve.

Tell him your still in bed as you've had a wild night of sex and that's enough exercise. Ask him if he would like to do your food shop and pay for it then come round and cook for you.

Then tell him after 55 years on the planet you do no require his advice and shut up

You both need to tell your judgemental son to wind his neck in. Plus take his key off him. He doesn’t sound lovely at all.

Funny isn't it, leaves home and now suddenly and expert in everything. Your son is being an arse. He also doesn't sound all that happy (happy people tend not to behave this way).
I wouldn't take it. Make sure he doesn't have a key. Don't answer the door on early morning visits. If he starts on again about your hubby's weight/lifestyle, tell him to shut up. Literally, shut up. Explain heard it all before, nobody wants to hear it again then leave the room. Nobody likes a bully, even if own son! Hopefully it will sink in....

Take his key, telling him why. I would also point out to him that he's being rude each time and telling him to give it a rest. If he didn't then I would end the visit. He might be an adult, but that doesn't mean you don't reinforce behaviour expectations.