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To think some women could lift heavier in the gym?

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Ilostallthepens · 08/05/2026 22:25

I go to a strength training class a few times a week. It’s almost always all women, class size is about 15. I’m not especially strong or experienced at lifting weights but I notice I’m always lifting the heaviest (sometimes by a long way) than every other person there. I’m also working to my maximum capacity for the 8-12 reps we’re doing. I’m huffing and puffing and sweating doing bicep curls with an 8kg dumbbell in each hand and I look over and the woman next to me is lifting a couple of 2kg dumbbells with no visible effort at all. I see this in a lot of the women there. They don’t seem to push themselves to their limit or even that close to it. I’m talking about women a similar age to myself that have been going to the gym for at least as long as me. I get some people may not want to push themselves to their max effort for whatever reason, eg. an injury, but I’m seeing lots of women seemingly not putting in half the amount of effort that they seem capable of and over a long period of time. So this makes me think the reason must be they don’t believe they are capable of lifting heavier, or they don’t want to lift to their max ability for some reason. Why do you think this is? Have you experienced this? Do you not work to max capacity in the gym? If not, why not?

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JanesLittleGirl · 08/05/2026 22:37

I'm recovering from osteoporosis. I am following a medium load, high rep regimen to rebuild my bone density. Please resist the temptation to judge everybody who isn't you?

Rainbowunicorn12 · 08/05/2026 22:35

Who gives a flying shit what any other person does in the gym? This is why people are nervous to go because of people like you judging them at what they are doing and what they want to achieve. Stay out of it keep your opinion out of it do your own work outs pick your own weights and leave everyone else alone and stop watching them. There you go problem solved. Non issue. Pointless thread. Happy Friday evening

vincettenoir · 08/05/2026 22:35

Sone people (like yourself) are motivated by chasing gains. Other people just want the general wellbeing benefits that follow from regular movement. And that’s all fine.

WhatAMarvelousTune · 08/05/2026 22:33

Don’t be a judgy pants. Feeling like they’re being looked at funny for not exercising “right” is what puts a lot of people off the gym.

I go to classes like that but I really don’t pay attention to what other people lift.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 08/05/2026 22:33

Why should they. If everyone was a competitive eager beaver the world would be stressful place. You do you.

ChubbyGroundhog · 08/05/2026 22:31

I pushed myself and ended up with overworked traps, bicep tendinopothy and shoulder injury. I'm still out of the gym 14 months later. So, without guidance, caution is necessary.

Eyesopenwideawake · 08/05/2026 22:29

I'm 62 and have only been going to the gym since July 2025. I've deadlifted 87.5kg, aiming for 100kg this year. I push myself on all the machines/weights; otherwise what's the point??

(And loving the lumps on my arms!!)

Hoardasurass · 08/05/2026 22:28

Or they just want to tone up not bulk out

KitchenColourandstyle · 08/05/2026 22:27

Back in day when I went to the gym I did low weight high reps. I wasn't looking to build muscle just to tone.

BIWI · 08/05/2026 22:27

Some do. Some don't.
80kg is my deadlift PB so I do.

Get on with your own training and stop worrying about what others are doing.

Orchardly · 08/05/2026 22:27

Why are you watching other people at the gym? What they’re doing is none of your business, and knowing what they’re all doing is creepy.

Focus on yourself and leave everyone else alone.

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