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Baby given chocolate!

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areandare · 08/05/2026 21:34

I would like honest feedback / opinions on this please as I don’t know if I’m overreacting and am happy to be told that I am.

My baby is 9 months old. He started weaning at 6 months and I have taken it quite seriously to do it as best as I can. Weaning books, trying home made recipes, introducing veggies before fruits, etc.

My partners parents like to have him once a week for a couple of hours to spend time with him and to prepare for when I return to work as they will be minding him for one day. Last week when I picked him up, MIL smugly told me “he had some chocolate today”. I was a bit taken back as I thought she was joking.

It turns out that she had broken up chocolate in to little pieces and given it to him. He has never had chocolate before , he was gifted a few Easter eggs and we still hadn’t given any to him.

I have a few issues with this.

  1. The chocolate could be a choking hazard, everything that I have read says to melt it
  2. She knows how I feel about giving him chocolate, and she didn’t even ask she just took it upon herself to give him it
  3. This one sounds petty - but I would have liked to have been the one to give him his first taste of chocolate when I felt ready 😔

What do others think? Should I say anything or just leave it? I might be overreacting but I feel quite hurt by it. I feel quite strongly about a 9 month old not needing chocolate right now (no disrespect to those who give it) but he’s so happy with yogurt, fruit, etc so really doesn’t need chocolate as a treat yet.

OP posts:
MaCheCazzo · 08/05/2026 21:37

I could maybe stretch to understanding your rather ridiculous outrage if she'd shared a spliff with him or offered him a can of Stella but come on - a bit of chocolate? When did new mothers become quite so insanely OTT anxious about everything?

AgnesMcDoo · 08/05/2026 21:36
  1. it’s no more a choking hazard than any other kind of food (after 6 months baby can pretty much eat anything you can)
  2. the world won’t end
  3. yes it’s petty

this is not worth getting worked up about

Slightyamusedandsilly · 08/05/2026 21:35

He'll be fine. And all the 'firsts' business is BS.

But by all means tell her you don't want him having any sugar. That is the only reasonable bit of what you've said.

Edited to say, I'd be careful how you approach this if you're going to depend on her for childcare. If you'd rather he went to nursery, have at her!

Plummagic · 08/05/2026 21:35

Call the police and go no contact.