Baby given chocolate!

Give him some broccoli 🥦 and celebrate the first time had some greens then. Oh is that not the same?

Gawd wait until they’re older! I just sent my DGS 4 a jar of sweeties for being a brave boy at A&E (I do usually ask permission/respect boundaries!)

It's not an issue. It's not going to do any harm. You are a bit precious if you think giving your child their first chocolate is a "thing". It's not.

The look on her face will be exactly the same the next time she has chocolate, it’s not that deep

I didn't give mine sweets and chocolate till they were about 3 but I didn't go nuts if my in laws gave them some chocolate buttons. As for chocolate, it melts, so if they did choke, it would already be melting. It's not like a nut or a boiled sweet. You're being a bit precious.

You are perfectly within your right to dictate what foods your baby can/not be offered however.....
Free childcare means an element of sucking it up unless its a real safety issue.
Yes I'd be pissed off too but the same thing also happened to my baby with GPs first ever babysitting. Its almost as if they can't help themselves but to give chocolate to a baby 🙄🙄

My second child tasted chocolate at one day old when my 15 month old fed him a chocolate button 😂😂

First post nailed it.

MIL can’t be trusted clearly. Gonna have to go elsewhere for free childcare.

never heard of the melting chocolate but can’t see the benefit or reason. Babies need lots of different foods and textures not all runny slop

My nephew (2.5) had the flake from my ice cream the other weekend as he couldn’t (tried) to eat the ice cream. When I saw him and his older brother last weekend I gave them a flake to share. I have no idea if his mum gave him chocolate (he barely eats anything and was pleased he liked his first flake!) but I don’t think she’d make a big deal about him having chocolate first and by whom. Get over yourself on all 3 points.

Do you trust them to respect your wishes in other aspects of childcare? If not, pay for childcare.

@KilkennyCats it is a milestone to see the look on their face trying something new for the first time! It’s disgraceful when grandparents take those special moments. At best it’s a lack of awareness, at worst it’s utter selfishness.

Yeh I agree with OP here. Just cos someone wants to spend time with my kid doesnt mean i have to let them do whatever they want and ignore my own feelings on the matter. There's absolutely no need to give a nine-month-old chocolate. Why on earth would you give chocolate to someone else's baby without checking with them first? It's odd and entitled behaviour

It’s chocolate not crack. Tell MIL you would prefer he didn’t have chocolate whilst young and hopefully she respects that

Total straw man. No one is saying that. Couple of bites of chocolate is not loading a tiny tot up with cakes and fizz. You can relax your own rules a bit without signing your kid up to a 24/7 lucozade drip and a greggs sausage roll for every meal.

I would’ve been really pissed off with my MIL if she had done this and knew I didn’t want her to. That’s an unpleasant little power play. If she didn’t know that’s a bit different but then. I would assume she’s not very bright/thoughtful which is also unappealing

😂😂😂

I have absolutely no idea when my child first had chocolate and hes now only 19 months, so it wasnt long ago. I also cant remember when he first rolled or crawled. You think this stuff is important at the time, but it really isnt!

Also, very close relatives might like to do exciting stuff with the child: isn’t that great? It builds bonds and makes people feel involved in your kid’s life. Dont be so territorial that you shut out other people, and what they can bring into yours and your child’s life.

I really don't understand what all the fuss is about. Chocolate melts, makes a mess either in the mouth or whatever else it touches, then is gone. Child will eat all sorts of stuff that is far more harmful and not meant for human consumption at any age.

As an aside: Our dog ate 9 easter eggs and had no problems. We didn't even know until we found the "evidence" many weeks later!

Exactly, it's such a strange attitude I've only encountered on here. Family childcare means your child will (almost must?) be fed shite, all the screens, no bedtimes or boundaries, suck it up and be grateful for the huge favour but that's also the only way GPs can bond with children.

GPs and parents should be a team! Not saying there won't be differences but I find it so baffling when people say they absolutely must load tiny tots up with sugar and stick them in front of the TV. My own grandma was quite happy loading us up with home cooked food! My MIL is fab and very close to my son who's a young toddler and hasn't had sugar yet. They have a great time playing with him, chatting and feeding him the food I provide (they're doing a big favour once a week!) and traditional dishes when she wants to, bananas... No lack of love there!

I agree there is no need for chocolate in that age.

However, as they should be a regular carer, the question is, is there relevant harm from this piece of chocolate ?

If you expect regular childcare, it means they will be making some decisions. Try to understand what are your hard rules vs preferences, and find a way to resolve this calmly, you'll need it. And you need them to tell you things instead of going behind your back.

This is the only answer you need.

Report it to 101, not 999.

Well the reasons for other people are obviously because they want it, they like it, other people are having it.

The reason for this 9 month old is that his grandma wanted to see him having it.

What a bizarre extrapolation that I’m going to give my own kids issues. My 1st child didn’t have chocolate until he was about 3 because he didn’t know what it was and therefore never asked for it. My second had it when he was about 18 months because he saw his brother having it and wanted to join in. A baby has no clue, clearly so there’s really no reason to give it to them.

That would really annoy me (have an 18 month old who still hasn’t had chocolate) but I don’t think there’s much you can do apart from asking her not to do it again.

I'd be furious tbh, don't care what people say on here. I wouldn't leave my child with her as regular childcare after that. Yes I'd happily (and do) pay for it. What is the actual need to give a 9mo chocolate?

My MIL is really lovely and responsible and would never!