To not want to pay above a full tank of petrol for a lift to the airport?

Appropriate in the sense of not to be expected or unusual that doesn’t happen in some families. Because of the dynamics

Appropriate in the sense of not to be expected or unusual that doesn’t happen in some families. Because of the dynamics

"Appropriate"?

I am very sorry about your mother

I am sure you can understand then that families are different and so for some - doing 4/5 hour round trips to the airport simply wouldn’t be appropriate

I have zero support from parents. My mum was killed when I was in my 20’s and my dad does very little to help me and no longer lives in the UK.
My brother is in prison. I have no relationship with him.
My sister is 22 years younger than me so we don’t have a close relationship. I’d give her a lift to the airport if she asked though.

I’m close to an aunt and cousin and happily do favours for them. And vice versa.
My husband’s family are ‘family’ and we help each other out.
I also consider my friends my family and we do favours for each other all of the time. A lift to the airport is nothing - it’s considered a small favour.

Is that acceptable to you? I’m assuming you’ve trawled though other threads to find my previous comments. Hopefully the fact my mum was murdered and my dad has abandoned his family is enough for you.

How much wear and tear on the car do you think there's going to be for a few hours of driving😂

@HighLadyofTheNightCourt your family offers no “zero support” and you have no relationship with your siblings and yet you would still do a minimum 4 hour round trip to take them to the airport? There’s being helpful and then there’s being completely taken advantage of…

Yet you're still here...

She did listen. This issue on this thread was other people not the OP!

Really, well I’m telling you I’m not. I was interested at first but these threads where people ask for help then don’t want to listen in the end bore me. OK

I thought you came across as incredibly patronising. It might not have been your intention but that’s how it comes across.
If you’re not interested why are you engaging?

Just my opinion based on the responses we're getting, not at all patronising.

100 for a two hour journey sounds cheap to me. I regularly pay 75 for 45 minutes .

Yet here you are responding and giving (rather patronising) advice.
People can ask whatever they like. You don’t have to respond.

Sometimes people come on here and ask the most bizarre question of strangers. We’re not your mum or your friends. I’d personally have this kind of chat with a friend. Not ask a load of strangers on the internet like this is a serious topic. It’s not advice you need, is it? You’re just having a moan and want us to back you. We’re not that that interested, especially when the thread goes on belligerently with no self-awareness. It always strikes me that these kind of posters are immature. Doing a bit of self reflection and growing up OP and sort it out with your brother directly. Tell him you thought petrol would be enough and have a chat with HIM.

When are you due to go @alexandrasm ?

and then the whole of Mumsnet stood up and cheered.

And OP says she has done a number of favours for him in the past. Free. I’ll be honest, I’d be knocking that on the head.

@alexandrasm You have the patience of a saint. Get to and from the airport by yourself, and say ‘no’ when he asks you for favours.

Nope.

The OP asked him if he would take her, and he agreed and than specified conditions.

The part where the OP interprets his agreement on the spot as him "offering" is part of why some posters see her as a CF.

People are clearly missing the point. That’s her brother and he offered to take her. To expect to be paid for his time is shameful. He wants to make money off OP.

Quite literally “taking her for a ride”

Yes 😁.
We do that sort of sh!t for each other. When I ask him if he can babysit my son for the day he often turns up with a Maccy's breakfast or some pastries or something when he collects him in the morning. If we take our mum out for dinner I often pay for everyone. We don't quibble over money, we're family.

You’re kidding? He paid for breakfast????

He is cheeky. I don't get why people are so offended at you asking your brother for a lift. Families help each other, it isn't a business transaction.

I asked my brother for a lift to the airport early in the morning just because it was less hassle for me. I didn't want to be messing about with taxis or unreliable trains and buses for hours. He said he would have to drop me an hour earlier than I wanted as he wouldn't get back in time for work otherwise. I agreed but then he came back to me to say that he had arranged a late start at work so we can stop for breakfast on the way. I didn't give him any money for petrol and he paid for breakfast.

Previously, I've picked him up from a party an hour away in the dead of nowhere in the middle of the night and not charged him anything.

Isn't this just what siblings do?

You're being ridiculous.

My (petrol) car does 520 miles in a full tank (the mileage countdown display tells me that every time I fill up). Of course, I don't run it to empty - so let's say 450 miles per top up.
A top up costs me about £60 - £65. So that's less than 15p a mile.

And OPs brother has a hybrid - which would use less fuel, I guess?

So £30 would easily cover the fuel for a 2 hour round trip.

And PLEASE let's not get back into that silly argument about it costing more than fuel to run a car. A sensible contribution to other mileage-related costs (tyres, servicing) would be a couple of pence per mile. OF COURSE she shouldn't contribute to the capital costs of running the car (Road Fund Licence, insurance, depreciation) - he's running the car anyway.