To not want to pay above a full tank of petrol for a lift to the airport?

I personally would not ask a sibling for money to do them a favour. I wouldn't even ask for petrol money let alone money for my time HOWEVER I actually wouldn't expect them to do a 4-hour round trip for me if I could drive myself or get a taxi or public transport and if my sibling asked this I'd think it was a big ask so actually I think YABU.

You're happy to inconvenience him massively just so you don't have to spend any money on your own travel.

Driving 2 hours there and back sounds awful.

There is a difference between agreeing to and offering. Yes, you asked, he said yes, and than added "yes, if ..." he has never offered to do it for free, he said it would be possible to do the run and now adjusts the conditions.

Tbh, you sound rather tight here. Blabbing about a potential cheap taxi when there is no guarantee someone has the pick up already scheduled on your day. Get the actual quote for your day and see?

That is definitely not an offer.

And offer is when you offer without being asked.

He would have been cheeky to charge if he offered (ie his idea) or if you have regularly driven him long distances. But you asked and he has given his price so it is a simple yes please or no thank you. (I would still prefer to chat to my brother than a taxi driver for 2 hours).

Wouldn't be too sure on that. I think someone on this thread would probably snitch on you 😂

This is such a depressing thread. I’d happily give up 4 hours of my time to help my siblings, if I had the time to give. I can’t fathom charging my siblings for my time.

Stansted might be in the middle of nowhere but it’s incredibly well connected. You have coaches into central London departing every few minutes, there’s a direct train to Liverpool St (or Cambridge if you really fancy going there 🤣), and I’m sure National Express and the other companies run some routes west / south. Can’t comment on those as I take the ones east (Norfolk / Suffolk / Essex), but they’re always reliable and cheap.

If none of those work time-wise, I’m sure a cheap hotel and travel home morning after would be just fine, like you said.

If you pay for his time he won't be insured?

How sad that a sibling can be so transactional and mean. Wait until he asks a favour then explain how he’s made you feel

Well hey now. This put a whole new perspective on my family. We wouldn’t DREAM of asking for payment for doing this. Not even for the petrol (though one would certainly offer to pay for petrol). Don’t families do things for each other out of love? It’s not a matter of convenience or whatever, you do it because this person has asked
and presumably if they asked you for a favour you’d do it. I’m just thinking of a recent visit to stay with my adult siblings who share a house. I didn’t rent a car and one sister did all the driving. Sure I gave her money for the car but she wasn’t charging me for her time! The other sister took my daughter to a certain shop twice - and she spent two hours there each time. My sister is a busy doctor but was happy to spend some time one on one with her niece. I can’t believe how mercenary everyone is on here.

Wow. I wouldn't ask that man of anything. He sounds really miserable to be around.

It's bizarre that people think payment should be standard in these situations.

When my daughter moved out, my brother used his van, his fuel and his whole day to help. Did he ask her for £350 like the removal company quoted? No, he did it for a pack of beer.

I'm having his kids overnight for his birthday soon and I won't be asking for the going rate for a nanny for my trouble.

But, OP, he definitely did not offer to take you, he agreed to when you asked 😂

No she’s suggesting brothers don’t charge their siblings for favours. Fgs it’s not a job it’s his sister!

Yeah you thought "repaying a favour" he thought "money maker".

Dont ask him again and dont be available next time he asks you.

Didnt ask, they offered. Its how we do things in our family, we dont keep a tally sheet.

I would never dream of charging a sibling for my time, we do favours for each other all the time, that’s what siblings do

You can get the Airport Flyer bus from BTM. I believe they are every 30 minutes in the summer. Allow about 1 hour for the journey to be on the safe side.

Still just 😱 that family would ask for money for doing something like this!
We often take family members to the airport if they need a lift at unsociable hours (to be fair it’s mostly my parents or in-laws, everyone else just goes the night before and stays at a hotel or drives themselves and parks there on the day),
When we need to go we do the same; drive ourselves either the night before and stay at a hotel at the airport or drives themselves up in the day.
Bloody hell you’re family! He should have just said no from the beginning 🫣

Wow. I can’t imagine billing a relative for my time. Not least a sibling. Even my tight brother wouldn’t go that far.

Yes he offered! I asked and he said yes, in my head that’s an offer.

That's not an offer OP 😂

That's you asking.

An offer would be the other way wrong with him asking and you accepting.

He’s her bloody brother!