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To not want to pay above a full tank of petrol for a lift to the airport?

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alexandrasm · 08/05/2026 19:45

I fly from my “local” (2 hours away!) airport at the end of summer. My flight is in the early evening and I have an appointment in the morning.

My brother offered to give me a lift, it won’t affect his work as he’s on 0 hours and can just request a late start/no hours on that day (he usually doesn’t work on a Friday anyway).

I said yes please, and said I’d be happy to cover a tank of fuel as it would probably use about that to get there and back, and have some left over. (So I’m thinking about £40, he has a hybrid so it doesn’t use a ton of fuel).

He’s now said £40 plus £75 on top for “his time”

AIBU to think sod it, I’d rather just pay a taxi (about £100 according to local Facebook groups) because he’s being a CF?!

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whynotwhatknot · 09/05/2026 13:43

i think it was fair to ask- i asked for a lift to the airport once petrol drop off charge and a bit extra and they still moaned

never asked again

Cerealtime · 09/05/2026 13:40

it won’t affect his work as he’s on 0 hours and can just request a late start/no hours on that day (he usually doesn’t work on a Friday anyway).

He will be on a very low wage I imagine. If he was my little bro, on a zero hours contract, I’d definitely want to pay him. Especially as you say that you’re very chilled about money

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alexandrasm · 09/05/2026 13:36

Maddy70 · 09/05/2026 13:33

Book a taxi. Or pay your brother. See which works out the cheaper. It's reasonable for him to not lose money if he is on zero hours.

He. Would. Not. Lose. Money.

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Maddy70 · 09/05/2026 13:33

Book a taxi. Or pay your brother. See which works out the cheaper. It's reasonable for him to not lose money if he is on zero hours.

DappledThings · 09/05/2026 13:32

FourSevenThree · 09/05/2026 13:16

Yes, but the OP was asking him to lose similar/more money (by not going to his 0 hours job) than she would save. That's not respectful.

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And if it didn't work for him he could have said that. Not seen it as an opportunity to make some money off his sibling disguised as a favour

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 09/05/2026 13:31

FourSevenThree · 09/05/2026 13:16

Yes, but the OP was asking him to lose similar/more money (by not going to his 0 hours job) than she would save. That's not respectful.

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No she isn’t. Read the thread.

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alexandrasm · 09/05/2026 13:29

Allisnotlost1 · 09/05/2026 12:56

I feel really sorry for all the pp (not just you) who have such rubbish families that doing a nice thing for each other is seen as the recipient being a CF. There’s a couple of threads at the moment that are very revealing about how cold and transactional some families are, really eye opening tbh.

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I’m really, really surprised

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alexandrasm · 09/05/2026 13:28

FourSevenThree · 09/05/2026 13:16

Yes, but the OP was asking him to lose similar/more money (by not going to his 0 hours job) than she would save. That's not respectful.

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He can take it as AL! Or just use that day as his day off. I didn’t tell him to lose money ffs

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FourSevenThree · 09/05/2026 13:16

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 09/05/2026 12:57

Some people don’t mind helping family and friends save money and actually like helping them out.

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Yes, but the OP was asking him to lose similar/more money (by not going to his 0 hours job) than she would save. That's not respectful.

MrsJeanLuc · 09/05/2026 13:07

Hallamule · 09/05/2026 12:10

I think it's fairly CF behaviour to expect a lift that far to avoid paying for a train/taxi. Good for him for matching your energy.

But she's not expecting a lift is she. She asked. And offered to pay for a full tank of petrol (which is more than the trip would require).

@alexandrasm , for comparison, when I asked my brother for a ride to the airport I offered him half of what the airport parking would have cost me (which was a lot of money). He wouldn't hear of it, just wanted the cost of the petrol and the airport drop off fee. That's what family do for each other.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 09/05/2026 12:59

A four hour round trip is nothing compared to the favours me and friends do for each other 😂

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 09/05/2026 12:57

Hallamule · 09/05/2026 12:10

I think it's fairly CF behaviour to expect a lift that far to avoid paying for a train/taxi. Good for him for matching your energy.

Some people don’t mind helping family and friends save money and actually like helping them out.

Allisnotlost1 · 09/05/2026 12:56

Hallamule · 09/05/2026 12:10

I think it's fairly CF behaviour to expect a lift that far to avoid paying for a train/taxi. Good for him for matching your energy.

I feel really sorry for all the pp (not just you) who have such rubbish families that doing a nice thing for each other is seen as the recipient being a CF. There’s a couple of threads at the moment that are very revealing about how cold and transactional some families are, really eye opening tbh.

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alexandrasm · 09/05/2026 12:44

Hallamule · 09/05/2026 12:10

I think it's fairly CF behaviour to expect a lift that far to avoid paying for a train/taxi. Good for him for matching your energy.

But I don’t expect one. I asked. I didn’t say “you’re driving me”

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Hallamule · 09/05/2026 12:10

I think it's fairly CF behaviour to expect a lift that far to avoid paying for a train/taxi. Good for him for matching your energy.

TFImBackIn · 09/05/2026 11:56

Butterme · 08/05/2026 20:19

It is a big favour and I don’t know many people who would do it but he could have said no.

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Even for family? I'd do it (and have done it) for any of my large extended family.

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alexandrasm · 09/05/2026 11:51

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 09/05/2026 11:48

You’re not!

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No but I want to know what that deleted comment said, I missed it 😂

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HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 09/05/2026 11:48

alexandrasm · 09/05/2026 11:45

I’d love to know why I’m unhinged 😂

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You’re not!

Zov · 09/05/2026 11:46

@alexandrasm You're not Flowers

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alexandrasm · 09/05/2026 11:45

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 09/05/2026 11:25

She really doesn’t sound unhinged. Or unhappy.

Some posters have been incredibly rude to her and deserved the sarcastic responses.

The ones who are coming across as unhinged are those who think it’s outrageous that family and friends do favours for each other without financial reward.

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I’d love to know why I’m unhinged 😂

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HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 09/05/2026 11:25

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She really doesn’t sound unhinged. Or unhappy.

Some posters have been incredibly rude to her and deserved the sarcastic responses.

The ones who are coming across as unhinged are those who think it’s outrageous that family and friends do favours for each other without financial reward.

Angelou79 · 09/05/2026 10:49

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MimiGC · 09/05/2026 10:33

Geez, I would never charge family or friends for my time, what’s the world coming to?!

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alexandrasm · 09/05/2026 10:02

Advocodo · 09/05/2026 07:57

I added tip cos if the taxi fare was £100 and you woukd normally give a tip and chose £5 then give your brother £105.

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No, I wouldn’t give a tip.

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Princessbananahamock · 09/05/2026 10:00

Op get the train, Maybe get off at Parson Street station as across the road on west st is the stop for the Airport flyer. I see lots of people with suitcases around the station I believe the flyer is also very frequent.

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