AIBU to say no to grandparents taking children abroad?

Would be a hard no from me but everybody’s circumstances are different. For example if granny & grandad are very hands on already and have many domestic trips / stay overs under their belt. Plus experience of the place they’re going to then maybe.

But if not and they are getting on with health problems etc. then no chance. So much potential for it to go horribly wrong.

Not at that age. My in laws have had my children regularly but we’re getting to the point where a full week feels a bit too much for everyone. I’d be wary of an abroad trip with children that young and I don’t think you’d be unusual for saying no.

My parents did this when I was six (for a week) and I was perfectly happy (awesome granny and granddad). But then nothing went wrong. When all's said and done, you're the boss.

Christ no! Too young.

My Grandparents were taking myself and my brother away to all places at that age. I have such lovely memories of all my holidays with them both. Now they are unfortunately immobile and one has dementia and it makes me incredibly sad that my children won’t get to experience even a holiday with us and them.

They should fully respect your decision, without any drama.
It sounds like a lovely idea for the future 😊

YANBU I wouldn't agree to that. And the fact that it would cause you stress is enough reason to say no. The dcs might find it stressful anyway at those ages.

I'd be more worried about how the GPs would cope with two little kids for a week, more than how the kids would be!

I haven't taken my grandchildren abroad, but I have taken them on holiday in the UK when they weren't much older than yours. It's hard work! Very rewarding, but still hard work.

Why not suggest that they take them on holiday somewhere fairly local so that they can see how it goes? They might find it too difficult. The children might get homesick, or they might all have a fabulous time bonding.

My grandchildren still talk about the holidays they had with us and the last one was about 4 years ago, before I was diagnosed with cancer, (I'm fine, by the way) but I was glad that I could get them home within less than 2 hours at short notice if needs be.

If I completely trusted them, like you do, and children and GPs were in good health so it was unlikely there'd be a medical emergency, I'd let them go.

How much does your partner take care of your dcs? I’d be quite concerned if he thought this. I wouldn’t have let my mother take my dd so young either. Tweens, teens, fine as long as they’re sensible enough and listen to GPs.

we did that happily. That’s different though. Leaving them in a house you know and a routine is one thing, but letting them go on a plane to a new environment without you is completely different. It is majorly disruptive to small children. I couldn’t have got comfortable not knowing where they were staying and things like pools as others have identified.

That's completely different. In this case, it's the grandparents wanting to take the children on holiday. Unless we're told otherwise, not to a country where they speak the language or have extended family.

I left my eldest under 2 with grandparents whilst we went for a 3 night trip to another country. He was fine and I trusted them completely. Depends if you are bothered about it or not. We then left them age 6 and 8 to go to the US for 6 nights. Also fine.

Nope. Not a chance and I have the best parents and in Laws. It is honestly a bit weird tbh. All together sure - we had the best holidays with family when kids were small but I absolutely wouldn’t be happy to send them off to be a long away from me

Absolutely not.

Not at that age. Mine are 13 and 11 and I would be okay now.

Definitely not until both children are confident swimmers. The grandparents would need to be watching them like a hawk, and never let them be alone in the water.

Uk break, with no swimming involved, yes, but otherwise no way.

Hard no from me for another decade at least !

I agree, a bit too young with swimming pools etc around. Agree to let them down gently and say maybe in the future. I’d say about 8+?

At those ages no. I’d want to be close enough I could come and get them or go help if needed.

Seems very young unless the gps are very involved and provide childcare so very familiar with their routines? Even then I'd say no to another country until older.
3yr olds can be a handful particularly in a hot country.

Have they had them for a decent length of time before? I’m assuming it would be for a week if they want to go abroad.

if they’ve not taken them away for that amount of time already then I’d think they’re hugely underestimating how tiring / full on it’ll be for them.

I’d be suggesting a UK 2 night mini break instead and seeing how they get on. They may decide it’s really not for them after all.

Holiday with the in laws 🤣 fuck that

My pil once arranged to host several cousins for the week.

they phoned the parents within three hours.

they might think they can cope but if they can’t it’s a long way away.

if you do want to entertain this (and I wouldn’t) do a trial run in this country first