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Manager and "gentle reminder" emails

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YorkshirePuddingsGreatestFan · 08/05/2026 17:08

Would it bother you if your manager sent a "gentle reminder" email about work needing to be completed that included other staff members on the CC list?

I work hard at my job and always get everything done by deadlines. It would an exceptional reason for me to miss a deadline.

My manager sends out a "gentle reminder" on the day of the deadline but it includes all staff members who have work due to be finished that day and it's CC'd to everyone. Everyone can see who has work to finish.

The ones who suck up to her are never on this list as they work unpaid overtime to get their work done early then faff about on Fridays. It's informally called the "email of shame"!

I've had a bad week this week. I had to leave early on Tuesday as the hospital phoned to say my mother had a fall in a shopping centre and had been sent there by ambulance and she needed picking up. She's fine. Just shaken up rather than injured but the shopping centre rang for the ambulance as a precaution.

To make the time back up, I worked extra hours on Wednesday and Thursday. Came in today and knew I had tasks to finish and I did get everything done before I left for the day.

It's really got to me today that I've done everything I could to catch up, and I did meet the deadline despite what happened on Tuesday, yet I still ended up on the email of shame for everyone to see.

AIBU to be irked by the email of shame, or am I just tired and overreacting?

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JumpLeadsForTwo · 08/05/2026 17:18

I hate the term. Along with ‘polite notice’ - all passive aggressive. I’d much rather receive a ‘Jumps you’re a day late for this piece of work, everything ok?’ type message or an honest face to face conversation if it’s a regular occurrence/ affecting other people or performance. The cc’ing everyone in (unless it’s management for a performance issue) is also passive aggressive 🙄

Getmeacoffeenow · 08/05/2026 17:17

I wouldn’t take this personally at all. It’s a bit micro managery and maybe she should only target those who miss deadlines repeatedly but I still wouldn’t care.

canuckup · 08/05/2026 17:16

Just reply passive aggressively, with sincere regards etc

Gertibear · 08/05/2026 17:15

Yes that would be annoying. I’m sure all staff know they have deadlines and when.

As the manager you should take the approach and tell everyone if you’re ever struggling to meet a deadline to reach out and let the manager know. The manager should then be doing whatever they can to help you make the deadline. Bring in some help from others that don’t have a deadline that day etc. They are supposed to support their employees and work as a team.

beigetriangle · 08/05/2026 17:14

is the information in the email easily visible (e.g. task dashboards)?
if yes, tbh just leave it.

does your manager gets results? how do the others feel about it?

sorry you have a tough time

PoppySaidYesIKnow · 08/05/2026 17:10

It’s definitely passive aggressive. Have you got anyone you can raise it with?

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