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AIBU to find my husband's constant undressing at home annoying?

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saamantha19881 · 08/05/2026 16:49

My husband has asked me to post on here to guage opinions.
The minute he gets in the door he takes his top off, often- his trousers too and will just be wearing pants. He says it is more comfortable.

I'm starting to find it really annoying, once in a while if it's really hot it makes sense. But it is literally all summer and winter. It means he can't ever answer the door, just pop into the garden or grab something from the car. And to be honest, I just don't like it.

Apparently it is completely normal (his dad did it too) and he thinks I would be surprised because everyone does this in their own homes??

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Waitingatlidl · 08/05/2026 17:46

Bridesmaidorexfriend · 08/05/2026 17:42

Were practically nudists in my house, that’ll probably change when if we have a child to a certain extent. But I think it’s his choice how he’s most comfortable and don’t think you should get a say in what he wears

Surely not winter?!

Millymollymandy4 · 08/05/2026 17:45

Bridesmaidorexfriend · 08/05/2026 17:42

Were practically nudists in my house, that’ll probably change when if we have a child to a certain extent. But I think it’s his choice how he’s most comfortable and don’t think you should get a say in what he wears

She’s not getting a say because he’s not wearing any clothes

ahe has children

basoon · 08/05/2026 17:45

I walk in the door and start taking my clothes off. I do put what I call my sloppies on. But if I favored staying in my undies, among my nearest and dearest, would it really matter?

PuppyMonkey · 08/05/2026 17:44

Bloody weirdo.

bostonchamps · 08/05/2026 17:43

ForCosyLion · 08/05/2026 17:38

Squirrel?? Is that a typo?

Why do people so often write things on MN that I don't understand!

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Bridesmaidorexfriend · 08/05/2026 17:43

ForCosyLion · 08/05/2026 17:39

Imagine if EVERY family member walked around in their pants starting the moment they walked through the door. That would be dysfunctional.

I wouldn't have any patience for it. Adults wear clothes in the daytime, full stop.

Why? What’s dysnfunctional about bodies?

MaggieBsBoat · 08/05/2026 17:42

My 2 older sons both stripped off to underwear when they’d finished playing or school for the day. Now my youngest son (11) has started doing it. He comes in from school and thirty seconds later he’s stripped off!
Our two daughters never did this. Nor did DH. No bloody idea where they get it from.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 08/05/2026 17:42

Yabu

Some of us are single and dont get anywhere near a semi nude man!

ohyesido · 08/05/2026 17:42

ForCosyLion · 08/05/2026 17:38

Squirrel?? Is that a typo?

Why do people so often write things on MN that I don't understand!

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Superscientist · 08/05/2026 17:42

In our first house we overlooked a house where the man walked around all day in the nude and the woman and their child were fully clothed. It was odd as you'd think that if the house was warm enough for one of you to be in the buff it would be too warm for the others to be layered up
Often the blinds would be half down and with the position of the windows it was only his penis and bottom on show.... Not sure if that was intentional or not

Bridesmaidorexfriend · 08/05/2026 17:42

Were practically nudists in my house, that’ll probably change when if we have a child to a certain extent. But I think it’s his choice how he’s most comfortable and don’t think you should get a say in what he wears

ForCosyLion · 08/05/2026 17:40

randomgeneratedusername1 · 08/05/2026 17:36

My OH does this he’s in his work gear all day feeling uncomfortable so he’s down to his pants as soon as he gets in. When I get home from work shower and slouchies on. If he didn’t like that I would still do it , it’s what makes me comfortable. That is how he feels comfortable. We have a dressing gown downstairs and upstairs for emergencies 😂. It’s our home so being comfortable in your own home is just a basic requirement I feel. 😁

But why walk round in his pants? Why not shorts and a T-shirt, if he must wear few clothes?

ForCosyLion · 08/05/2026 17:39

Imagine if EVERY family member walked around in their pants starting the moment they walked through the door. That would be dysfunctional.

I wouldn't have any patience for it. Adults wear clothes in the daytime, full stop.

ForCosyLion · 08/05/2026 17:38

Mulledjuice · 08/05/2026 17:15

I came for the lovely bit of squirrel and I was not disappointed

Squirrel?? Is that a typo?

Why do people so often write things on MN that I don't understand!

Millymollymandy4 · 08/05/2026 17:37

Waitingatlidl · 08/05/2026 17:37

saamantha19881 · Today 16:49
My husband has asked me to post on here to guage opinions.

well that’s not weird at all 🤔

😂😂😂😂

Waitingatlidl · 08/05/2026 17:37

Does he do it your kids have friends over?

Millymollymandy4 · 08/05/2026 17:37

To all the posters who are saying no problem it’s jus like shorts

would you be happy for OPs children’s friends coming round and seeing their friends dad in his pants that are just the same as shorts????

Waitingatlidl · 08/05/2026 17:37

saamantha19881 · Today 16:49
My husband has asked me to post on here to guage opinions.

well that’s not weird at all 🤔

randomgeneratedusername1 · 08/05/2026 17:36

My OH does this he’s in his work gear all day feeling uncomfortable so he’s down to his pants as soon as he gets in. When I get home from work shower and slouchies on. If he didn’t like that I would still do it , it’s what makes me comfortable. That is how he feels comfortable. We have a dressing gown downstairs and upstairs for emergencies 😂. It’s our home so being comfortable in your own home is just a basic requirement I feel. 😁

RaininSummer · 08/05/2026 17:36

I wouldn't want to look at the mainly naked body all night to be honest .. unless he is totally ripped. It also depends on what the underpants look like.

ForCosyLion · 08/05/2026 17:36

saamantha19881 · 08/05/2026 17:13

He wears those very small skin right boxers

Small skin-tight boxers? I can't imagine that. Boxers are loose. Sounds like Y-fronts with a slight leg-short.

Millymollymandy4 · 08/05/2026 17:36

Noshadelamp · 08/05/2026 17:34

That's ridiculous, too hot for anything but skin tight boxers?
The fact that it makes you uncomfortable should mean a compromise is in order, such as shorts with a t shirt near the front door so he can still answer it.

And just because his dad didn't it, doesn't make it right for him to do it.

He sounds selfish, self obsessed and hard work tbh

Yes - there a lot of things our grandparents did that we wouldn’t

On the whole hit children freely and think wife’s only place is in the kitchen are two that instantly come to mind

Ponderingwindow · 08/05/2026 17:34

We all change immediately upon arriving home. (I have severe allergies and it keeps the house clean) We have lounge clothing though.

MyLimeGuide · 08/05/2026 17:34

saamantha19881 · 08/05/2026 17:13

He wears those very small skin right boxers

Yeah that is annoying so you are constantly in view of a sculpted outline of his genitalia. Not ideal 24/7!

Millymollymandy4 · 08/05/2026 17:34

BauhausOfEliott · 08/05/2026 17:31

A man refusing to ever leave his bedroom without a top on sounds a hell of a lot weirder to me than a man who'll happily wander about in his pants.

OP, assuming he's not wearing pants when you have guests, and your kids aren't old enough to be embarrassed by it, I really can't see why anyone would be bothered or annoyed by seeing their own partner's body. I find it really odd that some people are saying 'He shouldn't be doing something that you don't like' as if people have the right to control what their partner does in his/her own home, even though it's completely harmless, just because you have an arbitrary preference against it.

I was doing a dumbbell workout in the living room in my very un-glamorous undies yesterday. Fortunately my DP didn't seem to be mortally offended by that, although it certainly couldn't have been pleasant to look at.

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That isn’t the question - when my husband works out in the lounge he only wears pants

It is not he can’t do it - it’s that he needs to negotiate and comprise with his life partner as in all relationships

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