AIBU to find my husband's constant undressing at home annoying?

Put a shirt on Martin is what popped into my head too 😁

She’s said they were skimpy

Striding around in budgie smugglers ? What if there is a playdate? Does he get dressed?

Get him to to the cooking and barbecues. He'll get dressed.

Has he always done this?

But also, I don’t want to visit your house or sit on your sofa. Yuck. Pants are thin, scant and allow lots of germs (plus any stray liquid) through. They’re not a furniture-worthy body covering. 🤢🤮

He’s using underpants for an excuse for his lazyitis. Jogger shorts. Both my DH and I change into comfy clothes at the speed of light when we get in from work

Oh gosh yes, it's nothing to do with DH's body.
I just wouldn't like him sitting/walking around in his pants and nothing else.
And frankly I can't imagine him wanting to do that either 😆

Or that mankini leotard thingy!

I'm with the eugh reaction - you don't want bare skin shedding on the sofa / other upholstery. You don't want him dropping chest hair in the pot of boiling pasta. He also doesn't really want to lose the protection of clothing from injury / spills whether that's spilling hot meals on his skin or getting it covered in DIY stuff. And it's territorial bad manners. Everybody else is wearing clothes so he should be doing the same.

You can get round some of the above with specific agreements ie. if your skin is touching the sofa spread a towel out where you're sitting. If you're cooking you must wear clothes, if you're eating a hot meals you must wear a shirt, but really being minimally clothed at home isn't unreasonable.

If it's a temperature issue he could try stripping naked, having a shower/bath and redressing in clean minimal but decent clothing - vest / t shirt, pants and shorts with some slip on footwear available.

Yes, it's worth working out what fabrics feel ok next to his skin - natural fibres would be my starting point and cutting out labels / wearing things inside out if seams irritate etc.

Oh don’t

😂😂😂

got to watch some borat now

Tell him cotton will cool him down better than nudity

Bit odd, stick a pair of shorts and a tshirt on

I’m hoping it’s a Borat style thong

😂😂😂. I know

poster must have missed the naked part

Jesus. This has given me PTSD of my own darling mother. She used to just chill in her pants all weekend, sometimes nothing at all. Mortifying. She wouldn't even get dressed if I had friends round. God love her 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I might get changed as soon as I get in, but into clothes. Same for DH

Me too.

Lovely bit of squirrel.

RIP wonderful Paul Ritter

I bought dh some pyjama shorts for a stint in hospital, it was genuinely boiling on the ward so normal pyjamas would have been too hot and he didn't want to sit around in just underwear. Might be worth a Google.

How can you think that you being fully clothed is the same as a man just wearing tight pants?

As soon as I'm in the door, bra and work clothes off and change into something more comfortable. Though I wouldn't really mind DH being in just pants I can't see why he couldn't just put a pair of shorts on.

Get him some loose fitting drawstring waist shorts and t-shirts, vest style for hot weather.

Many years ago I knew a man who did that every day, stripped down to his underpants. He also sat on the floor rather than a chair. He was a heavy drinker too.

His children could never have anyone visit.

I could NOT cope with this

Your first post just said “bodies aren’t dysfunctional” - then you went on to give situational caveats and now you’ve said pants are just shorts - so presume it’s ok to go out in pants - they clearly are not shorts - you would get arrested for sure - men in shorts in Macdonald’s with no top (which ia regular in summer) is now men in pants no top - quite quite different things

on the contrary - I think it would be teaching children the opposite of privacy and my own body in terms of empowering them around sexual abuse - it would be saying men can walk around and eat their dinner In pants and that’s ok - if you see it out in the world don’t be alarmed - whereas you need the to be alarmed

is not being too modest to have clothing standards - it’s teaching respect for your body and others

read the poster from Scandinavia where the are much more forward thinking about nudity - the benchmark countries really - they wouldn’t sit down to dinner in knickers

Don’t answer the door make him do it in his pants. Refuse to enable him any longer (not your fault btw). Don’t go outside bcos he’s not dressed even if is for the kids. Seems like this hot business has got secondary gains for him like getting out of having to share the load. If he’s that hot he’s got a health problem. If his Dad did it it’s been reinforced as normal but it’s not!! Failing that LTB lol!

I don’t think it would bother me unless it was a way to get out of doing things like taking the dog for a pee in the garden or answering the door or whatever. It would piss me off if I was always the one who had to do that because my partner wasn’t dressed.

Speaking of men acting like toddlers, I was at a friend's house once and her DP was watching TV. Except...it was cartoons, and he was sitting on the floor watching it, quite close, gazing up at it. He looked JUST like a child! 🤢🤣