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AIBU to find my husband's constant undressing at home annoying?

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saamantha19881 · 08/05/2026 16:49

My husband has asked me to post on here to guage opinions.
The minute he gets in the door he takes his top off, often- his trousers too and will just be wearing pants. He says it is more comfortable.

I'm starting to find it really annoying, once in a while if it's really hot it makes sense. But it is literally all summer and winter. It means he can't ever answer the door, just pop into the garden or grab something from the car. And to be honest, I just don't like it.

Apparently it is completely normal (his dad did it too) and he thinks I would be surprised because everyone does this in their own homes??

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Theuntold · 09/05/2026 14:10

He better not have EVER done this when your kids had friends over @saamantha19881

My god if my child told me her friend’s father had behaved like this whilst she was there…. I’d have been…. Let’s just say disturbed.

ForCosyLion · 09/05/2026 14:02

RosyDaysAhead · 09/05/2026 09:02

Neurospicy household - this is normal for us, and for many more homes with neurodiverse people! The fact he thinks it’s normal is like “ding ding we have another member” in my head.

any chance he is adhd or asd? cos yeah, that is normal for us!

I grew up in a neurospicy household and people wore proper clothes.

Poetnojo · 09/05/2026 12:30

BauhausOfEliott · 08/05/2026 17:31

A man refusing to ever leave his bedroom without a top on sounds a hell of a lot weirder to me than a man who'll happily wander about in his pants.

OP, assuming he's not wearing pants when you have guests, and your kids aren't old enough to be embarrassed by it, I really can't see why anyone would be bothered or annoyed by seeing their own partner's body. I find it really odd that some people are saying 'He shouldn't be doing something that you don't like' as if people have the right to control what their partner does in his/her own home, even though it's completely harmless, just because you have an arbitrary preference against it.

I was doing a dumbbell workout in the living room in my very un-glamorous undies yesterday. Fortunately my DP didn't seem to be mortally offended by that, although it certainly couldn't have been pleasant to look at.

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He doesn't refuse ever to leave the room without* a top on, he chooses *to throw on a tshirt while walking around in from of others. We have an ensuite so he doesn't really need to be walking around the house not fully dressed.

TalulahJP · 09/05/2026 12:08

a pair of thin football shorts. problem solved. you cannot be too hot in those surely. pick a size that’ll be loose ish around the waist.

Thechaseison71 · 09/05/2026 11:33

CurlewKate · 09/05/2026 10:38

I hate it when men’s unacceptable behaviour is immediately put down to neurodiversity!

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It's not just men It's seems to be a reason for anyone's unreasonable behaviour to get a suggestion of ND on here

WildGarden · 09/05/2026 11:16

"Nobody wants to see your hairy bosoms Martin".

CurlewKate · 09/05/2026 10:38

RosyDaysAhead · 09/05/2026 09:02

Neurospicy household - this is normal for us, and for many more homes with neurodiverse people! The fact he thinks it’s normal is like “ding ding we have another member” in my head.

any chance he is adhd or asd? cos yeah, that is normal for us!

I hate it when men’s unacceptable behaviour is immediately put down to neurodiversity!

LBFseBrom · 09/05/2026 10:37

Cara707 · 09/05/2026 10:18

It's unpleasant that he walks around in just underwear all the time. Wanting to get out of a suit/work clothes is understandable but surely a t-shirt and shorts would be better?

I quite agree.

The guy I knew who would sit on the floor in underpants every evening and all weekend used to have part of one ball hanging out. He was disgusting.

Cara707 · 09/05/2026 10:18

It's unpleasant that he walks around in just underwear all the time. Wanting to get out of a suit/work clothes is understandable but surely a t-shirt and shorts would be better?

GimmieABreakOr3 · 09/05/2026 10:13

Millymollymandy4 · 08/05/2026 22:26

i know the type he hasn’t got fake leather slip on slippers to match has he?

the musty smell is skin deep so to speak 😂

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Haha fortunately not !!!!

Wiseplumant · 09/05/2026 09:25

WinterCarlisle · 08/05/2026 16:57

Is he really boiling, Jackie?

It would annoy me, too. It is a bit weird.

😂

TunnocksOrDeath · 09/05/2026 09:06

Myli1 · 08/05/2026 19:18

I just have a throw or a blanket on the sofa and wash it regularly. Problem solved.

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It’s not a difficult problem is it, but n this example still appears to be an extra domestic chore, caused by a man, done by a woman. Sigh.

RosyDaysAhead · 09/05/2026 09:02

Neurospicy household - this is normal for us, and for many more homes with neurodiverse people! The fact he thinks it’s normal is like “ding ding we have another member” in my head.

any chance he is adhd or asd? cos yeah, that is normal for us!

CurlewKate · 09/05/2026 08:48

Wingingit73 · 09/05/2026 05:30

Liberating. Friday Night Dinner 😁

He wasn’t supposed to be a role model!

Just3aday · 09/05/2026 08:33

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CurlewKate · 09/05/2026 07:06

Boxers and a t shirt is fine.

Wingingit73 · 09/05/2026 05:30

Liberating. Friday Night Dinner 😁

Katemax82 · 09/05/2026 05:08

whywonthelisten · 08/05/2026 17:04

But how are pants and shorts different? 😂They cover his arse, his penis and his balls... surely that's all that matters??

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My husband's pants are like a jock strap with an arse section. I wouldn't want him to just wear them

Peoplearebloodyidiots · 09/05/2026 04:41

So many prim and uptight people on here.

ForCosyLion · 09/05/2026 03:36

OP's DH answering the door 🤭

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ForCosyLion · 09/05/2026 03:34

Millymollymandy4 · 08/05/2026 19:22

Oh look @ForCosyLion and @Walkyrie

he gets like a Roman toga on his throne! 😂

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Omg! 🤣🤣🤣

ForCosyLion · 09/05/2026 03:29

Whiteheadhouse · 08/05/2026 22:24

God help you OP, talk about about marrying down. Is he house broken at all? How utterly modifying.
yanbu, at all.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Millymollymandy4 · 08/05/2026 22:26

GimmieABreakOr3 · 08/05/2026 21:44

Not quite. It was an old blue check one and no matter how many times I washed it, it always had a musty smell… very odd!!!

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i know the type he hasn’t got fake leather slip on slippers to match has he?

the musty smell is skin deep so to speak 😂

Whiteheadhouse · 08/05/2026 22:24

God help you OP, talk about about marrying down. Is he house broken at all? How utterly modifying.
yanbu, at all.

IsabellaVireauxLaurent · 08/05/2026 22:09

Usernamefuture · 08/05/2026 21:50

Lovely bit of squirrel.

its hot init or im boiling