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Ex unhappy with my FWB after he turned up unannounced

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Exproblem2 · 08/05/2026 14:14

NC’d for this.

Ex DP and I share DS (3). In general, despite separating a couple of years ago our relationship is friendly and grown up.

Ex turned up at mine unannounced earlier this week (as he was ‘in the area’) to drop something off DS left at his.

I have a FWB who I usually see on my child free weekend and he occasionally visits me in the week too. DS is always in bed. FWB hasn’t met him.

FWB was at mine when my Ex knocked. I answered the do myself but it was obvious I wasn’t alone. I then get a text from my Ex to say he thought we agreed we’d inform each other if we were to introduce anyone to DS. I explained that I have stuck to this and no one has met him, nor am I dating anyone. He then said I was wrong to bring a ‘random’ back to mine. I said he isn’t a random and he’s someone I’ve known for years (through nursery/pre school).

I have told him it’s none of his business and asked he doesn’t turn up unannounced again. He didn’t reply to this. Does anyone think I’m in the wrong?

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Jellybunny98 · 08/05/2026 14:27

I wouldn’t be particularly happy at a woman coming round for a shag to be honest if I were separated and my husband did this. Children wake up, especially at 3.

AltitudeCheck · 08/05/2026 14:25

Was DS with you when ex called round and your fwb was there?

Presumably DS could wake and come downstairs and accidentally meet this man?

Not any of ex's business but you entered into an agreement to keep each other in the loop and I can see why he feels you broke this agreement (even though it didn't cover this exact situation).

Not sure why you couldn't just say fwb was a mate though? Ex doesn't need to know the 'wb' part of fwb!

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outerspacepotato · 08/05/2026 14:19

That's none of your business, Don.

And refuse to discuss it with him.

Devondevs · 08/05/2026 14:17

It’s non of his business who you have a FWB relationship with, or an exclusive relationship with for that matter. You’re also not obligated to share that information with him if you don’t wish to.

Does he have a partner? If not he’s likely just jealous.

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