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To think that this person was house angel etc ..

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onlyaparatraik · 08/05/2026 14:04

Just wondering what you think and need your opinion please.
A woman I know very well is soft, loving and kind a home to her husband and family.
she runs the home super efficiently, is a full time SAHM to adults and basically manages her husbands clothes, meals, past times and social life.
Gos friends don’t like her. They accuse her of being controlling, bossy towards him and largely opinionated.
He says she is entirely different at home albeit with a secret alcohol addiction . Secret to outside the family. Relationships were th husband and children are breaking down.
is this the very typical house angel scenario?
I need objectivity please as I’m too close to the family.
just your thoughts please

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CloudyBayPlease · 08/05/2026 14:20

onlyaparatraik · 08/05/2026 14:17

I don’t want to out myself by explaining my relationship to the lady . Im here for your opinions. I would have asked her if it was appropriate. Which is why I’m here instead.

Perhaps write clearly then with a defined point.

House angel? Gos friend? What are you asking?

onlyaparatraik · 08/05/2026 14:17

I don’t want to out myself by explaining my relationship to the lady . Im here for your opinions. I would have asked her if it was appropriate. Which is why I’m here instead.

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Drbbq · 08/05/2026 14:15

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Chersfrozenface · 08/05/2026 14:15

The phrase is "Street angel, house devil". It refers to someone who appears kind, generous, loving in public but who is abusive in the privacy of their own home.

It's a saying that has been used since at least the late 18th century in English.

Drbbq · 08/05/2026 14:14

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Flamingojune · 08/05/2026 14:12

Or street angel house devil etc

Flamingojune · 08/05/2026 14:12

House angel, street devil

SmoothCollie · 08/05/2026 14:11

I haven't a clue what you're talking about but maybe you could explain why this is your business?

SwanRivers · 08/05/2026 14:10

House Angel?

What in God's name is this silly phrase now?

You don't need anyone's thoughts on this because quite frankly it's none of your business.

And if you're going to insist it is then you can go and talk to her about it, and get your answers from her.

onlyaparatraik · 08/05/2026 14:09

Sorry house angel meaning a person is totally different inside the home than when outside the home

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ElfAndSafetyBored · 08/05/2026 14:06

What is a house angel?