Page 4 | To think that this person was house angel etc ..

Gribouille · 08/05/2026 15:11

Thing is, if their marriage suits them both this way, then that's between them.

And if it doesn't suit them, then... nah, that's still between them... 🤷‍♀️

AccordingToWhom · 08/05/2026 15:10

MyCrushWithEyeliner · 08/05/2026 14:55

House Angel made me think of someone who breaks into your home and cleans it

I would LOVE one of those 😆

cantthinkofagoodusername1 · 08/05/2026 15:09

crossedlines · 08/05/2026 15:08

this makes no sense at all. If she manages her dh’s pastimes, how is she behaving wonderfully in the home?

I suspect the husband is lazy and has outsourced everything to his wife.

crossedlines · 08/05/2026 15:08

this makes no sense at all. If she manages her dh’s pastimes, how is she behaving wonderfully in the home?

cantthinkofagoodusername1 · 08/05/2026 15:05

I've read the thread for the third time now, it's very confusing. So if I understand correctly from reading the first part, she is very kind and loving at home to her husband and kids, but husband's friends don't like her. But then OP goes on to say that relationships with husband and children are breaking down.

So which is it?

Regarding the friends, it's possible that husband doesn't want to go out and he lacks the backbone to tell his friends the truth, so he says that his wife won't let him.

SylvanMoon · 08/05/2026 15:02

onlyaparatraik · 08/05/2026 14:53

I cannot stress enough that the lady in question had insisted all through marriage and child raising that she takes control of home/ family life while husband works outside home but is a very involved father and loving husband.

The entire scenario is confusing and becoming even more so with each additional drip feed. I suspect you are the DH in this instance describing your own wife. If so, what are you looking for in terms of advice?

cantthinkofagoodusername1 · 08/05/2026 15:02

People are multi-faceted and behave in different ways in different situations towards different people. I'm still not sure what your question is.

Kinfluencer · 08/05/2026 15:02

onlyaparatraik · 08/05/2026 14:04

Just wondering what you think and need your opinion please.
A woman I know very well is soft, loving and kind a home to her husband and family.
she runs the home super efficiently, is a full time SAHM to adults and basically manages her husbands clothes, meals, past times and social life.
Gos friends don’t like her. They accuse her of being controlling, bossy towards him and largely opinionated.
He says she is entirely different at home albeit with a secret alcohol addiction . Secret to outside the family. Relationships were th husband and children are breaking down.
is this the very typical house angel scenario?
I need objectivity please as I’m too close to the family.
just your thoughts please

I think you are getting muddled
The term is Street Angel House Devil
What this means is she gives the impression of being kind loving housewife -to others but is secretly drinking and terrorises her husband and DC
Its all about presenting a fake face to the world
Highly likely to be narcissistic

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onlyaparatraik · 08/05/2026 15:01

She insisted . It was very important to her that she was a SAHM and it was a financial struggle at times. I am neither MIL nor her.

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cantthinkofagoodusername1 · 08/05/2026 14:58

onlyaparatraik · 08/05/2026 14:53

I cannot stress enough that the lady in question had insisted all through marriage and child raising that she takes control of home/ family life while husband works outside home but is a very involved father and loving husband.

Has she insisted, or is it more like if she doesn't do it then it won't get done? You also have to wonder about the drinking at home, clearly she's not happy there.
I am going to guess that you are the MIL and she is the DIL.

7in1Pond · 08/05/2026 14:57

She has a variety of past times

The catalogue? I used to love that.

Backedoffhackedoff · 08/05/2026 14:56

onlyaparatraik · 08/05/2026 14:53

I cannot stress enough that the lady in question had insisted all through marriage and child raising that she takes control of home/ family life while husband works outside home but is a very involved father and loving husband.

I don’t understand the relevance of this point?

MyCrushWithEyeliner · 08/05/2026 14:55

House Angel made me think of someone who breaks into your home and cleans it

Original poster

onlyaparatraik · 08/05/2026 14:53

I cannot stress enough that the lady in question had insisted all through marriage and child raising that she takes control of home/ family life while husband works outside home but is a very involved father and loving husband.

OP posts:

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onlyaparatraik · 08/05/2026 14:50

She has a variety of past times and a strong social life with friends but only drinks excessively at home.

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LoveYouPickle · 08/05/2026 14:50

Are you this person?

viques · 08/05/2026 14:49

SmoothCollie · 08/05/2026 14:11

I haven't a clue what you're talking about but maybe you could explain why this is your business?

I doubt it. Gossips do gossip, there doesn’t have to be a reason other than spite and nastiness.

cantthinkofagoodusername1 · 08/05/2026 14:48

No one can possibly know except for the people directly involved. It's possible that she is indeed controlling and opinionated, but it's also possible that he thinks these things because he's outsourced all of his life admin to her, and that he thinks women should be quiet little mice without opinions. Who knows?

Celandines · 08/05/2026 14:48

Flamingojune · 08/05/2026 14:12

Or street angel house devil etc

My mum. Although now she's in her 80s she's finding it harder to keep her nasty side hidden, so people outside the home are getting to know the real her.

Anyahyacinth · 08/05/2026 14:47

Is it that the woman expects some companionship for giving her life to her children, husband and home?

The idea that someone wholly loves this role (and finds it completely fulfilling) would be unusual. It is more usual to look back across time see what you've sacrificed and want some recognition, help and support for your next act.

Maybe that's where the numbing alcohol comes into play ?

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onlyaparatraik · 08/05/2026 14:46

Flowersdie · 08/05/2026 14:37

She is an alcoholic and she drinks vodka throughout the day. Sometimes lemon flavour, sometimes peach. However, she paces it so that she can present an angelic persona outside the house. She makes a very good banana bread. And gives a good blowjob. Even Gos agrees with that bit. Hope this helps op.

I think someone’s stolen her vodka ..🥴

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GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 08/05/2026 14:46

I'm sorry but I genuinely don't understand?

Her husband says she's lovely at home, a 'house angel', but he also says she's a secret alcoholic, stops him meeting his friends, and his and their children's relationships with her are breaking down?

That's not someone who is lovely at home?!

MulberryFresser · 08/05/2026 14:45

She could be a covert narcissist.

Backedoffhackedoff · 08/05/2026 14:44

Alcoholics are unpredictable in all sorts of ways and aren’t necessarily going to fit nicknames or behaviour patterns.

im not sure why the situation presents a problem? The man’s friends think she’s abusive and he says not? Surely this is his problem?

the woman is probably bored out of her brain and behaving erratically due to her alcoholism

purpleme12 · 08/05/2026 14:43

I mean it's possible.

Who knows who's right. I don't we can tell