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WIBU to go nc with toxic DSis?

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Chichonian · 08/05/2026 11:39

Dsis, DBil and their baby have announced they are coming to our City to visit and need a place to stay. My partner and I have a small 2 bed flat with open living/kitchen area. Currently we use both bedrooms each night as sleeping separately while we manage nights with our baby (who's under one).

To accomodate entitled Dsis, we have already agreed that my partner and baby will go stay with PIL to free up space in the flat. Dsis and DBil have also insisted they need both bedrooms (not sure why, but I guess that's what me and partner do so fair enough..?)

I also have DS (4) staying with me. He is a ginger BSH cat but i truly consider him part of the family. DS likes to move through the flat at night as he has a strong protective instinct, and cries at closed doors. It breaks my heart. Clearly DS needs to be shut away from baby in the crib in bedroom 1, but I see no reason why he shouldn't have free reign into bedroom 2 while I am upstairs on the sofa. He does tend to beg for food after about 5am (foot nibbling etc.) but thats his prerogative and all totally managable.

Toxic Dsis is insisting now that DS be shut out of both bedrooms at night, and I will be left managing heartbroken, screaming baby boy 😪. This feels like the last straw to me, WIBU to cancel the visit and finally go NC?

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nam3c4ang3 · 10/05/2026 09:38

Ffs I don’t know what going on is the cat being christened?

PieLoe · 10/05/2026 09:33

@DeposedPresidentexactly this

ExtraOnions · 10/05/2026 09:31

Kudos to the OP for

  1. Baiting posters so brilliantly
  2. Perfect Timing with that photo

A comedic genius 👏🏻 👏🏻 …and a great laugh before I head off the church

lifeisgoodrightnow · 10/05/2026 09:28

Catholic Church near me in Spain holds blessing ceremonies for pets …

Ohdearnotthisagain · 10/05/2026 09:24

Oh my holy god, this cannot be real!

Lifesyoungdream · 10/05/2026 09:22

One😂 of the most confusing post I’ve ever read on Mumsnet.

Utopiaqueen · 10/05/2026 09:21

I'm beginning to think the poster is on a wind up. That photo has chatgpt written all over it!

Delici · 10/05/2026 09:15

Is the baby that Dh took to in-laws a human baby? Or a puppy?

Wiseplumant · 10/05/2026 09:08

PinkyFlamingo · 09/05/2026 11:49

I'm beginning to think you are seriously unwell because it sounds like you are mixing up a child and a cat. No sane person would expect a cat to be christened.

Aside from the upset this is causing the op. This post has me pml.

Blueuggboots · 10/05/2026 08:43

Your CAT is not your DS. Nor does it need a blessing or christening.

Blueuggboots · 10/05/2026 08:42

Tell them to fuck off!! Why on earth are you moving heaven and earth for these people?? Bollocks to that. They can get a hotel or an Airbnb.

Sartre · 10/05/2026 08:40

Why would you send your baby and partner away for a few nights so your entitled sister can use your house? It doesn’t even make sense, it isn’t an emergency. Tell her to find an air BnB as others have suggested, the CF.

SomeOtherUser · 10/05/2026 08:37

I voted YABU only because of the "cat is DS" references, and suggesting that guests should put up with being woken at 5am by a cat nibbling their feet (if I understood you correctly?). I agree you should tell your sister they can't stay, but if and when you do have guests, they should be allowed to close their bedroom if they want to.

Movetoacommuneintooting · 09/05/2026 19:43

Wow, not sure what to say OP but glad it all worked out!

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Chichonian · 09/05/2026 19:34

Final update for the thread. Thanks to all those who gave support and positivity

WIBU to go nc with toxic DSis?
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CinderellaGotOld · 09/05/2026 18:30

This has got to be a joke. So it is your daughter’s christening? But your partner and daughter moved out and you slept on the sofa for it so that your sis could take over your house? If it was such a special occasion why would you let them disrupt you enjoying it properly as a family unit? Also you referring to your cat as your son and wanting it christened is insane.

PinkyFlamingo · 09/05/2026 11:49

I'm beginning to think you are seriously unwell because it sounds like you are mixing up a child and a cat. No sane person would expect a cat to be christened.

BMW58 · 09/05/2026 11:44

Let me get this straight.

You refer to DS(4) but say its a CAT?

Diarygirlqueen · 09/05/2026 11:42

What a weird post.

Utopiaqueen · 09/05/2026 11:10

This thread is absolutely mad. Choosing to go no contact with your sister and niece just because you don't have the balls to stand up to yourself in your OWN HOME is about the wettest thing I've ever read.

Regardless of whether she slapped down on the air bnb is beside the point. She doesn't get to decide whether she descends on your home or not far less decide on the sleeping arrangements. Putting your baby and husband out their own home and putting yourself on the sofa is completely insanity. You've only yourself to blame for how the situation panned out and having a hideous nighrs sleep.

What example do you want to set to your daughter? Do you want her to be a complete doormat and always choose the path of least resistance because she can't stand up to herself.

I am with your family though on the blessing. If my sibling had rocked up to my child's christening with their cat, wanting them to get blessed, I'd have absolutely told them to do one while questioning their sanity.

Jackiepumpkinhead · 09/05/2026 10:56

Just tell them no! Honestly, what is wrong with people. Also, your cat isn’t your son 😂

Movetoacommuneintooting · 09/05/2026 10:49

The christening is this weekend then? Today?? Can a cat be added so easily?

Tsundokuer · 09/05/2026 10:47

Chichonian · 09/05/2026 10:14

Ok update for those interested.

I raised Aibnb with toxic DSis and was thoroughly slapped down. I ended up folding and on the Sofa. During the night DSiS did the following

  • Came into the kitchen/living room area to do some kind of food prep at 4am (waking me up)
  • Admitted that she had in fact abandoned the second bedroom and gone into same bed as her DH because it's 'more comfy'
  • Gaslit me into saying that I had in fact had a 'good night sleep'.

DS was my rock through it all, he woke me at 3:45am using his strong guarding instincts. He was clearly so upset by his toxic DAunt, but he's such a lil trooper.

Definitely going fully n/c after this. Can't make a scene at christening but am definitely going to be asserting myself more with toxic Dfamily. I had really wanted DS to receive a blessing at christening but had been nervous about family reaction - no more. Will be calling up the church to arrange.

Thanks all for support 😽

You wanted your cat to have a blessing at the christening?!

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Chichonian · 09/05/2026 10:41

PinkyFlamingo · 09/05/2026 10:20

So? Why are you letting them dictate to you, do you normally let your sister walk all over you? All you need to say is no you're not staying.

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their niece i.e my child so obvs i did technically invite

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Movetoacommuneintooting · 09/05/2026 10:29

Could your sister have been part of a plan to encourage you to prioritise your daughter over your cat?Wink

Just joking! Hope you get more rest tonight.

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