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AIBU to be hurt by this?

31 replies

Zombieof3 · 08/05/2026 09:19

Today is my 30th birthday, I don't go overly wild with birthdays, but when its my partners or the children's I put so much effort in.

Anyway, I already told my partner not to worry about buying me anything as money is tight for us right now, but he hasn't even wished me a happy birthday. I've woken up this morning, he's already in a bad mood and literally has only referenced my birthday by saying don't expect anything you've already celebrated your birthday last week (I went out for drinks last week in advance). I wasn't expecting a massive deal, but a simple happy birthday would have been nice. The only ones who have acknowledged my birthday was my 10 year old and 8 year old. Im probably being really silly, and it is just another day but this has hurt my feelings more than it should have.

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hididdlyho · 08/05/2026 09:36

Is he usually that much of a dick? Costs nothing to wish you a Happy Birthday and he could have done something nice like brought you a coffee in bed and sorted the kids for school. Telling you not to expect anything is needlessly rude and hurtful and feels like he is trying to put you in your place.

IloveJonBonJovi · 08/05/2026 09:34

Happy Birthday Loveky. Your partners a dick head

Mischance · 08/05/2026 09:33

Oh lord - why do we get saddled with these selfish men? They are like overgrown chidlren. I am sorry to hear this but would like to send you birthday wishes ... 🎂

takealettermsjones · 08/05/2026 09:31

He sounds absolutely awful.

Hope you have a wonderful birthday in spite of him. Are you working or can you take yourself off and go and see friends/relatives?

OhCobblers · 08/05/2026 09:26

Happy birthday by the way!! X

OhCobblers · 08/05/2026 09:26

He could have done a whole host of things for you that don’t involve £. He’s a nasty selfish prick. You put all the effort in for everyone else and he can’t be bothered - you should raise your bar OP and expect more for yourself.